partner falsly accused . going out of my mind

[Moo1]

Hi all, im looking for help and support last week my partners bosses van was taken for forensics which was the first we knew about this completely untrue alligation. We've been together four years and things weren't going so well not long back. My partner started speeking with another girl and exchange numbers ( he didn't no she was 15! ) they casually chatted about general things and she asked to meet him. They met at a local shop ( on a Sunday evening) so it was shut she wanted fags and kept hinting she had no money or credit so my boyfriend walked her and two mates to another local shop. Were he bought her 10fags and 5pound credit! ( I wasn't aware all this was going on) . They then parted and he came home . They proceeded to text and chat and she told him she liked him. He then was driving his bosses van and saw her a two mates at a phone box . He pulled over and they asked for a lift to a near by town (about 2miles away) he gave them a lift and dropped her mates off and the girl and he drove to a shop and then he dropped her back up near were they'd seen eachother. They kissed and she left . So, im gutted that he's cheated and lyed but we try and move on and then the police take the van and we get a phone call inviting my partner to the station. We go and he's accused of raping her!!! She's said it was the evening when they kissed on the van but her story is rediculous! He says he tried to touch her when she was in passanger seat and that she said no so he stopped and then he picked her up ( from the passanger seat ,whilst he was sat in drivers seat) and put her on top of him and raped her. Now I obviously. Wasn't there but my partner isn't huge but not tiny and she wouldn't have fit between the steering wheel and him! And surely if he was to rape her he'd use his weight as an advantage ,not pick het up;!! And were he dropped her was a busy road and was around 6.30 pm so people wrre around to hear her call out ,if she was being raped! Its destroying me and my partner and he is now on bail until 7th April 13. They've gave van back ,only had it for 2 days so do you think they didn't find anything? And they've took her and my boyfriend phone to get the conversations up! Oh and this alledged rape happened on a Tuesday night she then text him that night to say he was a good kisser and rand and text 3days after until the van was taken! I know if id have been raped I wouldn't contact my attaker or tell him how much of a good kisser he was!! I know he's innocent. When we met we didn't sleep together for 6weeks! He's just not that kind of person! I saw him that night ,as we live together and he came home and for a person that just raped a girl he was calm and happy! I just need some advice,help ,support anything! Because not only have I got to forgive and move forward that he cheated , I can't with this **** still going on.! And im so worried about the outcome, I know he's innocent but you hear about innocent people being locked up . If they find no evidence thud happened do they drop it? I'm 21 he is 22 and I've never been in a situation like this . I'm scared, confused and so petrified it will come down to her word against his and hell get locked up ! :-( sorry this us so long but i wanted to give you all the full story ! Hope you guys can help me :-)

[Faith]

Hi there and welcome to the forum

One of the first things the police will want to do is to medically check the accuser for forensics. If sex didn't take place this will show up. She can refuse to be medically examined but this is then telling in itself.

Your partner should be prepared to be able to prove that he didnt know the girl was 15. Does she have a Facebook which states her age as higher than it is?

[Casehardened]

Hi,

You mentioned that the alleged offence occurred near shops on a busy road. It therefore could be possible that there were CCTV cameras in the vicinity which had a view of the parked van; I would suggest going back to have a look to check on this.

If so, it is a possible but not a certainty that the police have already lifted the footage but if not it would be well worth getting a copy. Even if it showed nothing of what happened inside the van it would show the girl's body language as she left the van, whether casual or frightened.

[Moo1]

Hi thank you so much for reply :-) think they may have tested her ,but not sure . She said it happened on a Tuesday and she didn't report it untill either the Saturday or Sunday . Would they still be able to get evidence from testing her with that time delay? And she had no year on fb page and looks alot older so I think he just didn't ask and she didn't tell him. She's been partying and celebrating her 16ty last week its all over her fb . Not the actions of a victim! I'm just so worried. If no evidence is found in her favour would he still be charged with just her word against his? Thanks again

[Moo1]

Hi casehardened, Brill didn't even think of that!! What with everything going on!:-S I'll drive up and look today . There is a possibility they'll be cctv. I just don't understand why someone would go to this extreme ! Beyond me! She also started fb messaging my boyfriend friend ! So I've asked him to keep messages. We have no solicitor yet ,as I wanted to see how this all progressed . Everything is in my boyfriends favour I feel , because not only will the texts show she continued contact after this apparently happened , her whole actions after the event are not of someone who has been raped!! And they physically could not gave fit on the drivers seat!! But you hear of all these cases were the innocents are convicted :'(:-/ thanks for replying :-)

[Moo1]

Hi faith, just asked him he said she told him she was 17 but not sure if it was through a text or face to face :-/

[Faith]

Was he her friend on Facebook? This is where care has to be taken. If it states on that FB page that she is 15, then there cant be a reasonable belief that she wasnt./ Chances are she has lied on her page though. She might not even be his FB friend for all I know. Please dont feel Im interrogating you, these details matter.

[Moo1]

They were friends on fb but her date of birth year was not on there as you can choose to disclose that information or not so in her case she just had the day and month,no year . He has now blocked her and she did tell him she was 17. No I am thankful for your help

[Faith]

Right thats fine then

[Moo1]

Do you think we got a good chance ? Im just worried because of the nature of the offense that it will come down to her word against his :-/

[myhome]

Hi and welcome to the forum but sorry you had to find us. You will get lots of support and advice on here - legal, practical and emotional. You'll also learn loads by reading lots of other threads too.
With regard to whether you have a good chance or not - it is completely impossible to say. Lots of these cases do come down to "She says it was rape" "He says it was consensual." Have a read of billykiickass's thread on the following link - long but packed full of information and it was her word against his and he got not guilty.

http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...149-So-worried

Keep reading posting and keep strong

[Moo1]

Ok thanks for your help I'll have a read . The worst part is.not knowing what's going to happen. While she sleeps soundly at night we lay there worrying and woundering!! :-S

[lonley place]

Hi Moo1 Welcome ....I know its easy to say and hard to do but ...do try and do other things that take you mind away from
whats happening. You are on the rocky ride which will take time to sort out, the police are well known to take as long as they like
to investigate these FA's. If you can step away for just an hour or two and do something you enjoy it well help you both to cope better. LP

[Moo1]

Thank you lp. I am feeling slightly more positive after seeing im not the only one who's going through this I don't feel as alone now :-) . And forensics will show if sexual intercourse took place and the phone records will show she continued to contact him after alledged rape . With no mention of anything sexual happening ,just a kiss ,so I'm hoping and praying there just will not be enough evidence .... Well see :-/

[billykickass]

Hi, yeah was gonna say this isnt totally diss simmilar to my story, however in mine, sex did actually take place. I mean being charged and going to court is light years off for you yet (if it gets that far which is unlikely) and with all that phone stuff of her contacting him 'good kisser etc' a barrister would absolutely tear her apart in court and any jury would have a massive seed of doubt in their minds.

So anyway you prob wont be able to, but try not too worry to much it seems as if the scales are tipped in your favour. Spend the time working on re building that level of trust in your relationship.