How to get over the fear??

[innocentperson]

Hi there,

Well, it's been a long while now and you have heard nothing so it seems unlikely (but possible I guess) that anything will ever come of it. Hopefully over time you will think of it less and less until it becomes a distant memory. Keep hold of any evidence, but put it away. Plus, write down any concerns you have, or any contact - and put that away too.

It is very hard not to think of something - eg if I said "Don't think of cabbages" what do you immediately think of? But it will fade - probably has faded quite a lot for you as we speak. Something that has such a terrible emotional and psychological impact upon you will probably always make you cautious about physical relationships but maybe (if it's mild) is not a bad thing on the whole.

Very best wishes to you
Jen

I hope so. I try not to think about it, but I also try to not forget it completely also because I think that it's something to learn from, even if nothing ever happens. I just hope that the longer things go, the less of a chance anything actually happens.

[innocentperson]

Another reason why I keep it so quiet too is because I don't want my family freaking out over it. If they found out, I know tey'd be worried, and I don't want to add the extra stress, as well as any potential overreaction.

[Izzy]

I'm worried that I'll be reported. Given that it hasn't happened for over 2 years, but I feel like this is something that will never go away. I'm not worried about anyone trying to beat me up. I've read stories about how people just go about their lives then one day cops show up, and they get arrested for no reason, and it scares me. I'm a college student who's trying to strive for the best, but I worry that something could happen and I'll lose my opportunities at everything.

I think you should continue to strive for the best.
The accusation was made over two years ago and didn't go anywhere, don't let it ruin your life.

[innocentperson]

I think you should continue to strive for the best.
The accusation was made over two years ago and didn't go anywhere, don't let it ruin your life.

Thank you, that's what I'm trying to do. It just comes back to scare me sometimes that's all, I'm just a little over the top today cuz I had some crazy dream about it yesterday.

[wunderland]

You know if you got some spare cash instead of suffering so much you could go to a hypnotist................I had a good friend harry he was a gambling addict and a 3 pack a say cigarette smoker after a few sessions of hypnotherapy he was cured it really is amazing I to have used it and it has helped me as well stop smoking a pack a day i quit it has cured massive anxiety problems I also don't drink after i finished my sessions

[Boys don't cry]

BOYS DONT CRY
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Why would he be playing with fire if he has done nothing?

My advice would be, if he was attacked by her friends and family. It could be the no win situation, dammed if he don't, dammed if he does.

if he was to report it first, If there is no evidence there, CPS could look at it that he went first, what has he to hide, as people don't go to the Police with something as serious as this to confess.
I am just wondering what your past experience is on this?

Who said he did ???
It is just precaution,remember!

Don't you know there is no smoke without fire?
In case there is fire,get yourself ready.

Don't you have fire alarms in your house?
What are they here for?:to protect you.

What is my experience???.
I let yourself find out.

[Boys don't cry]

Because every allegation be it true or false will be investigated.

Thank you Izzy.

[Boys don't cry]

@ gareth589 and Innocentperson.

I will stop talking about fire but come back to reality.
I wouldn't worry too much until the police is involved.
Get on with your life and try to forget about it.

The only advice I can give you at the moment is to take concrete,material,...notes of everything that might be suspicious.

[Boys don't cry]

BOYS DONT CRY
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Why would he be playing with fire if he has done nothing?

My advice would be, if he was attacked by her friends and family. It could be the no win situation, dammed if he don't, dammed if he does.

if he was to report it first, If there is no evidence there, CPS could look at it that he went first, what has he to hide, as people don't go to the Police with something as serious as this to confess.

I am just wondering what your past experience is on this?

About the no win situation,do you refer to the advert "No win,no fee situation"?

If he was to report it first,good luck to him.

Why would you visit the police station if you had nothing to hide,it is like one of my previous post where I stated
Why would you admit to be guilty for a lower time in jail if you are innocent from the beginning.

Please before you confuse one of the member,get yourself a bit more informed.

@Innocentperson

Do not contact the police,enjoy your life and if you feel something is a bit suspicious just record it somewhere safe.

Take care and trust me if you can.

[innocentperson]

@ Boys Don't Cry

I see where you're coming from completely. I have no intention of going to the police unless something actually happened. I'll be sure to write down and keep safe everything that happened. Thank you for the information.

Thanks everyone, you've all been a great help and really gave me good advice.