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    Morning all.

    I find myself here this morning after being falsely (to me) accused of rape last night.

    I was in bed yesterday morning and heard a abanging on the door. Went downstairs in my boxers and saw someone peeping through the glass panel on the door. Went to the kitchen which has an open window to the front and asked who they were. (5 of them there)

    The gentleman said he's from Essex police and could he come in for a minute. I said sure, however they had to use the back door as my keys were with my daughter who had stayed with her cousins for the night accross the road. They did come through the back and when he came in told me I had been accused of rape, so he was arresting me under suspicion as someone had come forward to say I had raped them and also possesed child pornography. I asked who by. He mentioned my exes name and my words to him were, along the lines, lets crack on with it, I know why this is happening.

    I was allowed to dress up as I was in my boxers and taken to xxx police station. I had called my daughter over from across the road as I was allowed to and she came to open the door and stayed with the rest of the police who searched the house. (She's 14 by the way)

    When I got to the police station, I was 'processed', put in a cell and not long afterwards was interviewed as I asked to get on with it and felt I didnt need a lawyer telling the truth. I also knew anything of such did not happen, I dont posess any child pornorgraphy (even that sounds sick typing it out like that) and if they went through my PC, phone or tablet, will realise I dont and will never posess such images.

    Anyway, to cut a long story short, I was accused by my ex I broke up from 18 months ago. We bought a house together, had a fairly okay life but when we were together she never seemed to not be in debt. She stole from me, and even from her family. When we bought the house, I put a deposit of £30k she borrowed £10k off her parents. With the intention of paying her parents back. I even gave her money in cash to give her parents back which she never game them and she was a cheat! Also, she got caught stealing from work which became a police case and was found guilty. I was arrested but exonerated as I had nothing to do with it. She would order ink cartridges at work and have them delivered to the home in my name and sign for them. I was working on the Olympics site at the time so my movements were easily accounted for.

    Eventually I'd had enough and called it off. She wanted us to continue I refused and her parting words were, I will make your life hell. My reply at the time was
    My destiny is not in your hands. God is for me, God is not against me, I am not a bad person so the truth will always prevail!

    When she left, I offered her £1k to walk away from the house due to all the monies I'd paid, mortgage arrears, thefts of my money and she told me to feck off. Her solicitors will be in touch. Please bear with me, there is a reason for this disclosure

    Anyway, got my own solicitors and it turns out (my solicitors found this out), she had been made bankrupt while with me and she had a charging order in her name for £21k on the house which I did not know about. That is all we thought. On the discovery of this, even if the house was sold with arrears, she would never get a penny as the house value had stayed stagnant.

    This was made known to her solicitors and I think after advice knew she couldnt get a penny decided that she would walk provided the charging orders on the house would be sorted! Provided she wouldnt have to shell any money out

    We were in the middle of sorting this when another charging order was now found out in both our names. I knew that since we had signed the deeds for the house, I had never signed anything else so how come an order was put on the house in my name. Solictor got a copy of this and lo and behold, signature had been forged and her sisters had stood as witnesses. I called her sister immediately and she said, she never signed anything. COuldnt get hold of her other sister.

    As this was unfolding, my solicitor advised to report this to the police which I did on 23rd of March. Obviously in my opinion, this has acted as a catalyst to the allegations of rape as I was told she would be arrested.

    Most of what I've said above was mentioned in my interview yesterday and a lot more which is too long to write abut but....

    Now here I am with an accusation of rape and having indecent pictures around my neck. I'm not that way inclined, never have done, never will..

    I was bailed to return on August the 4th slightly after the interview. Now the waiting begins. Couldnt sleep last night but I have a great family and great friends around me. I will be strong and hope the police can see this for all it is.

    Funny how she accuses me of raping her in 2004/5 when we first met and decided to stay with me till 2011???


    Now, should I see a solicitor or just wait till August?

    I am ringing my solicitor dealing with the house how the wounded have replied by 9 this morning though
    Last edited by RFLH; 13 May 2013, 09:21 AM. Reason: removal of possible identifying information

  • #2
    Originally posted by ItsSoEasyToAccuse View Post
    Morning all.

    I find myself here this morning after being falsely (to me) accused of rape last night.

    I was in bed yesterday morning and heard a abanging on the door. Went downstairs in my boxers and saw someone peeping through the glass panel on the door. Went to the kitchen which has an open window to the front and asked who they were. (5 of them there)

    The gentleman said he's from Essex police and could he come in for a minute. I said sure, however they had to use the back door as my keys were with my daughter who had stayed with her cousins for the night accross the road. They did come through the back and when he came in told me I had been accused of rape, so he was arresting me under suspicion as someone had come forward to say I had raped them and also possesed child pornography. I asked who by. He mentioned my exes name and my words to him were, along the lines, lets crack on with it, I know why this is happening.

    I was allowed to dress up as I was in my boxers and taken to xxx police station. I had called my daughter over from across the road as I was allowed to and she came to open the door and stayed with the rest of the police who searched the house. (She's 14 by the way)

    When I got to the police station, I was 'processed', put in a cell and not long afterwards was interviewed as I asked to get on with it and felt I didnt need a lawyer telling the truth. I also knew anything of such did not happen, I dont posess any child pornorgraphy (even that sounds sick typing it out like that) and if they went through my PC, phone or tablet, will realise I dont and will never posess such images.

    Anyway, to cut a long story short, I was accused by my ex I broke up from 18 months ago. We bought a house together, had a fairly okay life but when we were together she never seemed to not be in debt. She stole from me, and even from her family. When we bought the house, I put a deposit of £30k she borrowed £10k off her parents. With the intention of paying her parents back. I even gave her money in cash to give her parents back which she never game them and she was a cheat! Also, she got caught stealing from work which became a police case and was found guilty. I was arrested but exonerated as I had nothing to do with it. She would order ink cartridges at work and have them delivered to the home in my name and sign for them. I was working on the Olympics site at the time so my movements were easily accounted for.

    Eventually I'd had enough and called it off. She wanted us to continue I refused and her parting words were, I will make your life hell. My reply at the time was
    My destiny is not in your hands. God is for me, God is not against me, I am not a bad person so the truth will always prevail!

    When she left, I offered her £1k to walk away from the house due to all the monies I'd paid, mortgage arrears, thefts of my money and she told me to feck off. Her solicitors will be in touch. Please bear with me, there is a reason for this disclosure

    Anyway, got my own solicitors and it turns out (my solicitors found this out), she had been made bankrupt while with me and she had a charging order in her name for £21k on the house which I did not know about. That is all we thought. On the discovery of this, even if the house was sold with arrears, she would never get a penny as the house value had stayed stagnant.

    This was made known to her solicitors and I think after advice knew she couldnt get a penny decided that she would walk provided the charging orders on the house would be sorted! Provided she wouldnt have to shell any money out

    We were in the middle of sorting this when another charging order was now found out in both our names. I knew that since we had signed the deeds for the house, I had never signed anything else so how come an order was put on the house in my name. Solictor got a copy of this and lo and behold, signature had been forged and her sisters had stood as witnesses. I called her sister immediately and she said, she never signed anything. COuldnt get hold of her other sister.

    As this was unfolding, my solicitor advised to report this to the police which I did on 23rd of March. Obviously in my opinion, this has acted as a catalyst to the allegations of rape as I was told she would be arrested.

    Most of what I've said above was mentioned in my interview yesterday and a lot more which is too long to write abut but....

    Now here I am with an accusation of rape and having indecent pictures around my neck. I'm not that way inclined, never have done, never will..

    I was bailed to return on August the 4th slightly after the interview. Now the waiting begins. Couldnt sleep last night but I have a great family and great friends around me. I will be strong and hope the police can see this for all it is.

    Funny how she accuses me of raping her in 2004/5 when we first met and decided to stay with me till 2011???


    Now, should I see a solicitor or just wait till August?

    I am ringing my solicitor dealing with the house how the wounded have replied by 9 this morning though
    I would contact your solicitor as soon as possible. I also think it's quite beneficial for you that you have had dealings with your solicitor about your ex in the past. I also think it will help you to discuss with him what the procedure is now and for him to chase things up on your behalf to hurry the police along if he can? I dont know if that's possible but worth a try. The reason I am saying this is because the waiting is agonising and I would want to spare you as much of that as possible. Also, does your daughter live with you? I know that for some people that can become an issue in terms of social services becoming involved. I don't want to scare you with that as I am sure you feel **** enough already, so it may be worth your while running that by your solicitor as well. I dont really know the legal implications ot be honest so someone else will no doubt be able to help you out with that on here, like Rights Fighter.

    It's great that you have people around you who are supportive and I really hope things turn out ok for you. If you want a friendly chat inbox me at any time. x

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    • #3
      Originally posted by tiftaf View Post
      I would contact your solicitor as soon as possible. I also think it's quite beneficial for you that you have had dealings with your solicitor about your ex in the past. I also think it will help you to discuss with him what the procedure is now and for him to chase things up on your behalf to hurry the police along if he can? I dont know if that's possible but worth a try. The reason I am saying this is because the waiting is agonising and I would want to spare you as much of that as possible. Also, does your daughter live with you? I know that for some people that can become an issue in terms of social services becoming involved. I don't want to scare you with that as I am sure you feel **** enough already, so it may be worth your while running that by your solicitor as well. I dont really know the legal implications ot be honest so someone else will no doubt be able to help you out with that on here, like Rights Fighter.

      It's great that you have people around you who are supportive and I really hope things turn out ok for you. If you want a friendly chat inbox me at any time. x
      Thanks TifTaf,

      I already have contacted my solicitor as I said I would at 9.00am this morning. He told me to hold still as I hadnt been charged and get in touch with the PC at the police station where the fraud was reported. He said he'd point me in the direction of a decent criminal lawyer if the need did arise and his reaction to it all was...you did mention this and considering his findings so far on the mortgage, he's not surprised either. Apparently the fraud investigation PC had a chat with my solicitor on Thurs last week, so as I said earlier, this has been the catalyst for these accusations IMO.

      I have tried to get in touch with the fraud PC and emailed him as I have his email address but am yet to hear back. Meanwhile, I have asked IT at work for backlogs of emails I may have to build up a picture of who we are dealing with here as there are emails I have confirming some of the things mentioned above

      My daughter was with me for the weekend as she normally does and her mum is cool anyway and heard of the accusations. She is in shock too and cant beleive it either and made my daughter stay with me for the rest of the week just to keep me company

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      • #4
        oh lord, there's no end to vengeance it seems. I think her motive is clearly visible and you haven't been charged as yet.

        Don't underestimate the initial shock and worry - it really can be crippling. Hope it's all sorted for the good soon.

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        • #5
          It amazes me that people have it in them to destroy others like this, it is not just the accused they attack but their entire family and friends too, until this happened to me I had absolutely no understanding of how easy it was to destroy someone with a few words.

          Stay strong, believe the truth will out and accept support. Some days will be better than others, but use the better days as a benchmark to improve on.

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          • #6
            Thank you both for your kind words.

            Considering I have already been exonerated on one case before, as stated above, provided those investigating this are thorough, I have a belief that the truth will prevail. I have done nothing. All the accusations of child porn will easily be dismissed. From there onwards I believe it will be a case of her word against mine.

            Fortunately for me, I have never deleted one email in my inbox at work from around 2002. Its been an emotional roller coaster reading through some of them today and the picture she paints of herself with all the begging and forgiveness and even lies she told about me I found out at the interview is all on record in one form or another as I have emails showing countering this. I believe I'm quite strong willed and will overcome this horrible horrible saga at some point.

            Obviously its extremely difficult to fathom why one human being can do this to another but I will still never lose my faith in the human race especially women.

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            • #7
              Hi ISETA,

              Sorry to read this, bad enough to find that she has plunged you into debt without the rape accusation on top!

              She seems to have turned you over for many thousands of pounds, have you any idea what she wanted the money for, or indeed where it has gone? Not prying, as there is no need to tell us, but unless it was for a worthy cause such as supporting the RSPCA, this information may well help you to highlight her motive for the accusation.
              'What doesn't kill you makes you stronger'

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              • #8
                an awful situation to find yourself in - but it seems like already you are gathering a great deal of evidence which will really help a defence case for you should it get that far.....only thing I can add is to make sure the solicitors you deal with are specialists in their respective fields
                Keep strong -
                "Only love can light the mirror of your soul" - Chris de Burgh

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                • #9
                  Hello ISETA and welcome.

                  I have been in a similar position, my ex stealing thousands of pounds because of our naivety: (trust, love,....).
                  It served me right because I used it in Court and have been found not guilty.

                  So keep faith because you already found the motives for the false allegation.
                  Try to collect evidence by yourself :Bank statements, cheques,...and only share them with a solicitor but not the police.

                  All the best.
                  Last edited by Boys don't cry; 13 May 2013, 09:12 PM.
                  Non,je ne regrette rien.

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                  • #10
                    Carry round a small note book and as things come back to you write it down,as time goes by and plod sit round doing sod all but torturing you,your mind will wonder so be prepared.
                    Things to remember - They are NOT on your side and are not interested in the truth,the only thing they are intersted in is trying to get enough evidence together to convince a jury you are guilty. Do not talk to them again without legal represetation. Find a specialst solicitor and have him prepared(usualy they will advice over the phone free for the first hour) and by specialist I do mean a specialist in sexual cases.
                    Use social networks such as facebook to gather information and take screenshots.
                    Be prepared for a long long wait and the posibillity of being rebailed at least a couple of times.

                    Keep busy and don't let them beat you down.

                    Take care

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                    • #11
                      To all above,

                      Thank you for your advice and kind words. I really do appreciate it. Some pretty good advice on here. I think I will get in touch with one of the solicitors recommended on here as well for sure and I think the front runner is Chris Saltrese.
                      Incidentally, I found out not quite ten minutes ago that she was arrested for the fraud about the charge on the house mentioned above at the back end of last week.

                      It's pretty obvious and certain that this is the catalyst for these vindictive allegations. I know what she is like and though I want to be angry, I find myself feeling sorry for such a human being to be so sick, vengeful and twisted!

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                      • #12
                        Chris Saltrese represented me with Tanya and they are super. You can't get any better.

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                        • #13
                          I've seen Tanya in action when I went to billyka's trial - she is just amazing.... If mine ever gets that far - she's who I'd want defending me - (especially having seen the prosecuting barrister who was a complete numpty - can't imagine the horror of finding the person I'd chosen to be that useless!!!!!!)
                          "Only love can light the mirror of your soul" - Chris de Burgh

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by ItsSoEasyToAccuse View Post
                            To all above,

                            Thank you for your advice and kind words. I really do appreciate it. Some pretty good advice on here. I think I will get in touch with one of the solicitors recommended on here as well for sure and I think the front runner is Chris Saltrese.
                            Incidentally, I found out not quite ten minutes ago that she was arrested for the fraud about the charge on the house mentioned above at the back end of last week
                            .

                            It's pretty obvious and certain that this is the catalyst for these vindictive allegations. I know what she is like and though I want to be angry, I find myself feeling sorry for such a human being to be so sick, vengeful and twisted!

                            I work for Chris Saltrese. The fraud and the rest of the evidence relating to the charges on the house (unbeknown to you) will be very helpful of course.

                            Which part of the UK are you in? The county will do.
                            People Appealing Convictions of Sexual Offences ~http://www.pacso.co.uk

                            PAFAA details ~ https://pacso.co.uk/pafaa-people-aga...ions-of-abuse/

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Rights Fighter View Post
                              I work for Chris Saltrese. The fraud and the rest of the evidence relating to the charges on the house (unbeknown to you) will be very helpful of course.

                              Which part of the UK are you in? The county will do.
                              Hi RightsFighter.

                              Sorry for the late reply. I have been away for the school half term with my daughter and my fantastic understanding girlfriend.

                              I am based in Thurrock, Essex. I guess this might be too far away for you guys but would love to have a chat with you. I checked after my post above where you were based after the fact and it doesn't seem to be close to me (Ouch!! Merseyside). I''ve also been advised to get a solictor by most of my friends to hurry the police up as they still have my phone, laptop and tablet which I use for work and my life really.

                              On another note / development.

                              While I was away. I got a distressed phone call from my daughters mum (we broke up about 10 years ago before dating the monster who accused me) that she had been contacted by social services and had been scared somehow by them saying to her they might have to put our daughter under child protection because of the allegations made against me.

                              She also just rang to warn me in case I got stopped at the airport on our way back and tell me they wanted to interview my daughter. Obviously this put a downer on the holiday for me as I wasn't expecting this.

                              To cut a long story short, my daughter and her mum were interviewed this Saturday gone and she told them she knew of it immediately it happened as my daughter was with me at the time of the arrest. She also told them in no uncertain terms that she has no belief whatsoever in the accusations and does not consider our daughter to be at any kind of risk as even though we broke up all those years ago, we are still good friends and knows the hell this woman put me through. (I did speak to her about it occasionally)

                              My daughter also told them how it is between us and sang my praises!

                              The outcome

                              They decided to close the case on their end immediately and refer their findings back to the police.

                              At least thats another battle out of the way.
                              Last edited by ItsSoEasyToAccuse; 3 June 2013, 11:26 AM.

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