Falsely accused of sexual assault by my wife

[Boys don't cry]

I have printed off my posts too as they should be of use for me with the contents I was posting about tell a different story as to what she told the police in August she has applied for divorce and put me down as unreasonable behaviour but I do intend to contest it if she wants divorce she needs to tell the truth

Unfortunately I am not surprised about the divorce.

I don't want to know about what your conversations in the other website you mentioned but can you prove it is the truth?
Did you show them to your solicitor?
Are they relevant?
You are wise to collect as much information as you canand her texts will be your best evidence.
Please try to focus into the end of your relationship even though it is painfull.

Did you read the disclosure of your case?

Are you sure some members of her family could become some of your Court witnesses?
If not,could you get some character references from them,or from your relatives(but not from your own family members)?

Keep faith.

[Yorkster]

Unfortunately I am not surprised about the divorce.

I don't want to know about what your conversations in the other website you mentioned but can you prove it is the truth?
Did you show them to your solicitor?
Are they relevant?
You are wise to collect as much information as you canand her texts will be your best evidence.
Please try to focus into the end of your relationship even though it is painfull.

Did you read the disclosure of your case?

Are you sure some members of her family could become some of your Court witnesses?
If not,could you get some character references from them,or from your relatives(but not from your own family members)?

Keep faith.

My solicitor has all papers regarding texts and websites and her relatives have said they will stand up in court on my behalf . I have plenty of people who knew us both willing to also be court witnesses. As for disclosure I haven't seen anything as of yet thanks

[Yorkster]

Good luck with your fight ,it must be so very hard when the ones you love betray you in this way , I'm sure a jury will see her motives,if it gets that far,it seems to me that an awful lot of these cases are thrown out shortly before trial,it's so easy to say but please try to keep things in perspective,you know the truth so stay strong and focused and don't give in .
There will always be somebody here to talk to when you are at a low point.

The worst thing about all this is I still love my wife so much . I don't want to hate her she is the mother to my kids .also I can't understand why she wouldn't want my kids to have contact with me .

I haven't seen them since the beginning of September 2012 and that is tearing me apart . My kids were such a large part of my life I used to take them every where with me ,tuck them in bed every night ,get up with them when they were poorly. Now I've been replaced by another woman . There is so much going on in my head at the moment with the trial coming up and the court date for the family case that I'm also trying to fight . I used to be such a strong man who went through life without a care in the world lived each day as it came and faced any problems we had head on .

Now I'm a shadow of myself ,lost 5 stone in weight sleep about 2 /3 hours a night and wake up most mornings a shivering wreck . The main reason I'm like this is because of my children , and the social services seem to be backing my wife .
I rang them last week to tell them about her girlfriend , they didn't have a clue .told me that anyone who has contact with my kids have to be checked out by them . But she didn't mention her to them . She also told them she is scared to go out in case she bumps in to me ,she was in town the other day on her own getting her hair done , people tell me they see her out laughing with her friends ,going clubbing having fun . She just seems to be able to pull the wool over the eyes of the authorities involved and I'm the one made to look like I've done wrong and have mental health issues.

I am seeing someone from the health unit on a weekly basis but they even say the way I am / have been is down to my wife's disclosure about her sexuality ,the way she was secretive about her phone/disappearing during the day and the way I was taken away from my home in front of my kids and not been able to see my kids .

I could never in a million years hurt my wife/kids they were what made life so wonderful .before her disclosure we never argued and did everything together . Could I see it coming ? No I've looked through all our text messages from 2011 to march 2012 and there was no inclination of anything been wrong . Even people close to us were so shocked .
Sorry for going on just having one of those mornings

[Saffron]

Yorkster, it does you good to let it all out every now and again.
I'm so sorry about your kids, it must be so awful for you.
Sending you cyber-hugs

[Boys don't cry]

Yorkster.

Sometimes there are married members falsely accused by their wives and they didn't see it coming either.
It took me so long to see my son but you can't imagine how proud I am to have fought my innocence and my freedom for him.

Try to concentrate on the rape case first because it is the most important at the moment.
Remember you are not alone,it will be hard but it is well worth it.
Trust me.

Take care.

[just married]

So sorry, Yorkster.

JM

[myhome]

be strong Yorkster - there's lots of support here for you ...

[Yorkster]

Can't believe what she did yesterday . She walked past my 17 year old niece with her girlfriend arms round her touching her up laughing then turned to my nice and laughed at her .

She has told the social services no other person / woman is involved in her life . My kids mean the world to me and me not been ble to protect them from the life they are experiencing now is tearing me apart .

I sent them some presents up t Xmas with my sister and she told me she stood at the door been so cocky with her . When the kids opened the presents ( I got them android tablets) she said to my sister , I got them them ,I might as well take mine back and cancel Christmas now it's ruined for me ! .

What about my kids talking to dad that doesn't seem to matter to her at all .as long as she has her life and all the things I put in to our house its sod you and sod the kids feelings . I really can't wait to get her in to crown court and maybe then I will have some kind of life with my kids .. Thanks so much for the messages of support it really does help to know there are people out there who do care xx

[Rights Fighter]

If you can provide evidence (not to the police but to the solicitor) that can 'correct a false impression' - for instance she may claim she is having a bad time and never goes out / is not in a relationship with anybody - that may be helpful at trial.

I've used Facebook evidence in a family court matter when the lying mother and her lying daughter claimed they were too scared to go out of the house in case he was waiting for them, and if they did go out (food shopping) they would be scared to come home in case he was lurking in the shadows.

They claimed they had not been away and had no social life. I provided Facebook evidence that 'corrected those false impressions' and it was used to help our man get contact with his son. The ex partner attempted to throw up more smokescreens and the judge apparently wearily told her 'madam it is clear you are lying....' or words to that effect.

[Yorkster]

If you can provide evidence (not to the police but to the solicitor) that can 'correct a false impression' - for instance she may claim she is having a bad time and never goes out / is not in a relationship with anybody - that may be helpful at trial.

I've used Facebook evidence in a family court matter when the lying mother and her lying daughter claimed they were too scared to go out of the house in case he was waiting for them, and if they did go out (food shopping) they would be scared to come home in case he was lurking in the shadows.

They claimed they had not been away and had no social life. I provided Facebook evidence that 'corrected those false impressions' and it was used to help our man get contact with his son. The ex partner attempted to throw up more smokescreens and the judge apparently wearily told her 'madam it is clear you are lying....' or words to that effect.

She doesn't have Facebook but when her and her girlfriend walked past my niece last week outside her work her boss was stood with her and saw everything don't know if that can be used . Plus the same day they passed my daughters boyfriend and he told me they were laughing and joking with each other . In fact he said to me , I though she was ill she looked fine to me . The ss said they will also be investigating her claims as well

[lawlessone2009]

Be careful what you ask of SS. If they turn their wrath on your (soon to be ex?)wife and decide that she has something 'wrong' with her that is a danger to the kids then they could well take the kids into care (depending of course on their age!!). Not saying it will happen but be careful. As mentioned earlier focus on your own case at the moment.

If this evidence regarding your partner and the women contradicts something that she has stated then it could be used. Pass it by your solicitor and see what they say. It's not really as if you can get confussed or forget that you're in a relationship. There's also no reason to hide the fact you're in a relationship so I don't see why she'd not be open and honest about it after all it'll probably come up at trial anyway.

[Yorkster]

Don't know how to look at this now

Rang my criminal sol up today for an update on the papers from the crown court and try get a date for a meeting with my barrister .
They rang me back telling me that the cps hadn't released the papers to the courts as they have asked the police for more information . What next just want this nightmare over

[So angry and hurt]

So hurt and angry

Well maybe that's a good thing,lots of these cases take a year and more,they never seem to rush,it's so easy for me to say but just stay focused on what you can do and keep yourself together, it might be that there simply isn't enough evidence and that might be why there's a hold up .

[Yorkster]

Well maybe that's a good thing,lots of these cases take a year and more,they never seem to rush,it's so easy for me to say but just stay focused on what you can do and keep yourself together, it might be that there simply isn't enough evidence and that might be why there's a hold up .

The prelim is in 3 weeks and trial set for 3 days in April that's what I can't understand surely if they recon they had enough evidence to charge me then it would just go ahead really don't want not enough evidence I never hurt my wife in my life and would rather prove it than people saying he supposedly did that to his wife .
Could I take charges out against her for the false claims , looking back when she came out so to speak she relly got in my head with the , I want both you and the lesbian side of life , her disapering during day hiding phone , saying she was at collage when she wasn't the way she changed. Her appearance in to a goth ,

How could a woman who had your kids and spent all those years together expect her husband to share her with another woman and turn a blind eye . Worst thing is I said yes at first , then told her I couldn't go through with it and share my wife .

[just married]

Hang in there, Yorkster. They say time is a healer, and I never believed that, but now I'm getting to see it.... You will look back on all of this someday.

Keep on keeping on. Try to relax when you can. Look after yourself. Eat, sleep, walk, run, ... breathe. There will be ok days.

By the way, ten years of construction enabled me to 'retire' for a while.

Good luck with what's ahead, and take care.

JM