Falsely accused by ex

[catterz]

Well, I said before I was contacted by one of her friends who was asked to give a statement to the police. He said he spoke to them on the phone again and told them the allegation was false and thinks that my ex is just doing it to hurt me. Apparently he's their strongest witness and she supposedly told him all about the incident. He didn't have a clue what they were talking about.

Looks good in my favour I suppose if one of her (no longer) close friends has gone against her.

[Rights Fighter]

If this bunkum does proceed your sol can take a statement from this alleged strongest witness anyway. He would be cross-examined by your barrister in such a way that his perspective would come out.

[catterz]

He's also just now informed me that he heard through another friend of hers that my ex would drop the case against me if I were to drop the ABH charges against her. I had previously explained to her family that I was not given an option to do so by the police. It was taken out of my hands because she committed a violent crime.

[Rights Fighter]

Oh jolly dee! If this rubbish proceeds that can be used against her in cross-examanition....

[Faith]

It isn't in her power to 'drop the charges'
Once the police have commenced the investigation, it is up to them/CPS how long they look at it for.

As RF says though, this will undermine her should this go further...

[Rights Fighter]

Well, she could walk into the police station and say 'this is a load of old cobblers I have lied' but then she will leave herself wide open to charges of 'wasting police time', or 'attempting to pervert the course of justice' (but never 'making a false allegation of sexual abuse')....

She is unlikely to admit to lying at this late stage because of the risk of her own freedom......

[catterz]

Last night I was contacted by another of her friends who told me that she was also called to give a statement. She said she knew nothing of the allegation, but was afraid of giving the statement in case anything she said convicted me. Again, one of her closest friends completely on my side. I said to her that the police are only doing their duty and will probably ask if you knew about the allegation and what you knew of our relationship. She said she felt better about going down there.

Apparently, despite what the police told me, my ex has been bailed to this friend's house, not her parents. She said that my ex has been doing her head in. She said she didn't believe a word she says about both incidents. They've been arguing about it a lot as well, with her friend telling my ex that she's out of order and shouldn't be doing this. Also, she said that my ex is taking a lot of anti-depressants and is pretty much just sleeping all day, feeling dizzy and drowsy and not really eating.

She informed me that my possessions were safe in my house and that her daughter had moved out, taking everything that belonged to my ex with her. I was also told that my ex is pushing the police to interview my previous girlfriend to see if I had ever sexually assaulted her! That particular ex hates me for reasons truly unknown, but nothing ever happened there, I just hope she doesn't get contacted and lie out of spite.

The last thing she told me was my ex is going to plead Not Guilty for her charges of ABH! As it stands, pleading guilty would mean she's likely to get away with community service. If it goes to Crown Court she could get a prison sentence. And then I will likely be called to court as a witness.

Needless to say with all this new information swimming around in my head I didn't get much sleep last night. One question I still had outstanding for you guys is: what happens when I go to the police station for my bail?

[Faith]

You may be rebailed, reinterviewed, charged or be informed that No Further Action is being taken against you. best to get the solicitor to contact the police a couple of days before the bail date to get an idea of the likely outcome.

[IvorBinWronged]

What about...

...Contacting HER ex to see if she had been previously violent and/or had made any FA against them? Also, what's to stop her making FA's against the men in the bail addresses friend's life. A shot across that bow could be a consideration. Heck, what's protecting the liar guy? Would he like a spite-induced FA. She'll always be believed after all...

Do not let her gather her thoughts for a moment because you are fighting to keep yourself out of prison for a rape.

Good luck.

[catterz]

Well I went to the station this evening for my bail appointment and have been re-bailed until the 16th November. Didn't get much information from the officer. He just said they're still investigating. Apparently they've been to my home whilst I was in France but didn't seize anything for evidence; and they're having trouble getting one of the witnesses in for a statement.

I'm currently in the process of moving my possessions out of the old house as I don't feel safe there and have found a place to stay with a friend on a semi-permanent basis.

I've been in touch with my solicitor to let them know about my re-bail.

It's just a huge waiting game now.

[Faith]

Don't be disheartened by this rebail...I did think a week was an awfully short bail time.

Someone may like to correct me if I am wrong, but I am under the impression that police can only enter the property and search it at the time of your arrest or with a warrant. And have you checked that something hasn't gone missing or mysteriously appeared. Sounds awfully paranoid but you wouldn't be the first to be the victim of unscrupulous police forces.

Keep everything between you and your solicitor. It may come that the police want to speak to you or someone on your side...ask your solicitor first...always. Do not bypass your solicitor and go to the police.

The only other thing you can do is try to get on with your life as normally as possible. The waiting is difficult, but you will get there.

[Rights Fighter]

................Apparently they've been to my home whilst I was in France but didn't seize anything for evidence; and they're having trouble getting one of the witnesses in for a statement.........

If this is one of your witnesses keep pushing and do what you can to find his location.

[NotSoHappy]

I know the annoyance of a ridiculously short ball date followed by one into the future. They could well wrap things up much sooner, or twiddle their thumbs until November. The waiting game is stomach churning, but as silly as this sounds just try and get on with as normal a life as possible, sometimes the simple things make you feel a million times better.x

[catterz]

Still no news on my case, unfortunately. I did have a call a few weeks ago regarding her ABH charge. She's now going to Crown court and I've been waiting for a letter which hasn't arrived yet with details of the proceedings.

On another note, I seem to have nearly completely lost my libido since all of this has happened. I had sex for the first time since being accused Friday night/Saturday morning. It was a one night stand, which I'm really not used to having, and embarrassingly I suffered with ED. This girl was amazingly attractive and definitely turned me on, but I was unable to maintain an erection during intercourse. Now, there are a lot of factors here, I know. I was quite drunk Friday night and equally hungover in the morning. It also may have been quite intimidating seeing as how attractive this girl was. She had the same name as my ex who accused me too, which probably didn't help! All of this said, I may have simply been worried about another accusation. Obviously I didn't tell her what had been going on, and I think it's unlikely that she would.

Don't suppose anyone else has experienced this and has any advice? (I've already been to the GUM)

Also, I really appreciate the advice and support I've received through all of this, so thank you to all.

[Izzy]

It might sound harsh but my only advice would be to stay clear of drunken one night stands