Husband wrongfully accused of rape , don't know what to do!

[Dave]

[myhome]

OMG - WAAAAAYYYYY HAAAAAYYYY that is just amazingly fantastic news, just love hitting the bananas.......

[Worried wife]

Thank you everyone. unfortunately I can't believe I'm saying this. But she has done it again.

I really can't cope with this a second time. How are they even allowed to take it seriously?! Please does anyone have any knowledge on circumstances like this?

I don't think it's sunk in I'm utterly bemused.

Ww
X

[lonley place]

WW...What an utterly unbelievable situation. I don't have any answers but I am sending our support in bucket loads
LP

[myhome]

Hells Bells - that is un-bleddy-believable!!!!! surely plod won't take her seriously??? However they do have to investigate. Does your solicitor know? What's his/her thoughts?

That is the problem with NFA - it can be resurrected at any time I believe if new and compelling evidence comes to light...that doesn't mean to say they're going to believe her though and my guess would be that they are going to seriously question why she didn't present this new "evidence" last time round was it deliberately withheld, if so - why? Has she only just "remembered" it? - codswallop!!!

several members have said that the more a FA adds at later dates, the more it damages their case as generally genuine victims remember everything when they first make the allegation.

Easy for me to say - but try not to put too much credence and worry to this new FA - I think plod will be most unlikely to take it seriously - big hugs

[is there justice?]

Thank you everyone. unfortunately I can't believe I'm saying this. But she has done it again.

I really can't cope with this a second time. How are they even allowed to take it seriously?! Please does anyone have any knowledge on circumstances like this?

I don't think it's sunk in I'm utterly bemused.

Ww
X

I absolutely can't believe it! What the H*ll is going on??

I hope in the end she is prosecuted herself!

Big hugs to you both

We aren't relishing a trial but at least it will be finally over and done with (after appeal if necessary)

[saddened]

Thank you everyone. unfortunately I can't believe I'm saying this. But she has done it again.

I really can't cope with this a second time. How are they even allowed to take it seriously?! Please does anyone have any knowledge on circumstances like this?

I don't think it's sunk in I'm utterly bemused.

Ww
X

Unbelievable - I cannot stress strongly enough - You must go and see your MP for his or her support !!!!! You have a real case for this now. xxxx

[Worried wife]

Like you all, just can't believe it!

Thankfully, due to what police told us on how they viewed it when they have us the NFA, we feel less worried it will go anywhere this time. But just want to be left alone. How can someone so relentlessly want to ruin our lives!?

ITJ - as u say they have to investigate it(but how many times?! Can she just keep making accusations as soon as ones dealt with, surely there must be a point when she's a recognised liar) she has bought forward no new evidence, she's just stating it also happened at another time too, one which she failed to mention the first time around. Now hb has to go in and answer more questions(considering he did 5 hours of tapes last time, I don't think there is much more to be said!) but have to wait till Monday for that, so again more heel dragging! He's still only being asked in for a chat, no arrest, charge or bail etc, which also gives a bit of encouragement.

I haven't heard yet what sol has said, although hb did ring up a firm that deals only In false rape accusations, and they said we have no control, as it is such a serious thing , police can't presume any behaviour( ie if it was true she would have said at the initial complaint) as such a heinous crime could cause someone to act in illogical ways. Therefore all allegations have to be looked into and there's nothing to stop her!

Saddened - think we will save all our fight for the allegations , if I thought our mp might help I might muster up the courage and energy which we have little of, however authorities are not very proactive in out area, we have had unwanted scaffolding put up on our apartments for 3 months, and nothing's even been done about something so simple as that.

Just exhausted with it. I am at least back home with my hb now, but should be going on our honeymoon, not dealing with rubbish like this.

Ww x

[cantgiveup]

There are no words to express my disbelief at your situation...as has been said Plod have to take an allegation seriously and investigate...but REALLY, some common sense must be used!

Sending positivity in bucketloads.

Best wishes, CGU xx

[whatsgoingon?]

So sorry your having this additional stress, WW. There really isn't a grain of humanity in the procedings.

Keep strong, you've been amazing.

[Worried wife]

Pleased to say that everything has been dropped for a second time today. Also been confirmed to us that both are NC not NFA so good news all round on that front. When FA was called by police to be told the news, she tried to make yet another allegation. Thankfully they informed her they are not interested and she isn't allowed to make any more allegations towards my hb and will be arrested immediately if she contacts him. She is also having an assessment visit tomorrow to decide what happens to her regarding her mental state.

I pray that this is the end of it now, but I am a little doubtful as its clear she has a relentless want to ruin our lives !

We have the option to go forward with PTCJ but we are unsure. It's likely that she will get off due to diminished responsibility, unless she cracks and admits which is possible, and we don't want to give her the satisfaction of a 'victory' ( she think , in her own words, she is 'the all powerful one'). Additionally we would like to move on, and don't want the reminder of it dragging on for months.

I will keep u all updated on how we move forward, in case it is of any use to anyone. And please do let me know if anyone has any advice on taking it forward.

Thank you again a million times over for your continued support and I hope I don't have to post anymore bad news this time !

WW x

[myhome]

Hi WW - more fantastic news - ESPECIALLY the No Crime bit and that she's been told not to make any more - both of which mean it's over for ever so here's some more for that.....

With regard to following up PTCJ - only you 2 can make that decision. It's understandable that you would want to - I think we all would - but like you say it could drag on for months and it could stop you rebuilding your lives. If i have a decision like that to be made I write down all the pros and cons of both actions and weigh them up. Sometimes seeing them writen down helps to make the decision clearer.

all good luck and good wishes to you both.............

[lonley place]

Hi WW so pleased to hear this, and No Crime'd too !!!
Excellent News LPx

[Dave]

[whatsgoingon?]

Twice in one day! You both deserve second helpings!