Help Accused of Historic Sexual Touching

[Amre]

A little background, I have no convictions for any sexual crimes or been arrested for anything to do with sexual crimes before, I know I have nothing to worry about regarding the computer and camera seized from my home, and there will be no one else coming out of the woodwork to say I did this to them etc.

I know some people will disagree but I find it hard to beleave that anyone can be a pedophile by proxy. Yes your dad did what he did and now the cops are trying to nail you into this "ring" of sexual predators. The only other thing that has me stumped is this girls motives. If she wanted the same attention the other girl was getting, she could of said your dad did something and she would of been beleved without question because of the thumbnail. You are pretty clear about what happened but she remembers things differently. I understand there was drink involved so both memory's could be inaccurate. Do you think its possible that this happened to the girl when she was drunk and she just assumed it was you? Maybe it did happen as she remembers it but it was your dad.

[Casehardened]

Hi,

I imagine what has happened is that the OIC in your fathers case has gone round and questioned all the female relatives in the family to see if any of them were also assaulted by him, (just as he was going to question your daughters regarding this) and your niece has said "no, but...." and for some reason has made the allegation against you.

Do you know (from the police interview) if your niece told anyone about this alleged assault at the time? If so this would make it more credible than having made it now possibly for the reasons that Faith and Saffron have suggested.

[a269]

The police at interview did not mention anything about it being told to anybody at the time. One thing that worries me though is that my daughter came to see me and asked me if this allegation was true, I told her that it wasn't, she was very upset obviously and I comforted her, I told her that the police would ask her questions about me and to tell the truth. Yesterday I got a phone call from the OIC telling me that she knew my daughter came to see me, whilst its not a bail condition not to see my children, she advised me against it, which is what I told my daughter any way.

However in my paranoia I am starting to believe that my wife sent in my daughter because she thought that my bail conditions where not to see my children, and that I would be re-arrested. This incident was supposed to have happened at my Fathers house by the way not my sisters house as in the previous posts.

My Fathere had gone to bed at the time of the alleged incident, just after he retired he went to the loo and called down is everything alright down there or something along those lines, this was due to the fact my niece was crying, because of what I had said to her, I responded yes everything is fine, he went to bed. What worries me is due to the seriousness of his own case, will the police try to put words in his mouth about what went on to get him a lesser sentence? if this just appears wild paranoia, then please forgive me. It's just that I feel like my head is going to explode, on Monday i will be making an appointment to see my GP as I think my mental state is spiraling out of control. I am fresh out of family, I have two friends only and one of those lives many miles from me, I have had to rent a spartan small flat, all of my belongings were dumped outside my work place, my debts are starting to mount, I just don't think i will make this. My mind is running 10 fold, I'm even running over scenarios of being found guilty and going to prison, then being homeless on release. I just don't know where to turn, If this goes to court what do you do? If you spend time in prison for this, then have no place to live what do you do? I realise that this is a long way off at the moment but I am just going out of my mind with worry.

[Rights Fighter]

Your dad doesn't have any impact on you but I can kind of see where Wunderland is coming from. Your entire family is probably being checked out just now! I wouldn't think that if your father is charged and convicted it will have much bearing on your circumstances. Keep your head down, start reading all about sex crimes on here (alleged!) and other forums (by god is it boring but necessary) and ask us lots of questions.

The police will probably investigate the possibility of a familial paedophile ring if there is more than one complainant who cites another assailant who is a family member, so they may well question other members with that in mind.

You will need to come up with a strong motive for the complainant (against you) to lie. If she was very young it could be that she has confused who assaulted her, if indeed, she was assaulted.

[RFLH]

calm down and breathe.

Yes it all consuming, but you must take time out - however much you don't want to. Try to go out for a short walk. No you haven't got a huge sign over your head and neither is anyone going to look at you. The general public are far too involved in their own lives!

You must see your dr as soon as you can. There is always The Samaritans too.

No dark talk allowed on here - how can you prove your innocence if you're no longer here? How would your family feel?

Keep posting.