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Please can any one help. I am going to tell you my story. It may be hard for some of you to read or understand. If anyone is able to help or offer me any advice please do so... i need all the help i can get. Thank you in advance.
When i was about 16 i was falsely accused of rape in Scotland (by my sisters friend) and was equited from court after fighting it through court for nearly a year, yet the matter remains on my record. Then again nearly a year later my sister then accused my brother, adoptive father and myself by making a complaint to childline claiming it happened when she was younger. My brother and i were ordered by my parents at the time to leave the family home. She later retracted her complaint and all investigations were dropped but again this remains on my reccord. I then moved and was then accused a 3rd time by a woman who i did have consentual sex with. I was arrested in the early hours of the morning and held on remand until it went to court. Constantly going back and too and transfered from prison to prison eventually after 5 and a half months a "NOT GUILTY" verdict was reached. The alligation left e jobless, homeless, and terminated my 5 year relationship. I was so low and tried ending my life on a number of times as i was still being treated like a criminal yet i had been found not guilty. Finally nearly 3 and a half years ago i got with a woman and started to settle down. She was well aware of my situation and i even showed her paperwork that i had kept to prove i was not guilty. Later that year we had a child together and she decided to tell a midwife that i thought i would never be able to have a child as when i was in a previous relationship i was told i had a child but it later passed away. (this was to be untrue and all lies.) So anyway... my partner at the time told the midwife that i thought i was not meant to be a dad as i had apparently lost one previously and due to the alligations made against me that the child would be removed from my care. The Midwife became alarmed and called social services. After my daughter was born they became very interested and started to visit our house but claimed we were not in trouble, they were not there to take our child and repeatedly said "your doing a great job as parents we are here to work with you as we do with every family and we will not take your child". They went to my parents and had a meating with them and told them the same. After 4 month they then came to my house with the police, removed my daughter and left me with no help or support. After me making several phone calls i finally was able to see my daughter after a week of not having any contact and then the court case started. My partner then left me while i was over at my dads taking near enough all the furniture with her. I carried on fighting for my daughter for the nearly a year. A specialist was called to do a risk assesment, asked me few questions about myself and then asked me to place a series of cards in order to make a story, and then a little maths test, (problem solving) The following week i went to the final hearing where i was told by the judge that i pose a risk to my child and was only granted letter box contact once a year. I am still waiting to be told as to where i can write to in order to have contact with my daughter.
I then asked the Social Services how i can get re-assesed in order to be told i am safe to be around children and able to move on in my life. I have been told that they do not have the funding to have me re-assesed, then they claimed it was not them it was the police that say i can not be around children. I went to the police station and they told me that there is no legal reason for me not to have children or have a relationship with someone with children. So i went back to the Social Services and told them what the police said and they then claimed that it is the NSPCC who say i am a risk. So when i contact them the NSPCC say that it is because of the alligations put against me i pose a risk. (yet i was found not guilty) I then give up hope and move.
When i moved i thought i would try and fight in in the area i moved to. The police and the social services say that there is no legal reason i can not have a relationship with someone who has children or even go on to have another child myself.
I then move back to the area i was originally and want to start a new life, have a relationship and who knows... one day a family, weather that is one that i create or be in a relationship with a woman who already has children. However i can not do this until i have the "All Clear" to be around children. I do not want to start a relationship just to have another child taken away or even have a relationship with a woman who already has kids for her to then lose them.
The police say i am ok to have a relationship and have kids yet the Social Services say i cant. ... ... What can i do? Can anyone help?
When i was about 16 i was falsely accused of rape in Scotland (by my sisters friend) and was equited from court after fighting it through court for nearly a year, yet the matter remains on my record. Then again nearly a year later my sister then accused my brother, adoptive father and myself by making a complaint to childline claiming it happened when she was younger. My brother and i were ordered by my parents at the time to leave the family home. She later retracted her complaint and all investigations were dropped but again this remains on my reccord. I then moved and was then accused a 3rd time by a woman who i did have consentual sex with. I was arrested in the early hours of the morning and held on remand until it went to court. Constantly going back and too and transfered from prison to prison eventually after 5 and a half months a "NOT GUILTY" verdict was reached. The alligation left e jobless, homeless, and terminated my 5 year relationship. I was so low and tried ending my life on a number of times as i was still being treated like a criminal yet i had been found not guilty. Finally nearly 3 and a half years ago i got with a woman and started to settle down. She was well aware of my situation and i even showed her paperwork that i had kept to prove i was not guilty. Later that year we had a child together and she decided to tell a midwife that i thought i would never be able to have a child as when i was in a previous relationship i was told i had a child but it later passed away. (this was to be untrue and all lies.) So anyway... my partner at the time told the midwife that i thought i was not meant to be a dad as i had apparently lost one previously and due to the alligations made against me that the child would be removed from my care. The Midwife became alarmed and called social services. After my daughter was born they became very interested and started to visit our house but claimed we were not in trouble, they were not there to take our child and repeatedly said "your doing a great job as parents we are here to work with you as we do with every family and we will not take your child". They went to my parents and had a meating with them and told them the same. After 4 month they then came to my house with the police, removed my daughter and left me with no help or support. After me making several phone calls i finally was able to see my daughter after a week of not having any contact and then the court case started. My partner then left me while i was over at my dads taking near enough all the furniture with her. I carried on fighting for my daughter for the nearly a year. A specialist was called to do a risk assesment, asked me few questions about myself and then asked me to place a series of cards in order to make a story, and then a little maths test, (problem solving) The following week i went to the final hearing where i was told by the judge that i pose a risk to my child and was only granted letter box contact once a year. I am still waiting to be told as to where i can write to in order to have contact with my daughter.
I then asked the Social Services how i can get re-assesed in order to be told i am safe to be around children and able to move on in my life. I have been told that they do not have the funding to have me re-assesed, then they claimed it was not them it was the police that say i can not be around children. I went to the police station and they told me that there is no legal reason for me not to have children or have a relationship with someone with children. So i went back to the Social Services and told them what the police said and they then claimed that it is the NSPCC who say i am a risk. So when i contact them the NSPCC say that it is because of the alligations put against me i pose a risk. (yet i was found not guilty) I then give up hope and move.
When i moved i thought i would try and fight in in the area i moved to. The police and the social services say that there is no legal reason i can not have a relationship with someone who has children or even go on to have another child myself.
I then move back to the area i was originally and want to start a new life, have a relationship and who knows... one day a family, weather that is one that i create or be in a relationship with a woman who already has children. However i can not do this until i have the "All Clear" to be around children. I do not want to start a relationship just to have another child taken away or even have a relationship with a woman who already has kids for her to then lose them.
The police say i am ok to have a relationship and have kids yet the Social Services say i cant. ... ... What can i do? Can anyone help?