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Firstly I have to admit that I was unfaithful to my partner on a night out. I feel ashamed of this obviously and she does not suspect anything now. I cannot bear tell her as if I see her in a bad way it will make me worse!
My life was pretty much turned upside down last week. I had been out with friends in a pub and quite late on when all but one had left I got speaking to a girl. We both had been drinking but I would not say either of us was very drunk. Within a very quick timeframe she was asking me to take her back to mine for sex. I was a little taken aback but with the drink I agreed.
We went back and had consensual sex and at no point did she tell me to stop. Once finished, I got ready and said she had to leave which she reluctantly did eventually. This was down to my guilt and I just wanted her out.
She was a little lost so I walked her back to the pub to try and find her friend who had left by this stage. It later turned out that her friend was quite worried for her as she quickly left with me and had reported her missing. I flagged a taxi and after refusing to go back home with her I even paid the taxi as she had not enough money.
Fast forward a couple of days and I get a call in work saying the police want to have a chat with me. This was done discreetly and nobody in work found out. I was taken to the station that afternoon making excuses to my colleagues that I had something urgent to attend. In the station I was fingerprinted and DNA sampled etc I then requested the duty solicitor who took a couple of hours to show up but was fortunate enough that he had dealt with cases like this before and was a criminal solicitor.
The woman in question told police that sex was initially consensual but during intercourse she removed this consent. This is not true and I cannot understand why she would putrid through this.
The police did not take samples from where this happened as nobody contests that sex happened. They did take photographs though and where discreet about this. Before the interview happened they said I would be back out on bail within about 5 hours. This is what happened.
The interview with police lasted less than 1 hour and I answered everything true fully.
At the end of the interview my solicitor told me I can do nothing but but wait the 8 weeks before I return for bail. I have not slept, eaten or been able to go to toilet properly since but this is the least if my worry. I am deeply worried and any advice would be appreciated.
What hurts me more is keeping this from my partner. The solicitor and the 2 police officers after questioning advised against telling her as it might make things worse for me!
Do I need to wait until charged before doing anything and should I find a different solicitor now?
I have changed a couple of the details above as I do not want to identify myself or anyone else.
Hope someone can offer advice.
My life was pretty much turned upside down last week. I had been out with friends in a pub and quite late on when all but one had left I got speaking to a girl. We both had been drinking but I would not say either of us was very drunk. Within a very quick timeframe she was asking me to take her back to mine for sex. I was a little taken aback but with the drink I agreed.
We went back and had consensual sex and at no point did she tell me to stop. Once finished, I got ready and said she had to leave which she reluctantly did eventually. This was down to my guilt and I just wanted her out.
She was a little lost so I walked her back to the pub to try and find her friend who had left by this stage. It later turned out that her friend was quite worried for her as she quickly left with me and had reported her missing. I flagged a taxi and after refusing to go back home with her I even paid the taxi as she had not enough money.
Fast forward a couple of days and I get a call in work saying the police want to have a chat with me. This was done discreetly and nobody in work found out. I was taken to the station that afternoon making excuses to my colleagues that I had something urgent to attend. In the station I was fingerprinted and DNA sampled etc I then requested the duty solicitor who took a couple of hours to show up but was fortunate enough that he had dealt with cases like this before and was a criminal solicitor.
The woman in question told police that sex was initially consensual but during intercourse she removed this consent. This is not true and I cannot understand why she would putrid through this.
The police did not take samples from where this happened as nobody contests that sex happened. They did take photographs though and where discreet about this. Before the interview happened they said I would be back out on bail within about 5 hours. This is what happened.
The interview with police lasted less than 1 hour and I answered everything true fully.
At the end of the interview my solicitor told me I can do nothing but but wait the 8 weeks before I return for bail. I have not slept, eaten or been able to go to toilet properly since but this is the least if my worry. I am deeply worried and any advice would be appreciated.
What hurts me more is keeping this from my partner. The solicitor and the 2 police officers after questioning advised against telling her as it might make things worse for me!
Do I need to wait until charged before doing anything and should I find a different solicitor now?
I have changed a couple of the details above as I do not want to identify myself or anyone else.
Hope someone can offer advice.
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