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In march last year my wife of 12 years told me she was gay we have 4 kids 1 of which is my stepchild we tried to work things out between march and April but because she admitted to me she had met some one I lost all trust in her .
This did cause a lot of arguments admittedly mainly me because she used to disappear and turn her phone off ,hide her phone when texting .in the years we was together I never abused her or my kids they are my life she had whatever she wanted and never asked for anything and hand on heart I still do love her . She has changed from been a beautiful blonde in to a what can only be described as gothic rebel hairs black/ purple wears black clothes doc Martin boots ,nose pierced and tattoos .
I refused to leave my kids and basically told her that she was the one who wanted to change her lifestyle she did leave on a couple of occasions but I asked her back as I said I still care for my wife things where getting worse so in August this year I went to see the c.a.b who told me to see a solicitor about residency of the kids that was at 10 in the morning got home and was talking to her . Told her if she was going to leave I wouldn't stop her and that I had an appointment that afternoon for residency of the kids . She said she was going to her sisters at 10.45 that night knock on the door police they arrested me for threats to kill and sexual assault kept me in cells overnight and interviewed me next evening .the threats to kill was supposedly me saying I was going to kill us all .
A few days prior during a telephone conversation she said she wanted to leave the home fresh start I told her I would take us all as in move home and the sexual assault comes from when we was still sleeping in same bed (march to beginning of may ) and we was trying to make a go of thing we did try to be intimate then one night she told me never to do that again I was gutted and she started to sleep downstairs . When I saw her statement she had told the police that in march she told me marriage was over ( never mentioned her sexuality ) told them she started to sleep down stairs in march and that I was abusive throughout the relationship she even has her sister and brother inlaw as witnesses saying I was a control freak and all there statements are more or less identical I have since been charged by the police with sexual assult and harrasment by text/phone calls and sent to crown court for a 3 day trial .
i have a preliminary hearing in February and the trial is in April . I'm not even allowed contact with my kids because social services say I'm a risk to them because I refuse to admit I have. Done wrong and have had a section 47 done and now have to have a risk assessment done . All because I have had a couple of panic attacks . They have told me to see a psychiatrist who even says that I'm suffering from mild depression due to not seeing my kids and what my wife has done to me yet the social services still say I'm at fault . The worst part about all this is I miss my family so much and try to detach myself from the feelings I've got for my wife .after all it is her that wanted to change her lifestyle not me or the kids and all I did was try save my marriage .my main worry is I can prove a lot of what she has said is lies I'm just worried what this will do to my kids tbh I hope she gets charged with perjury maybe then I will get my kids and home back .
I really could do with some one to talk to about this who is /has gone through similar as there doesn't seem to be any kind of help groups out there for this type of thing thanks for reading.
This did cause a lot of arguments admittedly mainly me because she used to disappear and turn her phone off ,hide her phone when texting .in the years we was together I never abused her or my kids they are my life she had whatever she wanted and never asked for anything and hand on heart I still do love her . She has changed from been a beautiful blonde in to a what can only be described as gothic rebel hairs black/ purple wears black clothes doc Martin boots ,nose pierced and tattoos .
I refused to leave my kids and basically told her that she was the one who wanted to change her lifestyle she did leave on a couple of occasions but I asked her back as I said I still care for my wife things where getting worse so in August this year I went to see the c.a.b who told me to see a solicitor about residency of the kids that was at 10 in the morning got home and was talking to her . Told her if she was going to leave I wouldn't stop her and that I had an appointment that afternoon for residency of the kids . She said she was going to her sisters at 10.45 that night knock on the door police they arrested me for threats to kill and sexual assault kept me in cells overnight and interviewed me next evening .the threats to kill was supposedly me saying I was going to kill us all .
A few days prior during a telephone conversation she said she wanted to leave the home fresh start I told her I would take us all as in move home and the sexual assault comes from when we was still sleeping in same bed (march to beginning of may ) and we was trying to make a go of thing we did try to be intimate then one night she told me never to do that again I was gutted and she started to sleep downstairs . When I saw her statement she had told the police that in march she told me marriage was over ( never mentioned her sexuality ) told them she started to sleep down stairs in march and that I was abusive throughout the relationship she even has her sister and brother inlaw as witnesses saying I was a control freak and all there statements are more or less identical I have since been charged by the police with sexual assult and harrasment by text/phone calls and sent to crown court for a 3 day trial .
i have a preliminary hearing in February and the trial is in April . I'm not even allowed contact with my kids because social services say I'm a risk to them because I refuse to admit I have. Done wrong and have had a section 47 done and now have to have a risk assessment done . All because I have had a couple of panic attacks . They have told me to see a psychiatrist who even says that I'm suffering from mild depression due to not seeing my kids and what my wife has done to me yet the social services still say I'm at fault . The worst part about all this is I miss my family so much and try to detach myself from the feelings I've got for my wife .after all it is her that wanted to change her lifestyle not me or the kids and all I did was try save my marriage .my main worry is I can prove a lot of what she has said is lies I'm just worried what this will do to my kids tbh I hope she gets charged with perjury maybe then I will get my kids and home back .
I really could do with some one to talk to about this who is /has gone through similar as there doesn't seem to be any kind of help groups out there for this type of thing thanks for reading.
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