Help needed urgent

[Boys don't cry]

Tatguy

I hope you are getting better and stronger but by reacting you will help your family and yourself.
You are doing right,don't let this girl manipulate you.
Keep strong.

[tatguyuk]

thanks for your responses the number she calls is the house one i changed my mobile but spoke to bt today there going to get one of the harrasment team to call me back :@ so hopefully they can do something
also there is only a couple of weeks left on bail if this ends then i hope it does me and the family are off to live closer to her family
im looking on the good side now the ss have dropped there side of the case so just waiting for police to catch up

[RFLH]

I hope they can get it sorted for you sooner rather than later. Chin up and battle on, we're here for you.

[diana_holbourn]

Boys don't cry, we need to start a new thread to discuss your comments to me because this conversation's going right off-topic. So I'm going to start one later called something like, "The merits of different advice for people in distress after being falsely accused", and we can carry on this conversation there.

[Rights Fighter]

What is the point of starting another thread to discuss BDC's comments to you? He has enough on his plate with two jobs and still coping with the aftermath of what he has been through. He doesn't need his conversations dissecting. Why not just move on!

TATUK said: thanks for your responses the number she calls is the house one i changed my mobile but spoke to bt today there going to get one of the harrasment team to call me back :@ so hopefully they can do something also there is only a couple of weeks left on bail if this ends then i hope it does me and the family are off to live closer to her family
im looking on the good side now the ss have dropped there side of the case so just waiting for police to catch up

Good to see you moving ahead tatuk!

[diana_holbourn]

Well the thread won't be about him personally; I just thought it might be good to clarify issues over the whole 'Is it advisable to recommend relaxation techniques' and 'When is it appropriate to be harsh with people' issues that have been raised by his comments. It could be a thread about the issues in general, that he doesn't need to feel pressured to even contribute in. It's just that if there are going to be disagreements over the styles and type of advice people are given, it could be useful to have a thread to raise the issues and discuss them in.

[Boys don't cry]

Boys don't cry, we need to start a new thread to discuss your comments to me ....Well the thread won't be about him personally.

You are welcome if it can help other members.

First we need to know how they feel being falsely accused.

Sorry Tatguy,let us know how your story is going on.

I want you and your family to be out of this nightmare.
Tell us which solution will BT find for you.
Thank you and take care.

[RFLH]

Diana - please don't push your techniques onto people go to the General Advice start a thread and wait to be asked.

I'm getting more than a little fed up with you hijacking people's threads - they come for practical advice and not the sort you offer.

[Izzy]

Hopefully BT have been helpful and it will give you some peace of mind that it's being looked into. As I said before they are normally really good and take
it seriously and all it takes is one slip up from the person doing it, i.e. if they start of using a call box then get a bit more slack and use their house phone/ mobile then they are traced. You sound more positive which is good.

[diana_holbourn]

Diana - please don't push your techniques onto people go to the General Advice start a thread and wait to be asked.

I'm getting more than a little fed up with you hijacking people's threads - they come for practical advice and not the sort you offer.

You cannot speak for anyone but yourself. We will see what others think when I join in the thread which I notice has already been started. This whole issue has now been blown way out of proportion. It merely started over an objection to a few words. I wonder how much this sentiment of yours has to do with bad feeling over my criticism of you yesterday! Funny how your attitude has swung to the opposite of what it was when I posted about the techniques and such at first. I do not "push" my techniques on people, and you have absolutely no way of knowing how helpful people are finding them or whether they're grateful to get them.


As you're probably well aware, I was the one who set up this forum in the first place. I didn't even set it up as a forum to help falsely accused people but rape victims, but I allowed it to grow into one after falsely accused people and their relatives posted, obviously needing support. Without me, the forum wouldn't even exist. You're very welcome to browse its earlier history and find out for yourself whether I have simply used it as a place to "push my techniques". I have only even mentioned them in One thread since I've been back here - Mark's! BDC was the one who brought them up in this one. I hadn't mentioned them at all before that. So before you claim you're fed up of me "hijacking threads", you could at least count how many I've actually even mentioned the issues in, and ponder for at least a second whether what I said did actually constitute a "hijack"!


Before you make any more snide comments, go back and browse this forum's history so you can be a better judge of just what kind of advice I've been giving here. Several people have in fact said they've valued it over the years. It's been far more varied than just a recommendation to do relaxation techniques, as regular posters who've been here for some time can verify. Here's just one example of a post from someone saying they've been grateful for my help.

　

hi there,my names Cat.I came on here several years ago,and had some fantastic support from diana holbourn,when i was very traumatised.I then left as after she left noone else responded to my messages ...

　

(Be aware that in making your snide comments, you have provoked this conversation; do not complain that I should have started a new thread for my reply, as if this conversation was my idea. It would, however, naturally be best if it was allowed to get back to topic as quickly as possible.)

[Rights Fighter]

Diana - please don't push your techniques onto people go to the General Advice start a thread and wait to be asked.

I'm getting more than a little fed up with you hijacking people's threads - they come for practical advice and not the sort you offer.

Excellent point RFLH. I think she means well though

[Boys don't cry]

Diana means well and I will always have respect for her and her brother.

You can be proud, you are saving people lives from all over the world and bless you for this.

[tatguyuk]

ok so bt are now keeping a log of calls i have to ring them and report times ect ect
were still getting pizza places deliver stuff but have tried to ring the local ones and let them know
going to answer bail next week cant sleep much dredding them putting it of yet again
school hols are hard wife has to take kids everywere with her so ids arnt happy but hopefully this will end soon
just wanted to update you guys

[Boys don't cry]

Well done Tatguy.

I hope that BT will be able to get her number to prove that she harasses you.
I also wish you won't get rebailed and that your nightmare will end.

Take care.

[Saffron]

I've only just noticed (being a complete technophobe) but my phone has a "block number" option. I have never used it, but presumably it means that when you are called or texted by a number that isn't in your address book, you can ban that particular number. Just thought that was worth mentioning.