prison

[ten_pence]

i have a question everyone,

Are you automatically sent to prison if found guilty of rape?? my head is so mashed as i have been accused of rape with an ex partner 15 years ago.

[Innocentguy1983]

i have a question everyone,

Are you automatically sent to prison if found guilty of rape?? my head is so mashed as i have been accused of rape with an ex partner 15 years ago.

I can completely understand you being confused and contemplating the different type of scenarios they may or may not happen. I did the same thing... its gets better. This is a great forum for information!

From my understanding once you are found guilty of a crime you are then sentenced on a further date which is normally when you are remanded for custody.

Chin up!

[ten_pence]

I can completely understand you being confused and contemplating the different type of scenarios they may or may not happen. I did the same thing... its gets better. This is a great forum for information!

From my understanding once you are found guilty of a crime you are then sentenced on a further date which is normally when you are remanded for custody.

Chin up!

am trying but why after 15 years??? i haven't done anything wrong my life is a mess. am sorry to do all your heads in just can't believe that someone or something can change your life and you have no control over it. my life is in someone elses hands now.

[Innocentguy1983]

am trying but why after 15 years??? i haven't done anything wrong my life is a mess. am sorry to do all your heads in just can't believe that someone or something can change your life and you have no control over it. my life is in someone elses hands now.

I feel for you, I do, I am in the exact same predicament. I saw my FA in asda (She worked there) 3 months prior to my accusation and exchanged pleasantries. I had not seen her for 17 odd years. Next thing I know is im being arrested..

I think she found me on facebook or something, seen I have done well for my self and that I can afford nice things.. and she's looking for a compensation claim.. I mean if your going to do it.. might as well do it when its so hot in the news..

It is important to right anything important down as I had trouble remembering facts from so long ago... also visit your GP they can help a lot.

Start looking for a solicitor that specialises in historical cases.

Don't let her mess your life up, your in-control.

[Don'tbelieveit!]

Hi te pence

As Innocentguy says, and as someone here advised me a while ago, you need to take the control away from them. You need to take control. Write everything down, try and find facts if possible and maybe even witnesses. It's a tough time, but you will learn to cope and we are here for you!

xx

[myhome]

am trying but why after 15 years??? i haven't done anything wrong my life is a mess. am sorry to do all your heads in just can't believe that someone or something can change your life and you have no control over it. my life is in someone elses hands now.

Hi ten_pence - the "why" question is one which we all ask and also probably one which we will never get the answer to. What you feel in the part I have quoted I can completely and utterly empathise with. My FA is from an ex pupil from 23 years ago and I've never seen her, talked to her or had any contact with her whatsoever in all that time - (I am female btw...) I was interrogated by plod in Nov 2012 not arrested or charged or been spoken to by plod since....(complicated). My whole life is dominated by this despite trying hard and being a little successful in getting on with trying to be "normal."

It is a truly horrendous experience - the strength of feelings you have do eventually subside and are replace by others but not so frightening ones. o consult your GP for support. Most of us have found them to very sympathetic and supportive.

Keep asking questions and we'll help all we can......