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I need some help and advice with a situation I am going through at the moment.
I was married for 2 and a half years and recently split on the 4th of September. She was very psychotic and on the 4th threatened to kill me with a knife and then went on to trashing the house ( I was voice recording this whole incident as this is not the first time she has acted like this). I didn?t call the police, I called her parents who came and after 2 hours of arguing they left. Prior to this we had been living in separate rooms for several months. (unfortunatley I don't have the recording as it was a new phone and it crashed)
I had contact with her father after this as I had taken out a loan for him and I wanted him to sign a document to confirm he will continue paying this back. He said he will think about it but wanted to wait until he came back from holiday. I wasn?t prepared to wait so I let him know that I needed an answer before he left.
I telephoned him on the 7th and asked if he had come to a decision. He acted dumb - making out I didn?t give him a loan, so I informed him that I would be going to the Police and the Homeoffice. On that night I went to the police station and reported the threats and the criminal damage caused to the house. I voice recorded this whole telephone conversation.
I had been off from work for several days and on the 8th when I returned I noticed I had received an email from her sent on in the mourning of the 7th asking to wait for her father to get back and we can then sort out the divorce procedure (all written in a amicable manner).
I wanted to get a quick divorce which I was unable to as she had stolen the marriage certificate and some of my other personal items. I went to her parents house to get these items and called her in advance (I informed the police I was doing this incase there was any trouble). The police didn?t turn up when I asked them to but when she called they did. It was then that the police officer informed me that some allegations have been made against me.
Two days later I went in to the police station for questioning and am currently released on bail until the 7th of November when I will be told if they are going to charge me or not. My Solicitor was present and advised me that they need to wait for the hospital reports and to collect evidence.
She claims that I raped her on the date we broke up (4th September) but only went to the hospital/ police on the 7th ? the time was not disclosed to me but it must have been after the telephone conversation I had with them.
She has made up a story up about how I forced her on to the floor and raped her because she said no, she has a small bruise on her leg from this. Now I know this bruise was there before the 4th of September. We did have sex on the 4th which she instigated but I stopped because I knew she was using it as a way of trying to get us back together and didn?t ejaculate. However, later that day her friend came round and she did her hair for her?
I provided the police with the email she sent me on the morning of the 7th and also the recording made with me telling them I will be going to the police. I also gave them recording that were made previously where she threatened to ruin my life if I left her and she also threatens me with a knife.
The thing is that I have all this evidence which shows this is revenge and these allegations have come from my threat. I am going through hell at the moment because I?ve just found out that she?s going out having fun, going out with another guy ? these are the actions of a woman that?s been raped?
I?m getting very depressed and angry that someone can try to ruin my life like this. Is there any advice anyone can give me on what else I can do? I?ve spoken to other police officers who assure me the police are not stupid but my life is in their hands at the moment.
We had sex on that date but so will they be looking for forced entry on the hospital reports, rips, damage etc etc?
Can they tell how old that bruise is and what she got it from?
Will they prosecute her when they figure out this is revenge?
Are they keeping an eye on her to see what she is doing?
any help and advice would be much appreicated [img]style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif[/img]
I was married for 2 and a half years and recently split on the 4th of September. She was very psychotic and on the 4th threatened to kill me with a knife and then went on to trashing the house ( I was voice recording this whole incident as this is not the first time she has acted like this). I didn?t call the police, I called her parents who came and after 2 hours of arguing they left. Prior to this we had been living in separate rooms for several months. (unfortunatley I don't have the recording as it was a new phone and it crashed)
I had contact with her father after this as I had taken out a loan for him and I wanted him to sign a document to confirm he will continue paying this back. He said he will think about it but wanted to wait until he came back from holiday. I wasn?t prepared to wait so I let him know that I needed an answer before he left.
I telephoned him on the 7th and asked if he had come to a decision. He acted dumb - making out I didn?t give him a loan, so I informed him that I would be going to the Police and the Homeoffice. On that night I went to the police station and reported the threats and the criminal damage caused to the house. I voice recorded this whole telephone conversation.
I had been off from work for several days and on the 8th when I returned I noticed I had received an email from her sent on in the mourning of the 7th asking to wait for her father to get back and we can then sort out the divorce procedure (all written in a amicable manner).
I wanted to get a quick divorce which I was unable to as she had stolen the marriage certificate and some of my other personal items. I went to her parents house to get these items and called her in advance (I informed the police I was doing this incase there was any trouble). The police didn?t turn up when I asked them to but when she called they did. It was then that the police officer informed me that some allegations have been made against me.
Two days later I went in to the police station for questioning and am currently released on bail until the 7th of November when I will be told if they are going to charge me or not. My Solicitor was present and advised me that they need to wait for the hospital reports and to collect evidence.
She claims that I raped her on the date we broke up (4th September) but only went to the hospital/ police on the 7th ? the time was not disclosed to me but it must have been after the telephone conversation I had with them.
She has made up a story up about how I forced her on to the floor and raped her because she said no, she has a small bruise on her leg from this. Now I know this bruise was there before the 4th of September. We did have sex on the 4th which she instigated but I stopped because I knew she was using it as a way of trying to get us back together and didn?t ejaculate. However, later that day her friend came round and she did her hair for her?
I provided the police with the email she sent me on the morning of the 7th and also the recording made with me telling them I will be going to the police. I also gave them recording that were made previously where she threatened to ruin my life if I left her and she also threatens me with a knife.
The thing is that I have all this evidence which shows this is revenge and these allegations have come from my threat. I am going through hell at the moment because I?ve just found out that she?s going out having fun, going out with another guy ? these are the actions of a woman that?s been raped?
I?m getting very depressed and angry that someone can try to ruin my life like this. Is there any advice anyone can give me on what else I can do? I?ve spoken to other police officers who assure me the police are not stupid but my life is in their hands at the moment.
We had sex on that date but so will they be looking for forced entry on the hospital reports, rips, damage etc etc?
Can they tell how old that bruise is and what she got it from?
Will they prosecute her when they figure out this is revenge?
Are they keeping an eye on her to see what she is doing?
any help and advice would be much appreicated [img]style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif[/img]
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