Been accused of rape by me wife of 16yrs

[Faith]

At the moment there's not a fat lot a solicitor can do. However, do get in touch with one who does legal aid. When Rights Fighter comes on, she may know of a solicitor in your area.
But, the solicitor is only paid for the police station visits so anything they do other than that will be through goodwill. Any evidence you gather, give to your solicitor. Do not speak to the police unless you speak to your solicitor.

If your wife contacts you in any way shape or form, screen shot it (look at the thread on the forum about taking screenshots if you don't know how) and save them on a seperate memory drive/stick, which I advise you to store in a secret place and give a copy to your solicitor.

You may well not be charged. Take this in small steps. Many people worry about trials/prison etc now...it's too early to think that far ahead when it might not even get there.
Often cases are NFA'd,often they are not.
But take comfort in the fact that IF you are charged, you will get far more information to pull apart than you currently do.

Look after yourself.

[Boys don't cry]

Because she has named him as one of the men that are supposed to of raped her!!!

But she has never seen him before,how did she get his name?

Take care and keep faith.

[slimboyfat]

At the moment there's not a fat lot a solicitor can do. However, do get in touch with one who does legal aid. When Rights Fighter comes on, she may know of a solicitor in your area.
But, the solicitor is only paid for the police station visits so anything they do other than that will be through goodwill. Any evidence you gather, give to your solicitor. Do not speak to the police unless you speak to your solicitor.

If your wife contacts you in any way shape or form, screen shot it (look at the thread on the forum about taking screenshots if you don't know how) and save them on a seperate memory drive/stick, which I advise you to store in a secret place and give a copy to your solicitor.

You may well not be charged. Take this in small steps. Many people worry about trials/prison etc now...it's too early to think that far ahead when it might not even get there.
Often cases are NFA'd,often they are not.
But take comfort in the fact that IF you are charged, you will get far more information to pull apart than you currently do.

Look after yourself.

We have to have some contact because of the children,But at the moment she wont give me her contact numbers to speak to the children which is the hardest part of all this. My children dont know why i didnt pick them up this weekend and ive had no contact with them since last thursday.

But she has never seen him before,how did she get his name?

She only got his name when i was made to sign an undertaking by the court after she accused him of headbutting my middle child and she then had his full name,which she then gave to the police after she had found out id been arrested.

[Boys don't cry]

She only got his name when i was made to sign an undertaking by the court after she accused him of headbutting my middle child and she then had his full name,which she then gave to the police after she had found out id been arrested.

Did you accept and sign this undertaking by the court?

I hope you will see your children soon but at the moment you must really concentrate on yourself.

[slimboyfat]

Did you accept and sign this undertaking by the court?

I hope you will see your children soon but at the moment you must really concentrate on yourself.

Yes i did,it was to not permit my friend and his girlfriend to have any contact with the children, she only pushed for it because they have been helping me through this case with the children but she made up lies about them in court.. she is trying her best to cut my friends off from me but the more she tries the more they stand by me..I need to see my children if only to make sure they are okay and reasure them that i love them and will do forever,i know i need to concentrate on me but i have always put them first and formost..

[Boys don't cry]

She only got his name when i was made to sign an undertaking by the court after she accused him of headbutting my middle child and she then had his full name,which she then gave to the police after she had found out id been arrested.

So she did meet him,

She can't have guess a story about someone hitting your child,
bring you to court and you were made to sign about this "friend".

Then ,she's never seen him but should recognise him in County court just by knowing his name.
And this same person would be accused of rape by your wife he never met...

I am sure you love your children and hope the best for you.
But sometimes life is a ...
Take care.

[slimboyfat]

So she did meet him.

Nope he was in the waiting area most of the day,but she told the court that my boy told her that he was headbutted by my friend.She only realised he was with me when we were sat together at the end of court hearings until then she had no idea who he was even earlier in the day when they passed on the stairs,surly if your in a court house and you have accused a person of doing this you would inform someone there and then where there was police and even her solicitor

[Boys don't cry]

Yes i did,it was to not permit my friend ...

So you signed (agreed) that your "friend" headbutted your son...

You can't be on both sides.

He can't be a "friend" or you mean that your son lied to your wife.

If anyone would do this to mine ,I would even sign a pact with the D...l against him.
So I hope you were right to sign this but I can't believe you are talking about a "friend".

Why did you let other men taking advantage of your wife as well?
If you loved her I don't think you would have accepted this.

You let your wife under medication being abused by other men...

The CPS ,the barristers,the jury will question you about everything.

I am still wondering about your son and your "friend"?

[slimboyfat]

So she did meet him,

She can't have guess a story about someone hitting your child,
bring you to court and you were made to sign about this "friend".

Then ,she's never seen him but should recognise him in County court just by knowing his name.
And this same person would be accused of rape by your wife he never met...

I am sure you love your children and hope the best for you.
But sometimes life is a ...
Take care.

The hearing was not 1 she brought against me it was already a booked hearing in the ongoing dispute about the children,the undertaking was not about my friend hitting my son,it was just to not permit him his girlfrien and another couple i know who have 4 children to have contact with the children because sha does not like them.She told the court the wife of the other couple has a history of violence which i not correct but the court said for now it would be easier for me to do this so as not tobe accused of more things,my barrister advised me it was not to imply that anything had happened.She only knew who he was from the description the children would have given her because after contact with me they are sat down and questioned about everything that has gone on whilst they have been with me.

So you signed (agreed) that your "friend" headbutted your son...

You can't be on both sides.

He can't be a "friend" or you mean that your son lied to your wife.

If anyone would do this to mine ,I would even sign a pact with the D...l against him.
So I hope you were right to sign this but I can't believe you are talking about a "friend".

Why did you let other men taking advantage of your wife as well?
If you loved her I don't think you would have accepted this.

You let your wife under medication being abused by other men...

The CPS ,the barristers,the jury will question you about everything.

I am still wondering about your son and your "friend"?

As i said my friend did not touch my son its just another allegation she has made up to make it harder for me to see my children,i did not sign to say he hit my son just that for the interim i would not permit contact.

Nobody ever took advantage of my wife we were swingers,I did love her very much but after the lies she has told about me im finding it hard to even think about her,

[Rights Fighter]

If you cannot afford to pay privately and if you are not far from Bristol I suggest you contact Ian Kelcey solicitors.

http://www.kelceyandhall.co.uk/ Ian is the guy I would choose. He is a solicitor Advocate I believe or may well have now qualified as a barrister for his own firm of solicitors.

[Boys don't cry]

My barrister advised me it was not to imply that anything had happened.She only knew who he was from the description the children would have given her

Your barrister is only right but:

If nothing had happened ,the children wouldn't give a description of an innocent man.

[lawlessone2009]

So...

Let me get this right.

Your wife is claiming rape. Not just by one man (you) on one occasion but by several men on several occasions?

That seems incredible!

And it's all down to medication?

If I took medication and my partner set up a situation so that I could be raped then I sure as hell wouldn't take the medication again and I would leave my partner.

The other thing I find odd is that not one of these men actually questioned the situation. Having sex with an extremely drunk or highly medicated/drugged woman doesn't hit me as anything of interest. What is the point? I am sure that one of 'several' men would've raised some questions and encouraged her to act on it yet it's only when the kids custody battle is being played out in court and she's loosing that any of this comes up...............

She is a sick lady and it's not medication she needs.

[diana_holbourn]

There's something about the bit about medication that seems odd to me too; if the post means epilepsy medication, surely that wouldn't make a person weak and unable to move? Epilepsy drugs work by rather more sophisticated means, and I'm not aware that extreme muscle relaxation is a side effect of any epilepsy drug. Of course I might be wrong, not being that knowledgeable on the subject, but I find it highly doubtful. I've known several people with epilepsy, and none of them had problems like that. Unless she was on some pretty strong tranquillisers as well!


But if she was, surely it wouldn't be a long-term medication, and since the crimes are alleged to have taken place on several occasions over some time, she would have to have a pretty severe problem to be that dosed up with tranquillisers or a similar medication that many times.


... And if she's got a problem that severe, and takes medication that powerful as often as that, which would surely stop her running about after children as well as stopping her fighting off rapists, ... are the children really safe with her, one wonders?

[largactyl1]

I take epilepsy medication and can confirm that there are NO sedative effects. The only major side-effect is a bit of nausea and if you forget to take them, you are liable to have a seizure.