Hello,
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Two weeks before we were due to marry, a girl who worked for my now husband accused him of rape. She had a few problems and both of us had been trying to help her, predominantly my husband. But it now seems clear that she had feelings towards him. She has a strong history of family and emotional problems, which we didn't know the extent of when offering her our support.
Needless to say I know he wouldn't do anything like this, and we are both distraught.
The police asked him to come in for questioning saying that she'd accused him of harassment , and when he got there they informed him that she had also claimed solicitation and rape. He was not not has he been arrested or charged, and was free to leave at any time.
After hours of being interviewed, he came home (completely free, not on bail or subject to any conditions)
We weren't sure what to do, and many police friends and solicitor told us that it was clear from their actions that the police were not taking it seriously and just had to 'tick the boxes'. We therefore decided to go ahead with our wedding as we did not want to give the girl any satisfaction of affecting us. We have now been married 5 weeks and the accusation is still ongoing, with the police only working on this case now and then due to 'lack of resources'. We are both really struggling and in absolute turmoil my husband is finding it so hard to be around anybody he asked me to stay elsewhere to give him space. We've now been apart 3 weeks and only seen each other once. I don't know what to do, I don't want to loose my husband and I just wish they would drop this so at least he could forget about the fear of being charged and focus on getting our lives back on track.
Are there any wives/ girlfriends out there , or husbands/ boyfriends that have experienced this or can offer any advice?
Thank you
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Two weeks before we were due to marry, a girl who worked for my now husband accused him of rape. She had a few problems and both of us had been trying to help her, predominantly my husband. But it now seems clear that she had feelings towards him. She has a strong history of family and emotional problems, which we didn't know the extent of when offering her our support.
Needless to say I know he wouldn't do anything like this, and we are both distraught.
The police asked him to come in for questioning saying that she'd accused him of harassment , and when he got there they informed him that she had also claimed solicitation and rape. He was not not has he been arrested or charged, and was free to leave at any time.
After hours of being interviewed, he came home (completely free, not on bail or subject to any conditions)
We weren't sure what to do, and many police friends and solicitor told us that it was clear from their actions that the police were not taking it seriously and just had to 'tick the boxes'. We therefore decided to go ahead with our wedding as we did not want to give the girl any satisfaction of affecting us. We have now been married 5 weeks and the accusation is still ongoing, with the police only working on this case now and then due to 'lack of resources'. We are both really struggling and in absolute turmoil my husband is finding it so hard to be around anybody he asked me to stay elsewhere to give him space. We've now been apart 3 weeks and only seen each other once. I don't know what to do, I don't want to loose my husband and I just wish they would drop this so at least he could forget about the fear of being charged and focus on getting our lives back on track.
Are there any wives/ girlfriends out there , or husbands/ boyfriends that have experienced this or can offer any advice?
Thank you
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