Falsely accused of rape by my wife of 12 weeks

[RFLH]

chapess sounds like something a cowboy would wear!

JM, you picked a wrong 'un, just like so many of us have. You will get to the point when you realise that you're much better off without her - you don't hurt the people you love.

[Boys don't cry]

chapess sounds like something a cowboy would wear!


JM, you picked a wrong 'un, just like so many of us have. You will get to the point when you realise that you're much better off without her - you don't hurt the people you love.

RFLH: Do you mean chapeau?

I am sure that you will be better off .

JM.When you'll have a bit of time,I know you will read this book.
I did when I was on bail and charged,so I can assure you that I couldn't concentrate on anything.
I just couldn't believe that some other people could live this.

I was ready to try to meet the author but another man did say that it was impossible.
She is too much of a feminist and you wouldn't even get an appointment from her secretary.

Anyway ,I learnt what is a narcissistic pervert and Thanks God :I am nearly out of this relation.

"When a woman wants to betray her husband, her actions are almost invariably studied but they are never reasoned".

Honore de Balzac

[just married]

or chapeuse, perhaps.

RFLH, at my last (sporadic) counselling session, I mentioned this.
I think we all hurt the people we love. Inadvertently, or deliberately, it's part of the human condition, and a part of growing up. Most of us, however, will apologise and try to repair the damage and make amends for the hurt. Some will even keep score. We are human, and therefore imperfect.

Reading Marie-France Hirigoyen's 'Stalking the Soul', particularly from chapters 5 and 6 onwards, has opened my eyes, and affirmed in me that I can abandon any hope of explanation, justification, discourse or argument from my accuser.

Perverse narcissistic abuse indeed.

So, BDC, many thanks for the book recommendation. I can now also highly recommend it for those who's consciousness perpetually repeats the question 'why?'.


Also suggested to me, and I found initially very helpful; Paul McKenna and Hugh Wilbourn's 'I can Mend your Broken Heart'. It refers to reinforcing positive neural pathways, and positive mind mapping techniques. It helped me at first when nothing else would, though I find quick thereputic fixes tend to wear off equally quickly.

Hoping all's as well with everyone as can be expected under the circumstances.

I'm off out (finally) in a bit for my 7.25 km morning/(afternoon) run.

I did eventually, after well over 1000kms in cheap trainers, buy some posh ones.... (Real nice!)
I got down to 62 kilos, went up again to 64, but still want to get to 60. Maintaining the discipline and motivation is, for me, the key.



JM

[RFLH]

ahh - I remember 64kg, just! Sigh

[just married]

Season's Greetings.

One year since last Christmas.
My now long - estranged wife; my accuser and I were together, doing christmas, like two excited children, and planning our wedding on 11th January.

Season's greetings, Happy Christmas to you all. This is the new life.

JM.

[just married]

mobile phone phone interrogation to recover deleted texts...

Hi again, just to catchup on my thread, I did, yes, send my phone off to the recommended qualified forensic lab, and yes, they did recover a large part of deleted material.... Not all, a few recent ones didn't get recovered, but probably about 90% or more of material covering the period was recovered from the handset, despite being deleted....
All for a reasonable, two hundred and something quid, I think, and also, the phone, including what is saved in the inbox, has been returned to me, is intact, and still works, though it's hidden away in a drawer now, in case it's ever needed for evidence.

Along with the cd of deleted texts and data comes the certificate of authenticity, I forget it's name, validating this forensic examination as valid in a court case, should it ever be necessary.

The forensic lab who did this examination was the one as recommended here on the site, thanks, RF, and Faith..

JM.

[Casehardened]

Thanks for confirming that it may be possible to recover deleted material from a phone memory; this is useful information and will be of help to members.

[Rights Fighter]

The forensic lab who did this examination was the one as recommended here on the site, thanks, RF, and Faith..

JM.

Am I right in thinking that you instructed the sol I work for? If you did I would be grateful if you would let him know about the expert (Ross) as I am trying to persuade him to use him.

[just married]

Hi RF.
No, it was Gerry McDonald of Attridge who I met with, and who the next day called me with news of nfa.

The phone examination was some time later, at my own instigation, by Ross's lab, the recommendation passed on to me by Faith.

However, no complaints on the lab's work, although I was a little surprised some of the most recent messages weren't included in the recovered data.

Hope you're well and bearing up under the strain.

Happy new year almost.....

JM

[Casehardened]

although I was a little surprised some of the most recent messages weren't included in the recovered data.

If the phone memory works like a PC's hard drive, deleting a text just deletes the file header thus permitting the data to be overwritten by fresh texts. An analogy would be tearing off the names and addresses from sensitive letters, shredding these, and throwing the rest of the letter into the waste bin, rather than shredding the whole letter. The rest of the letter will be around for a bit until it eventually get disposed of.

Maybe in your phone fresh (undeleted) texts were saved over the more recent deleted texts, this having the effect of overwriting and thus securely deleting them.

NB This is my understanding of what happens but I stand ready to be corrected by an expert

[just married]

NB This is my understanding of what happens but I stand ready to be corrected by an expert

Nigh on perfect, in my estimation, CH, logic.....
however my estimation has been proven to be well flawed..... I also join the queue standing ready to be corrected by an expert.....

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[just married]

After almost nine months of not seeing my (Hungarian) accuser and estranged wife, her possessions are finally removed from the storage place they've been at. There has been a small flurry of emails to facilitate this.

She tells me her lawyer will contact me soon.

I understand she has herself housed in some church-run scheme, a charity, possibly. This, it seems is what she has achieved by her allegations... I'd imagine she will ultimately be offered her own local authority tenancy, and a one-bedroom London apartment.

What I want to know is this.....

Will she be entitled, given her false rape allegation, to legal aid for her family law representation regarding divorce petitioning and proceedings?

I hope an expert will be able to shed some light on this one for me....

[Rights Fighter]

Given that legal aid/public funding has been slashed left right and centre, the best person to advise you on that would be a solicitor who works on legal aid.

[just married]

Thanks, RF.

My next ordeal is this whole divorce thing..... nailing down the coffin lid on the love.....

Still, other folks problems are way worse than mine.....

Hope the New Year is a good un.



JM

[RFLH]

I know you have to pay for divorces now - which is ewhy I nipped in with mine before it came in!