some advice .. been collared by the accuser .. shaken up

[Moo1]

Hi all, hope your well. Yesterday me and my partner were casually driving to go walk the dog and a car sped up behind me . It took over and a women leant out shouting rapist and calling me a fat ***** etc etc... they then pressed on their breaks and forced me to stop. The girl who accused my partner and her mother then jumped out and was banging and trying to open my car doors, they were horrible and were trying to get me and my partner out to fight . We just sat there. Every time I tried to drive off they jumped in front of my car ! So I obviously couldn't run them over .. funnily, her dad just stood there and didn't say anything ( he was the mouthy one when they came to my house) .. I was scared and so upset ! Its bad enough going through this but to have this on top !!! Don't feel like I can carry on anymore . I managed to get round them after around 5 minutes and rang the police . The investigating officer spoke to me today and is sending someone to take a statement tonight . She said shell have to deal with it as a desperate case, but if the rape alligation goes to court it will be used as evidence against her ! As for someone who'd been supoosidly raped she was very bolshy and wasn't bothered about just having a piece of glass between her so called rapist !! If I'd been raped I wouldn't want to go near him, let alone scream at him ! Its left me back to square one, frightened for my safety , my car and property ! Please any advice or support !? ... does anymore no if I can get them charged or any punishment? Surely, they can't go around doing this ? Thanks in anticipation moo1xx

[Don'tbelieveit!]

First of all, it seems like the accuser and fmaily are trying to provoke you into doing sth you may regret. I am glad you did not!. Secondly, I would most defintely report the situation to the police in person with a written statement.
Thirdly, stay calm, don't let yourself get into any situation where you can be provoked and as difficult as it is, try not to let this kind of behaviour get to you. It just proves to you who the people are who know how to condutct themselves in a proper manner in public, and those who do not. Bear that in mind and hold your head up high! Good luck!

[Boys don't cry]

Moo1 and Don'tbelieveit.

First of all: I agree with Don'tbelieveit. You remained calm and it is the best you could and should do.

Secondly I would explain the situation to a solicitor and check if there is any cctv evidence in the street to help your case.

Thirdly, once again I agree with Don'tbelieveit.

Do not jeopardize your chances to win.
You are and must stay respectful members of the society.

[Moo1]

Thank you for the reply ! Yes there complete low lives ! Nothing better to do , its just scary and embarrassing when someone is doing that on a main road etc. I wasn't bought up to fight or speak in that manner and its was such a shock that people actually do that in public! The police are coming tonight and I'm going to ask about some protection , like a notice or something to at least warn them off .. but in a way the digging themselves a big ass hole ! As its all evidence against them :-) .. I'm respected were I live and I'm consently on edge now . I started a new job today too so its that last thing I needed. Over the last few weeks I learnt to deal with it , but its just all bought back to me now ! Thanks for replying again, its such a comfort to know I've got some support . Moo x

[Don'tbelieveit!]

Agree with MDC, too. Talk to a solicitor. And maybe there were possible witnesses?

[Moo1]

Thanks so much ... does anyone know any good solicitors? I'm in midlands . Should I get a specialist sol or not ? Thanks moo

[Boys don't cry]

Moo1

The police is obviously coming to talk to you in a few hours so you should keep your answers brief and simple.
You should have contacted a solicitor previously from the police as they might turn this against you in the future.
Have a witness with you when you will be interviewed.
Do not sign anything and if you decide to do so make sure you read your statement before.

At the moment you should only trust a solicitor.

[Moo1]

Agree with MDC, too. Talk to a solicitor. And maybe there were possible witnesses?

There was plenty of witnesses , but they just drove past ! So , don't know if any way of contacting them ... also , don't think they'll be cctv as I know the road well and I'm sure there isn't , but will drive up and check :-) thank you

[Don'tbelieveit!]

Moo1

Take BDC's sound advice! Good luck and let us know!

[Moo1]

Moo1

The police is obviously coming to talk to you in a few hours so you should keep your answers brief and simple.
You should have contacted a solicitor previously from the police as they might turn this against you in the future.
Have a witness with you when you will be interviewed.
Do not sign anything and if you decide to do so make sure you read your statement before.

At the moment you should only trust a solicitor.

I did enquire regarding sol , but had no replies and don't no were to start ! Yh I no there not our friends and I'm tredding carefully .. they do seem to be supportive though. Surely, it'll be evidence against her? Moo

[Boys don't cry]

Good luck to you Moo1,

No it won't be necessary be evidence against her but it might turn against your case.
One was supportive with me and I had a surprise later on,some were indeed helpful and respectful.
I still respect the police and justice but you are walking on eggs at the moment.
Just once again, keep calm, be kind, do not use the words following your previous post but in a way the digging themselves a big ...

Just say that you have been scared by the incident but don't go into details , try to avoid the word "rape".
Just tell that your partner have some problems with her family and you don't know much more about this.

[Moo1]

Thank you will post up when they've gone , should be here any time now x

[lonley place]

Good luck sorting this Moo, what an awful thing to happen ! LP

[Moo1]

Thanks again all :-) :-) still awaiting there arrival! Seems that we aren't important enough ! Will keep my mouth shut and only day what's needed . Thanks again :-) x

[Mortons]

Hope it went well.
(I would have suggest reporting it to the police, but you've checked off that one)

Next you should speak to the Solicitor dealing with (your partners?) case. If they aren't available then another solicitor at the firm.

Why?
- So they can give you some advice
- So they can make a full note of it on their file
(you wouldn't imagine how many times incidents like this happen, reported to police, but solicitors/barristers for the defence rarely get told [apart from the criminal record which is provided]

Usually the police will give an informal warnings to get the victims and their families to back off/calm down as it could harm their case. Rarely but in some circumstances result in their prosecution.

The other issue being bail conditions. In most cases the defendant has bail conditions not to contact the victim (either imposed by court or police). I'm very annoyed how often dealing with breaches of bail/orders where where so called victims instigate contact to try to the other person arrested. It is important to contact the police immediately. I've seen cases where police tended to believe who reported the contact first. But it has to be remembered there are no bail conditions on anyone but the defendant, (although where someone may have broken the law that person could be arrested)