My husband has been stupid and engaged in a very flirty, kissy, huggy relationship with a member of his staff last year. They put a full stop to it last year. The woman certainly encouraged him but he was an idiot to be flattered and respond. We work together and I did have suspicions and a few arguments with him about it though he denied anything was going on. Sometimes you just know, though.
I warned him he was making a rod for his back and she was manipulating him. Without being mean I couldn't see what her interest in him was as she had a fiancé (although of very dubious character and heavily in debt). We only have a small business, it certainly isn't a goldmine.
She walked out of work because I asked her to make some progress repaying some money she owed. I felt her response was contrived. Later that afternoon she returned with her fiancé who said ‘they were going to close us down and ruin our reputation’ and that Hub had subjected her to a long campaign of sexual harassment and wait to hear from their solicitors. I took this to mean a constructive dismissal case but we had heard nothing.
Last Friday my Hub was arrested and later charged for sexual harassment and 3 counts of sexual assault which he thinks refers to touching her breasts when they have embraced. Her evidence is a supporting statement from her fiancé and her best friend. Really, she waited so long to deal with it? She begged us to employ her fiancé at one point but I refused as I know too much adverse info about him.
Our solicitor says this is the very low level of the scale even if convicted but because hub was her boss, it could be serious and lead to signing the SOR and a conviction, possibly jail but probably not. It will certainly ruin his reputation.
He doesn’t deny that he responded to her advances and flirtiness but he didn’t embrace or kiss her against her will. I have seen her approach hub and touch him in quite an intimate way on the chest on more than one occasion which caused subsequently rows between me and hub. There are pages of other minor things that support hub’s response, photos where she’s posed for him (not sexual but why would she pose at all?). She used to ask her daughter to wait in the back office after school if she was out even if Hub was the only one in. I doubt she’d do that if she thought she was being harassed or assaulted.
Why would she make these FAs? Financial gain will be a big motive, closing us down could lead to more business for her (although they have no money and no experience and will probably go bust anyway) and she may think this makes the restrictive covenant unenforceable.
I am furious with Hub as I feel he has cheated on me but I’m damned if I will let a woman bring these FAs because it undermines those people with genuine cases. Even in my anger I know he hasn’t done anything malicious or unwanted. However he can’t, and won’t, deny they have had some contact.
I’m writing a lengthy statement to the solicitor with lots of examples, emails between them, etc. She left her hub for her fiance and we have a great letter from her fiance's wife about fiance with copies of thousands of pounds worth of debt. If the sol gets enough stuff to cause doubt, especially that we have definitive proof that she has been going to our office out of hours and is opening a new business, is it possible the case will be abandoned by the cps or does it always go to at least the first court hearing? How much doubt is enough doubt?
I’m stressed beyond belief. I’m already on meds for high BP but now it’s soaring again. I can’t sleep more than a couple of hours and hub is worse and keeps saying he should just end it all and that he’s ashamed of what he’s put me through.
Sorry to offload and ramble and I know it's small compared to what some of you have been through.
Thanks for reading
I warned him he was making a rod for his back and she was manipulating him. Without being mean I couldn't see what her interest in him was as she had a fiancé (although of very dubious character and heavily in debt). We only have a small business, it certainly isn't a goldmine.
She walked out of work because I asked her to make some progress repaying some money she owed. I felt her response was contrived. Later that afternoon she returned with her fiancé who said ‘they were going to close us down and ruin our reputation’ and that Hub had subjected her to a long campaign of sexual harassment and wait to hear from their solicitors. I took this to mean a constructive dismissal case but we had heard nothing.
Last Friday my Hub was arrested and later charged for sexual harassment and 3 counts of sexual assault which he thinks refers to touching her breasts when they have embraced. Her evidence is a supporting statement from her fiancé and her best friend. Really, she waited so long to deal with it? She begged us to employ her fiancé at one point but I refused as I know too much adverse info about him.
Our solicitor says this is the very low level of the scale even if convicted but because hub was her boss, it could be serious and lead to signing the SOR and a conviction, possibly jail but probably not. It will certainly ruin his reputation.
He doesn’t deny that he responded to her advances and flirtiness but he didn’t embrace or kiss her against her will. I have seen her approach hub and touch him in quite an intimate way on the chest on more than one occasion which caused subsequently rows between me and hub. There are pages of other minor things that support hub’s response, photos where she’s posed for him (not sexual but why would she pose at all?). She used to ask her daughter to wait in the back office after school if she was out even if Hub was the only one in. I doubt she’d do that if she thought she was being harassed or assaulted.
Why would she make these FAs? Financial gain will be a big motive, closing us down could lead to more business for her (although they have no money and no experience and will probably go bust anyway) and she may think this makes the restrictive covenant unenforceable.
I am furious with Hub as I feel he has cheated on me but I’m damned if I will let a woman bring these FAs because it undermines those people with genuine cases. Even in my anger I know he hasn’t done anything malicious or unwanted. However he can’t, and won’t, deny they have had some contact.
I’m writing a lengthy statement to the solicitor with lots of examples, emails between them, etc. She left her hub for her fiance and we have a great letter from her fiance's wife about fiance with copies of thousands of pounds worth of debt. If the sol gets enough stuff to cause doubt, especially that we have definitive proof that she has been going to our office out of hours and is opening a new business, is it possible the case will be abandoned by the cps or does it always go to at least the first court hearing? How much doubt is enough doubt?
I’m stressed beyond belief. I’m already on meds for high BP but now it’s soaring again. I can’t sleep more than a couple of hours and hub is worse and keeps saying he should just end it all and that he’s ashamed of what he’s put me through.
Sorry to offload and ramble and I know it's small compared to what some of you have been through.
Thanks for reading
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