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I've been visiting this forum now for the past couple of weeks reading some of the accounts of others. I've finally plucked up the courage to make a post.
About 4 weeks ago I was voluntarily picked up by the police and interviewed under caution for a possible of 2 offences against my daughter. I was interviewed for the 2 charges of either sexual assault or rape against my daughter. Sounds confusing I know but this situation has a lot to it.
A bit of history:
In a nutshell as quick as I can basically in between 2000 and 2008 my 3 children lived with their mother (She left me in 2000 because I wouldn't allow her alcoholic wife beating father around the kids). There were numerous incidents of Social Service involvement with my family during this period due to the mother's inability to cope due to depression and alcoholism. My kids ended up at one point on the child protection register. In 2008 my ex called me saying she was in the process of committing suicide and that I should look after the kids. I immediately rendered help to the mother of my kids and subsequently found out this was the 8th time she had done this (apparently looking for help from the Social Services or others). After years of nightmares with the kids and access I decided that my kids needed a better sustainable life. I went through a long court case (19 months) to the tune of £16K to obtain sole care and in the meantime ensured the ex received the best possible support to get her back on her feet.
I won the court case after numerous investigations etc as family courts go and became the sole carer for my children. I allowed access to mum every other weekend and shared holidays as this was very important to me that my kids had this access and contact. We were all happy or so it seemed. About 2 years went past the kids were doing fantastic at school I was so proud. Then in 2011 things started going sour. My children's attitudes started to change, they became rebellious and hurtful. I eventually found out why when I received a solicitors letter from my ex-wife stating that now the kids were of age of decision they no longer wanted to be in my care and were starting legal action to return to their mother. To say they made my life hell over that period would be an understatement.
The kids got their way and returned to their mother and broke all contact and ties with me from Sep 2011. My heart was broken and I became a broken man dropping into depression requiring medical intervention. I'd done so much and had become exhausted and for that reason I imagine I fell off my carriage so to speak.
My kids have never spoken to me since except through facebook to hurl abuse at me and to request I give up my parental responsibility to them so their mothers new husband can adopt them, I politely refused.
Over the last year I've been picking up the pieces of my life and trying to make something of it again knowing that my kids want no part of me. I was doing well until I was picked up by the police. My daughter has accused me in 1 incident of either sexual assault or rape. According to the police she gave 2 differing statements relating to the same event or time period. Everything that I am was brought into question I have never felt so defiled
These events she speaks of never occurred and due to differing statements shows her accountability of honesty but needless to say this is tearing me apart. I sit up at night crying my heart out and am finding things hard at the minute. My new girlfriend has been a rock as has my family but it doesn't stop the pain of what is. I have been a law abiding person all my life and tried to do what is right all the time.
I've since the events employed a barrister but am still waiting to hear how the CPS want to proceed and it's killing me even though I know I stand on truth I have no faith in the system of things especially in the light of recent news events.
Sorry it's longish (really shortened down though as it can actually go on for pages) but I needed to vent and feel this is a good way to get off my chest. I have become afraid.
I've been visiting this forum now for the past couple of weeks reading some of the accounts of others. I've finally plucked up the courage to make a post.
About 4 weeks ago I was voluntarily picked up by the police and interviewed under caution for a possible of 2 offences against my daughter. I was interviewed for the 2 charges of either sexual assault or rape against my daughter. Sounds confusing I know but this situation has a lot to it.
A bit of history:
In a nutshell as quick as I can basically in between 2000 and 2008 my 3 children lived with their mother (She left me in 2000 because I wouldn't allow her alcoholic wife beating father around the kids). There were numerous incidents of Social Service involvement with my family during this period due to the mother's inability to cope due to depression and alcoholism. My kids ended up at one point on the child protection register. In 2008 my ex called me saying she was in the process of committing suicide and that I should look after the kids. I immediately rendered help to the mother of my kids and subsequently found out this was the 8th time she had done this (apparently looking for help from the Social Services or others). After years of nightmares with the kids and access I decided that my kids needed a better sustainable life. I went through a long court case (19 months) to the tune of £16K to obtain sole care and in the meantime ensured the ex received the best possible support to get her back on her feet.
I won the court case after numerous investigations etc as family courts go and became the sole carer for my children. I allowed access to mum every other weekend and shared holidays as this was very important to me that my kids had this access and contact. We were all happy or so it seemed. About 2 years went past the kids were doing fantastic at school I was so proud. Then in 2011 things started going sour. My children's attitudes started to change, they became rebellious and hurtful. I eventually found out why when I received a solicitors letter from my ex-wife stating that now the kids were of age of decision they no longer wanted to be in my care and were starting legal action to return to their mother. To say they made my life hell over that period would be an understatement.
The kids got their way and returned to their mother and broke all contact and ties with me from Sep 2011. My heart was broken and I became a broken man dropping into depression requiring medical intervention. I'd done so much and had become exhausted and for that reason I imagine I fell off my carriage so to speak.
My kids have never spoken to me since except through facebook to hurl abuse at me and to request I give up my parental responsibility to them so their mothers new husband can adopt them, I politely refused.
Over the last year I've been picking up the pieces of my life and trying to make something of it again knowing that my kids want no part of me. I was doing well until I was picked up by the police. My daughter has accused me in 1 incident of either sexual assault or rape. According to the police she gave 2 differing statements relating to the same event or time period. Everything that I am was brought into question I have never felt so defiled
These events she speaks of never occurred and due to differing statements shows her accountability of honesty but needless to say this is tearing me apart. I sit up at night crying my heart out and am finding things hard at the minute. My new girlfriend has been a rock as has my family but it doesn't stop the pain of what is. I have been a law abiding person all my life and tried to do what is right all the time.
I've since the events employed a barrister but am still waiting to hear how the CPS want to proceed and it's killing me even though I know I stand on truth I have no faith in the system of things especially in the light of recent news events.
Sorry it's longish (really shortened down though as it can actually go on for pages) but I needed to vent and feel this is a good way to get off my chest. I have become afraid.
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