Really need help people

[michael]

hi there im going through hell as im being accused of rape. heres my honest story.

saturday night (3 weeks ago) i had a free house and my ex 2 lads and another lass came to mine, after watching a film i went to bed but i got followed by my friends and they all allocated a bedroom and my ex followed me. she took her clothes off and i mirrored her. she got into the bed and said "i cant do proper stuff but other stuff yeah?" i then replied "okay"
she then decided to get onto me and started to (excuse the informal language but..) suck me off. after all that had finished she said "what did that mean to you" i said "sorry nothing it was a one night thing" she then replied to that saying "it will get you back one day, i promise you" and then we went out the room. and it was all fine she was laughing and joking with all my other friends. then i went back into the room and a repeat of last time. she did the same thing, and then we went to sleep..

next morning everything was fine and after about 2-3 hours she went home... a few days later about 7-10 days i got a message saying she accused me of rape! i knew this wasnt true at all... and then my friends found out and new it wasnt true, she told all her friends i raped her and she was violently attacked... this didnt happen of coruse, and now my social cadet club (cadets) has found out and she started crying, not saying my name at all... then apparently the police found out about me "raping" her but they havent come and got me to question me about anything yet... and the police found out on thursday which was 4 days ago... she also said to one of my sources that she told the police not to go any further... from what ive told you i want to know what is going to happen, and any advice to give to me, and also your opinion on the situation! thankyou so much for reading this death paragraph!
much apretiated !

[Casehardened]

Hi Michael,

It seems that your ex wanted something from you, (whatever that might be, a reconciliation maybe?) and is annoyed that it didn't happen, hence the verbal onslaught via 'others'.

Are you certain the police are involved, as this may be more 'smoke & mirrors' from the ex; whatever the position, the best advice is probably do nothing for the moment in case it inflames the situation further!

[michael]

Hi Michael,

It seems that your ex wanted something from you, (whatever that might be, a reconciliation maybe?) and is annoyed that it didn't happen, hence the verbal onslaught via 'others'.

Are you certain the police are involved, as this may be more 'smoke & mirrors' from the ex; whatever the position, the best advice is probably do nothing for the moment in case it inflames the situation further!

well she said the police were involved to other people but she said not to take it any further to them (thats what i got told from a valuable source) and thankyou very much, i feel as if my mind is resting now thanks

[michael]

well last friday the police had phoned my mum and said i needed to go to the police station, they didnt say why until we got there
and then when we got there, the dc said i had been accused of rape and need to speak to my ex first
they spoke to my ex yesterday and then spoke to me today with my mums boyfriend, but my question is
she has no evidence, and i have 3 witness's in the house that didnt hear her shouing no, etc, when all she did was (excuse the language ) suck me off, i cant help but think im off to prison? when i havent done anything in personal opinion what would you think would happen? she has no evidence and i have 3 witness's that didnt hear her shouting and in the morning saw me get a hug from her and she had a cup of tea,
i mean the other day she came up to me outside the town centre and offered me a ciggarette...... i think thats enough to say i didnt rape her! PLEASE HELP ME!

[worriedgirl]

hi Michael, I'm new on here but after reading your story just wanted to say Its positive that you have three witnesses to back you up. Seems odd that she would report it to police and then tell them not to take it any further and the lack of evidence should help in my opinion . Good luck and hope it all gets cleared up soon and I'm sure you'll get some good advice and support from members with more experience. WG

[Boys don't cry]

Hi Michael.

Did you have a solicitor present when you spoke to the police today?

Casehardened is right and from what I read your ex wanted you back (or/and maybe revenge).

Even if the 3 witnesses didn't hear her shouting won't defend you but the hug in the morning will.
There is no evidence but if you told the police that she "performed...sex", this is acknowledgement.

This is your word against hers and you must prove that she was consenting.

Write as much as you can (details are extremely important),about the evening when this occurred.

Copy, always update when you remember new information, save on a usb key and keep it somewhere the police won't get.

Only share information with a specialist solicitor.

Stay confident and take care.

[is there justice?]

Michael, great advice from BDC so just wanted to say, stay strong and level-headed.

[myhome]

Hi Michael - BDC has hit the nail on the head as always with great advice.......keep writing down everything you can remember. ANy FB/text messages etc to help?