Not again... Why is this happening

[Innocentguy1983]

Hi everyone

I'm feeling quite down at the moment. Let me tell you my story.

I was accused of rape 6 years ago and nothing came of it as there was no DNA evidence when there should be for what I was accused of. I think it's called nfa...

Since then life has been great, i have married my long term UNi girlfriend and have moved into a lovely home. I have a great job and we are thinking of starting a family.

3 months ago I bumped into an old childhood friend of my sisters that I haven't seen for nearly 15 years. She worked in my local asda where I live, we had a brief exchange of words which were pleasant enough.

2 weeks ago the police arrested me for raping her, apparently it happend for over a 5 year period when I was 11-16. And she was 5-10. First off I was shocked as her whole family and mine where so close. Infact I don't remember seeing her at all from the age of 13 onwards..

I won't lie.. When we were younger there was some minor experimentation, but at the time i didn't know what we were doing and it was literally nothing, touched my penis with a finger. From memory.. She was the one that asked me!!

I didnt rape or masturbation or anything I would deem of a sexual nature now. I was 11 for Christ sake.

I'm scared as I have previously been accused of a horrible thing even though it wasn't founded..

I have told my wife the whole truth about everything and she knows I wouldn't do anything like this.

We're scared it's going to ruin our dreams...

The acuser has no proof... Just an old historic allegation...the victims sister has admited to the police I never did anything to her or any of my other sisters friends. There were always people around!

If I had of done anything why not tell anyone over 5 years, it's complete ****.

I think she wants compensation as working in asda isn't inspiring... No offence that people that do..

Anyway.. It's good to vent..

I am awaiting to hear back from the cps.. I hope it don't go to trial.. I don't want to lose my job.

The officer says he should here back fairly soon.. I don't know if that's good or bad...

[lonley place]

Hi & Welcome, Sorry you have to be here though.
Historical allegations are rife and in the news most days at the moment and imo many are jumping on the bandwagon.
Don't panic and try to keep level headed, its good you have your wife to support you and help you cope with this horrid situation.
You have come to the right place for support, there are wonderful people here who will offer any help they can.
While you are waiting for a decision from the oic/cps try and remember as much as you can from the time of the alleged incident and
write it down while its fresh in your mind.
Others will be along soon. I am always around to offer support. LP

[Innocentguy1983]

Hi LP

Thanks for the kind and words.

Your quite right historic allegations is indeed the hot topic on the news!

I will do as you say and right a list of what I can remember.

Thanks again.

I hate the waiting

[scaredwife]

Hi innocentguy

So sorry that you had to find us, but as lonely place has said you will find an abundance of support and kindness from all of us. My husband was also accused of a historic offence. I stuck by him as I knew he would never have done what he was accused of, so I completely understand both yours and your wifes feelings.

Unfortunately the waiting is the hardest part of all these situations, many others will be able to give you better advice than me because I have not lived it personally. Did you have a solicitor when you were interviewed? If this goes any further I'd recommend finding a solicitor and barrister who specialise in these cases (there is a special thread with recommended people on).

Good luck!! We are all here to help you

[lonley place]

The waiting drove my hubby to distraction at times, The solution for us was to keep life as it was before
carry on doing what we have always done. Its always there at the back of your mind but keeping busy helps.
We allowed ourselves a set amount of time to talk about the investigation and once that time was finished we did other things.
Its hard I know, but don't let the allegation rule your life, keep a grip on some sort of normality. LP

[Innocentguy1983]

Hi scaredwife

Stupidly I didn't have a solicitor when I was interviewed.. I didn't think I had done anything wrong.

However I contacted someone at Marymonsoon who seem quite good. Have you heard of them, apparently they don't charge you either..

They said I had to wait.

At the end of the day it will be her word against mine.. Is that enough for prove beyond reasonable doubt...

Though I have a lot of witnesses which will be good if it comes to court. My sister and her friends were always around. The accusers sister would come round and she has already Said to the police that I did nothing to her or her cousins...

After the police interviewed me they went to my mum an sister whilst I was detained and they basically collaborated everything I said to them which is good. So I can't been seen to influence evidence.

I just get so angry... I just want to be left alone!

Thanks for your kind words though it means a lot!

[myhome]

Hi and welcome - sorry you're here though - you've been great advice already and indeed as LP and sw say - you'll get loads of help advice and support on here....
With regard to specialist solicitors - there is a thread on those - if you post up your area (county will do) someone can usually recommend one....I'd be a bit wary about the one you mentioned who says they don't charge!!!! Why don't they? are they really going to do months and months of top class work that'll mean the difference between NG and you going to prison??? I've been quoted between £12000 and £42000 on enquiring costs!!!!!
Also the advice on here is - especially with historical allegations - to get a solicitor who specialises in defending historical sexual abuse cases; and yes - her evidence is - "He did it." You evidence is, "No I didn't." Then the barristers enter into a tug of war with witnesses presided over by the judge who hopefully makes sure everyone plays fair, and then 12 people who've been listening to all this decide whose story they believe!!!!!! They do have sense and can pick out the wheat from the chaff and get to the right decision.......
Don't say anything to the police without your solicitor - police need to bump up their conviction statistics and meet targets - so their interest is in finding enough mythical evidence to bring a charge.
As for historical accusations - flavour of the month - mine is from 23 years ago - allegedly - been waiting 6 months now - no arrest no charge.....

Keep strong....