Never thought I would see myself in this position but I’m here now.
This past weekend I was invited to a voluntary interview based on accusations that my ex had made from an event of nearly 4 years ago. Our relationship wasn’t the best to say the least and we ended pretty suddenly but kept in contact via phone/email for about 2 months after the split with me trying to reconcile our relationship to no avail (heck she even slept for 5 hours in the same house as me a month after the alleged incident) , I didn’t hear from her again until December last year (as she lives internationally) where she basically came out on FB and said the alleged incident occured, claiming I had admitted it in emails sent during those 2 months, naturally I said it was crazy talk and blocked her.
Anyway forward till march and here I am, the interview was ok and I opted for the duty sol who was competent but not exactly amazing, he just said answer their questions. I raised points that her mental health was questionable (she used to talk in detail of seeing ghosts etc) , that the evening wasn't memorable in the slightest and that our relationship wasn't amazing but that wasn't exactly a crime, and that our sex life suffered massively due to her discomfort with sex with me in general from a physical perspective and that because of that I knew restraint etc etc – gave clear examples (my current partner can also attest to this). She also claims I said something to a friend of hers (yet to be interviewed) with the accuser present about it, but I denied this and if I did its simply a twist on words, not evidence to the fact.
The duty sol was literally laughing (I kid you not) before hand at the case, the police had it for 6 months before doing anything with it, no arrest or charge, together with the emails – he basically said they would be lucky to get far with it.
Obviously I’m not entirely convinced and try to be strong especially , but I honestly cant believe someone can just do this especially with so much evidence clearly showing her communicating with me and willing to see me briefly after the alleged incident ! What a joke
This past weekend I was invited to a voluntary interview based on accusations that my ex had made from an event of nearly 4 years ago. Our relationship wasn’t the best to say the least and we ended pretty suddenly but kept in contact via phone/email for about 2 months after the split with me trying to reconcile our relationship to no avail (heck she even slept for 5 hours in the same house as me a month after the alleged incident) , I didn’t hear from her again until December last year (as she lives internationally) where she basically came out on FB and said the alleged incident occured, claiming I had admitted it in emails sent during those 2 months, naturally I said it was crazy talk and blocked her.
Anyway forward till march and here I am, the interview was ok and I opted for the duty sol who was competent but not exactly amazing, he just said answer their questions. I raised points that her mental health was questionable (she used to talk in detail of seeing ghosts etc) , that the evening wasn't memorable in the slightest and that our relationship wasn't amazing but that wasn't exactly a crime, and that our sex life suffered massively due to her discomfort with sex with me in general from a physical perspective and that because of that I knew restraint etc etc – gave clear examples (my current partner can also attest to this). She also claims I said something to a friend of hers (yet to be interviewed) with the accuser present about it, but I denied this and if I did its simply a twist on words, not evidence to the fact.
The duty sol was literally laughing (I kid you not) before hand at the case, the police had it for 6 months before doing anything with it, no arrest or charge, together with the emails – he basically said they would be lucky to get far with it.
Obviously I’m not entirely convinced and try to be strong especially , but I honestly cant believe someone can just do this especially with so much evidence clearly showing her communicating with me and willing to see me briefly after the alleged incident ! What a joke
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