Husband being accused by sister :(

[Shar]

Hi found the site today after trying find some kind of support .
My partner of 20 years in the last month has been accused of physically raping his sister, where do I start, this roller coaster of dips and fears, the police have not arrested him, and treating it as a historical allegation but social services have put a order of care over my daughter, he this week volunteered a interview with the police and sol present, to give his side of the story, he denies any kind of abuse. She is stating that from the age of 4 - 13 he abused her. The police are still to formally interview her for a statement. Am so confused and lost in what to feel, think.

[Casehardened]

Hello and welcome to the forum, though of course sorry about the circumstances that have brought you here.

I have duplicated your post in this section as it is a false accusation and more members may see it here. We do have many supportive partners on the forum and I'm sure they will be able to offer practical advice with coping.

Does the solicitor your partner consulted have experience in defending false sexual allegations?

[sparks]

Welcome to the forum Shar, but sorry you had to find us.
Its an awful situation but you will get and can read lots of very useful information here, and of course fantastic support, its important to stay strong and focused for the road ahead,
I too have Social worker involvement in my situation, so work with yes but write down or make notes of what they say for future reference, if there is anything your not sure about take advice, and it goes without saying if we can assist we will be here for you.
Sparks.

[is there justice?]

Hello Shar

I'm so sorry yet another person has had to seek this site out but it is a wealth of support and good advice.

[myhome]

Hi Shar - welcome from me too but so sorry you had to find us. It is an awful thing your partner has been accused of. You will get loads of support and advice - practical, legal and emotional on here. It will help you too, to begin to read other threads when you're feeling a bit stronger....

One question that struck me straight away when I read your post was, How did she know it was from the age of 3????????? Most people don't have memories stemming from that age so it suggests to me that someone has prompted her...but I may be wrong - just a thought. Another question - why has she waited so long to make the allegation and what has prompted her to do so now? Financial gain? Spite? Revenge?

What you and your partner need to start doing as soon as you feel able is to write as much as you can about your contact with her over the 20 years you've been together and if your partner can go back further than that, that's great too - eg - family holidays, postcards, birthday/Christmas cards, letters. emails, texts, FB messages (screenshot these) etc so you can begin to build up a picture of her subsequent reactions to and relationship towards her brother....

It's good that he hasn't been arrested yet (I haven't either after nearly 7 months of historical allegation) but that doesn't mean he won't be....

As was mentioned - make sure you get a sol who is specialist in defending historical allegations - if you post your county on the specialist solicitors' thread someone may be able to recommend one - but if not always research their track record before appointing anyone....

In the meantime - keep posting keep strong and we'll keep helping where we can.........MH