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Hi everyone, I am new here and actually came across this site a while ago but was still somewhat reluctant (and scared) to ask for your opinions/advice. I have read through so many of the threads and am just hoping things will turn out for the best. There are some details I cannot disclose as I am scared that someone will come across this by using a keyword search. I am frightened to death to be quite honest. But, I will do my best to explain as far as possible. Please excuse my somewhat "strange" choice of words at times, but this really is on purpose!
The man I have been together with for the last 8.5 years, who is not the biological father of my son, has allegedly been accused of having raped my son in 2009 in an EU country other than the one where I live, which is also not the UK (although I am a British citizen -my husband is not). My son now lives in the UK after fleeing from his biological father and wife, after having spent a short while in a psych. unit.
I was "warned" by a certain person (who works in this field and does exaggerate) the night before I had to make a statement to the police that the alleged abuser was my husband. I was also informed that my son had made a full and detailed statement. Up to this point in time, I thought that any statement made would be against my son’s father’s wife based on the disclosure my sons had made up till then. The police advised me otherwise (detail I cannot disclose) and decided that there was no reason whatsoever to even get a statement from my husband.
The alleged "statement" took place mid-December, my police interview mid-January and nothing has happened ever since.
Laws and procedures differ from country to country, and in this case, 3 countries are involved in the matter. Yet do you think that it is normal for everything to take so long or for nothing to happen?
Although it was a difficult decision for me, due to my son's background and due to the fact that my husband can't even kill a fly (and would even undergo a lie detector test). I am standing by my husband. Thus, my parents have now turned their backs on me, having not even taken the time of day to confront me or my husband. I have also been "advised" by said person not to contact my other kids or other certain named persons.
Please help!
The man I have been together with for the last 8.5 years, who is not the biological father of my son, has allegedly been accused of having raped my son in 2009 in an EU country other than the one where I live, which is also not the UK (although I am a British citizen -my husband is not). My son now lives in the UK after fleeing from his biological father and wife, after having spent a short while in a psych. unit.
I was "warned" by a certain person (who works in this field and does exaggerate) the night before I had to make a statement to the police that the alleged abuser was my husband. I was also informed that my son had made a full and detailed statement. Up to this point in time, I thought that any statement made would be against my son’s father’s wife based on the disclosure my sons had made up till then. The police advised me otherwise (detail I cannot disclose) and decided that there was no reason whatsoever to even get a statement from my husband.
The alleged "statement" took place mid-December, my police interview mid-January and nothing has happened ever since.
Laws and procedures differ from country to country, and in this case, 3 countries are involved in the matter. Yet do you think that it is normal for everything to take so long or for nothing to happen?
Although it was a difficult decision for me, due to my son's background and due to the fact that my husband can't even kill a fly (and would even undergo a lie detector test). I am standing by my husband. Thus, my parents have now turned their backs on me, having not even taken the time of day to confront me or my husband. I have also been "advised" by said person not to contact my other kids or other certain named persons.
Please help!
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