Wife has falsely accused me of rape

[browndown777]

Its been quite a few week since I have been on here, I wish i could say I have had an easy time or that things are getting better but they’re not.

However on a positive note, I am getting regular access up to 3 full days a week now the holidays are here to my son, the police agreed to amend the bail condition relating to access to the children so that I can have access supervised by a family member at where I’m living.

Unfortunately my daughter does not seem to want to see me, I have no idea why as she was very supportive of me in the beginning, we have spoken on a couple of occasions when i picked up my son and she seemed ok with me.

I was in court today to try and get my bail conditions overturned so I could have unsupervised access to the children, the police were objecting of course.

My solicitor put up a good legal argument however after the CPS had told the Magistrates what I had been arrested for and how controlling and manipulative I supposedly was and all the “concerns” that social services had, you could see on their faces there wasn’t a chance in hell they were going to find in my favour........even though everything they were told was complete nonsense.

[breakmyheart]

seeing children

Its been quite a few week since I have been on here, I wish i could say I have had an easy time or that things are getting better but they’re not.

However on a positive note, I am getting regular access up to 3 full days a week now the holidays are here to my son, the police agreed to amend the bail condition relating to access to the children so that I can have access supervised by a family member at where I’m living.

Unfortunately my daughter does not seem to want to see me, I have no idea why as she was very supportive of me in the beginning, we have spoken on a couple of occasions when i picked up my son and she seemed ok with me.

I was in court today to try and get my bail conditions overturned so I could have unsupervised access to the children, the police were objecting of course.

My solicitor put up a good legal argument however after the CPS had told the Magistrates what I had been arrested for and how controlling and manipulative I supposedly was and all the “concerns” that social services had, you could see on their faces there wasn’t a chance in hell they were going to find in my favour........even though everything they were told was complete nonsense.

Hi , I think you are getting certain breakthroughs and it must be so much relief to avoid the contact centres and have the comfort of being with family for those precious moments that you share with your son.
if like myself I will never forget the pain of not seeing the kids and was over the moon once I got the bail varied, but I can appreciate that it is not the same as doing your independent things with him.
Hopefully some conclusion of your case will surface soon ,and meanwhile I wish you strength and luck and enjoy the time with your son and above all I hope you can unite with your daughter.

Another situation of ss and police judgement that they are doing the right thing amongst a family.CHILDREN SUFFER VERY BADLY AND THEY DO NOT FORGET.

Best wishes b.m.h

[is there justice?]

I'm really glad you are seeing your son regularly. When I divorced my ex didn't see the kids for a while despite me offering to pay petrol money etc. When he got over himself, he was disappointed to find that our daughter wouldn't go and stay with him for almost a year. There was no reason, he was fine with her, I didn't 'bad mouth' him, I didn't encourage her to stay with me with treats etc, it was just one of those things. I'm not sure if she thought she was being disloyal.
Anyway, over time she started going for a day or two and they get on really well now.
You can just send a little something back with your son (chocolate bar) and perhaps a light hearted letter saying you missed her and she is always welcome.

[myhome]

Hi browndown - glad to see there is a bit of positive stuff going on for you and it must be good for your son too. ITJ has given great advice as always and hopefully your daughter will gradually come round too... MH

[browndown777]

Thanks everyone for the kind words and support........

[browndown777]

Hi Everyone

You've probably all forgotten about me as its been two years now since I last posted, I really don't know where the time has gone!

Where do I start? Well first off I'm still on police bail, Its been nearly two and a half years now since I was arrested and I've been re-bailed nine times!!

I found the best way of coping with the situation was to just put it completely out of my mind and to just get on with my life as best I could and only thinking about it when bail time came around.

I threw my self in to my work and have managed to build up a reasonably successful business over the last couple of years, I also unexpectedly met a lady who restored my faith in women, although ultimately it didn't work out and we split earlier in the year.

I cant express how grateful I am to the people on here who helped and supported me during the darkest time of my life, and I feel a little guilty to of not been on here for so long.

Anyway its bail time again tomorrow! I have no idea what's going to happen as the OIC wont answer calls from my solicitor....the file has been at the CPS for a couple of months now so maybe I'm to be charged? but I guess I'll find out soon enough....

[AmandaF]

Two years +??? That's terrible, but good on you for keeping on keeping on.
I found that too- I changed jobs, location etc (although I was forced to) and just tried to carry on as best I can.
Agreed- the support on here is invaluable.

I really really hope all goes well for you- would be nice to post some more bananas!!

[Rights Fighter]

The waiting must be awful. I was so pleased to read that you had found a new lady but saddened that it didn't work out.

Thinking of you for tomorrow. Please do let us know how you get on.

[Unhappy]

Hi Everyone

You've probably all forgotten about me as its been two years now since I last posted, I really don't know where the time has gone!

Where do I start? Well first off I'm still on police bail, Its been nearly two and a half years now since I was arrested and I've been re-bailed nine times!!

I found the best way of coping with the situation was to just put it completely out of my mind and to just get on with my life as best I could and only thinking about it when bail time came around.

I threw my self in to my work and have managed to build up a reasonably successful business over the last couple of years, I also unexpectedly met a lady who restored my faith in women, although ultimately it didn't work out and we split earlier in the year.

I cant express how grateful I am to the people on here who helped and supported me during the darkest time of my life, and I feel a little guilty to of not been on here for so long.

Anyway its bail time again tomorrow! I have no idea what's going to happen as the OIC wont answer calls from my solicitor....the file has been at the CPS for a couple of months now so maybe I'm to be charged? but I guess I'll find out soon enough....

HI,

I do not believe the Police, CPS and HM Courts really know what they are doing at the moment because of Government spending cut-backs.

I recently received a demand from HM Courts asking for £15,000 towards my defense costs for the 11 day trial against my ex-wife accused of raping her for 20 years.

However, I told HM Courts I was found not guilty on all 5 counts of rape and I said I would not pay them the £15,000 they were demanding, which so far they have not replied.

Also, I believe the Government now has a new crusade against ISIS and not against married men accused of raping the wife's.

Recently a report showed that 45% of rape allegations were made by women in a current relationship, but almost next to zero of the husbands accused of raping their wife's were ever convicted.

I believe many married women make false rape allegations to have the husband removed for the family home by the police and automatically win custody of their children, without having to pay for expensive divorce lawyers.

I also believe the Government would now rather spend the estimated £80,000 cost on holding a Crown Court rape case on a 1000 Pound laser guided bomb to drop in ISIS instead, which also costs about £80,000 per bomb.

I hope this info is helpful

Regards

Unhappy

[can it get worse]

Thinking of you today - hope you got the right result???

[browndown777]

The farce continues......

Two minutes before I was about to leave the house this morning I get a text message from my solicitor telling me "not to go to the station as been re-bailed!!"

This will be the 10th time now!!!!

How long exactly does it take to investigate and make a decision on one complainants allegations?? FFS....utterly undeliverable

The stress is really getting to me now and its effecting every aspect of my life, how can they be allowed to treat people like this? its all wrong

Thanks for your kind words "amandaF", "Rights fighter", "unhappy" and "can it get worse"

Take care everyone....

[Bene]

Hello,

I've been following your thread for a while now. As I have not been falsely Accused but I'm a genuine rape survivor. I usually don't tend to reply to falsely accused threads. As I don't know what to say and don't want to come across as insensitive or inconsiderate. But for some reason I decided to reply to yours today. I'm very sorry for what your going through and have been through! Although I'm not experience in this ) the other guys on here will be much more help to you than me, but what I would like to say is that coming from someone who has been raped and is just going through the criminal investigation process myself and just an overall human being. I can relate to your frustration pain and anger)

What helps me) I don't know if it may be any use to you but I write a lot. Perhaps you want if you haven't already started a daily diary documenting how your feeling everyday. It helps me get out my anger and frustration. It may help you too.

Responding to your 10 bail
I don't know if this is going to bring you any comfort, but if the cps had enough evidence against you would have been charged by now surely. And I doubt that they will obtain any new evidence against you either. Also the cps deal with hundreds of cases daily, from what I've read on here, they tend to review the most serious and high profile cases first and leave the rest to simply rot in the long piles. I know that sounds horrible, as they are dealing with people's lives and future. It's quite awful knowing that your life and future has been reduced to a file.

I know it's hard remaining positive especially sometimes when you feel like the world is against you, it's okay to feel like that at times but you have to get up re charge your battery and continue to fight. Just like your f.a ) as they may try to ruin your name and good character but they can't take your strength!!
Your probably thinking what the hell do I know) I'm a victim right!! But I guess we're both victims of this cruel world!!

I hope this helped you a little bit. If not I'm sorry.
Hope you feel better tomorrow.

[Rights Fighter]

Thank you for posting in this part of the forums Bene, and so sensitively.

[can it get worse]

So sorry to hear this is being extended again. I'm not quite sure how to analyse this - I certainly think they would have charged you by now if they had some 'concrete' evidence but I believe the length of bail more probably indicates their heavy workload and where you are in their pile of work. Who knows - chasing the compensation (amongst other motives) must surely increase the risk of making a false allegation.

Feeling angry and other emotions is expectable and the 'not knowing' feeling is horrid.

Sending you strength to get thru the next period and hope this is definitely the final one.

BENE - Your post was great - and good to get an insight in to the 'other side'. Thank you for taking the time and effort to post. I hope you receive some further news shortly and can begin to mend.

[jittery]

hi

The farce continues......

Two minutes before I was about to leave the house this morning I get a text message from my solicitor telling me "not to go to the station as been re-bailed!!"

This will be the 10th time now!!!!

How long exactly does it take to investigate and make a decision on one complainants allegations?? FFS....utterly undeliverable

The stress is really getting to me now and its effecting every aspect of my life, how can they be allowed to treat people like this? its all wrong

Thanks for your kind words "amandaF", "Rights fighter", "unhappy" and "can it get worse"

Take care everyone....

What a sh*tty situation to be in I can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling. Stay strong! There must be a silver lining on the horizon somewhere.