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Hi everyone. I was arrested yesterday out of the blue, on suspicion of rape. The date this supposedly happened was 1st Jan 1985, when I was 22 years old. The woman in question was 16. I was friends with her and her whole family, have not seen her in years and have never had any sexual activity with her whatsoever. I have absolutely no idea why she is doing this. I was taken tote police station for questioning, where I was told her story which is as follows.
According to her, myself and my brother had been out drinking on New Year's Eve, buying her alcohol all night. Later on, she told her mum who was also there that I was walking her home. Apparently I took her into an alley and started kissing and cuddling. She said "we can kiss but not have sex". Apparently then I took her trousers down and attempted to penetrate her, failed, tried again and managed it. I won't go into all the gory details but she was EXTREMELY graphic on details of what happened, even saying she remembers having her arm against a drainpipe and me turning around to urinate straight after. She was very specific on the date, whereabouts and other details, dubiously specific for something that is supposed to have happened 28 years ago. The only thing she didn't specify was what she was doing at this time, such as crying out for help or fighting me off. She even said that at one stage she heard her mum shouting her- so why wouldn't she have called out? Surely if you're ring raped and you hear anyone, let alone your mother, you would cry for help. She then said that my brother who had been drinking with us, magically appeared in his car at the end of the exact alley, as soon as it was finished. Bear in mind this was 1985 so no mobile phones to call him an ask him to pick me up, at this exact time at this exact alley. Also according her he had been drinking with us right before, so why would he be driving around in his car all of a sudden? She then said she went home and told her mum she'd had sex. Not that she was raped, that she'd had sex. Why would you say sex and not raped?
Anyway, that was her story. Here's the truth. I have no idea whether she was out that night. I probably was, it was New Year's Eve and I as leaving the country on work on the 3rd Jan, so I most likely would have been out drinking that night. I cannot remember if she was there or not, there would have been a lot of people out and I would have been talking to anyone that was there, not sat plying her with alcohol. We only knew each other because I knew the whole family, it's not like we were especially friends. I had spoken to her a few times before but nothing even remotely sexual ever happened between us. I was a bit of a ladies man back then, I was a single man 22 years old and had no problem getting women- certainly no need to rape someone for sex. It might not be something to be proud of but being a womaniser doesn't make me a rapist. Some of the things she said I did to her are disgusting, certainly not things I do sexually. If she had known me intimately she would know I would not do what she said I did.
As for my brother being there. I wasn't sure at the one of questioning whether he was in the country at the time or whether he was already abroad working (we both had the same job working away for months at a time). So after I was released, I went to my brother's house. I remembered on the way there that he actually met me off the boat that year, when I arrived. I asked him and yes, he was already over there at this time. He even showed me his passport which thank god he has saved. It shows he arrived in August 1984 and departed 15th Jan 1985, proving he wasn't even on the same continent, let alone country, at the time. This proves she is lying. I have contacted my solicitor who agrees her story is very dubious anyway and this passport will show her to be lying. I feel somewhat better that I now have solid evidence to prove she's a liar, thank god my brother kept his passport.
I am just absolutely knocked for six by all this. Someone I haven't seen in years, have never had any problems with, has concocted this story about me and I have no idea why. Why would someone do this? I feel very down and depressed by it all. I know it's a load of ******** and I have absolutely nothing to hide, but what's bothering me is being tarred with the stigma of being a rapist- because once you've been accused people never look at you in the same way. I plan to counteract her claim and sue her for deformation of character or slander, but in the meantime until this case is dropped I feel like I have the whole world on my shoulders. I just want to know why.
My solicitor says she gets this 3-4 times a week, and she's certain the case will be dropped for lack of evidence. She thinks this woman has done this because of all the Savile stuff in the news, and is probably hoping for compensation. I guess I just need a bit of reassurance because I am just shell shocked that this is happening and I don't know the process of what happens next. I'm out on bail now for 30 days until I have to appear at the station again. What happens now?
According to her, myself and my brother had been out drinking on New Year's Eve, buying her alcohol all night. Later on, she told her mum who was also there that I was walking her home. Apparently I took her into an alley and started kissing and cuddling. She said "we can kiss but not have sex". Apparently then I took her trousers down and attempted to penetrate her, failed, tried again and managed it. I won't go into all the gory details but she was EXTREMELY graphic on details of what happened, even saying she remembers having her arm against a drainpipe and me turning around to urinate straight after. She was very specific on the date, whereabouts and other details, dubiously specific for something that is supposed to have happened 28 years ago. The only thing she didn't specify was what she was doing at this time, such as crying out for help or fighting me off. She even said that at one stage she heard her mum shouting her- so why wouldn't she have called out? Surely if you're ring raped and you hear anyone, let alone your mother, you would cry for help. She then said that my brother who had been drinking with us, magically appeared in his car at the end of the exact alley, as soon as it was finished. Bear in mind this was 1985 so no mobile phones to call him an ask him to pick me up, at this exact time at this exact alley. Also according her he had been drinking with us right before, so why would he be driving around in his car all of a sudden? She then said she went home and told her mum she'd had sex. Not that she was raped, that she'd had sex. Why would you say sex and not raped?
Anyway, that was her story. Here's the truth. I have no idea whether she was out that night. I probably was, it was New Year's Eve and I as leaving the country on work on the 3rd Jan, so I most likely would have been out drinking that night. I cannot remember if she was there or not, there would have been a lot of people out and I would have been talking to anyone that was there, not sat plying her with alcohol. We only knew each other because I knew the whole family, it's not like we were especially friends. I had spoken to her a few times before but nothing even remotely sexual ever happened between us. I was a bit of a ladies man back then, I was a single man 22 years old and had no problem getting women- certainly no need to rape someone for sex. It might not be something to be proud of but being a womaniser doesn't make me a rapist. Some of the things she said I did to her are disgusting, certainly not things I do sexually. If she had known me intimately she would know I would not do what she said I did.
As for my brother being there. I wasn't sure at the one of questioning whether he was in the country at the time or whether he was already abroad working (we both had the same job working away for months at a time). So after I was released, I went to my brother's house. I remembered on the way there that he actually met me off the boat that year, when I arrived. I asked him and yes, he was already over there at this time. He even showed me his passport which thank god he has saved. It shows he arrived in August 1984 and departed 15th Jan 1985, proving he wasn't even on the same continent, let alone country, at the time. This proves she is lying. I have contacted my solicitor who agrees her story is very dubious anyway and this passport will show her to be lying. I feel somewhat better that I now have solid evidence to prove she's a liar, thank god my brother kept his passport.
I am just absolutely knocked for six by all this. Someone I haven't seen in years, have never had any problems with, has concocted this story about me and I have no idea why. Why would someone do this? I feel very down and depressed by it all. I know it's a load of ******** and I have absolutely nothing to hide, but what's bothering me is being tarred with the stigma of being a rapist- because once you've been accused people never look at you in the same way. I plan to counteract her claim and sue her for deformation of character or slander, but in the meantime until this case is dropped I feel like I have the whole world on my shoulders. I just want to know why.
My solicitor says she gets this 3-4 times a week, and she's certain the case will be dropped for lack of evidence. She thinks this woman has done this because of all the Savile stuff in the news, and is probably hoping for compensation. I guess I just need a bit of reassurance because I am just shell shocked that this is happening and I don't know the process of what happens next. I'm out on bail now for 30 days until I have to appear at the station again. What happens now?
) how devious the police can be.
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