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Would suggest someone (not the acccused) stakes out the phone box with a mobile phone camera whose clock is auto synced back to the provider and photograph the offender making the nuisance call and thus tie it back to a call record on the OPs phone record and present all this evidence to your solicitor.
All that would show is the caller in a phone box. It won't prove who he called or what was said.
the police came round yesterday acting there usual smart selves wont listen that were getting pizza cabs and all sorts call out to our house plus the calls they just said she isnt on bail i got a little upset told them to charge me or get out of my house
i know i shouldnt lose my rag but this girl is doing loads to mess with out heads and all the police kept saying was she isnt on bail so she can do what she wants basicly
so there you go ive now had 4 months of this and i can remember thinking this would get sorted out within a month yeh right
i dont know how they get away with this ive heard stuff around about being a police state ect ect
i am in complete agreement
no she can't - if you can prove it is her - its harassment and that is an offence. I guess you could go over the plods head and go higher up the command to make a complaint - you have rights too.
And God promised men that good and obedient wives would be found in all corners of the world. Then made the world round .... and laughed and laughed and laughed ..
i instructed my sol to do exactly that
im going to complain about the way the police have handled my complaint i have her new mobile phone number the police wouldnt even take it i also have the phone box number at the corner of her road that was given to the taxi company they said it was a girl who orderd it
they refused to take all this evidence
i know im going on a bit but in my thinking if she is doing all this it shows she is unstable and has issues and has a grevence against me
this isnt a aligation of rape its supposedly that we had a relasionship i totally deniy this i have disliked this girl for years but was unable to stop her comming round as her moms a childhood friend of my wife (they are very close)
Tatguy,I hope you are feeling better.
You should think about changing your phone number,if not now,when this will end.
I read that this girl is one of your friends,so if this person will have your new number they should keep it under another name that just both of you will know.
Make sure as well your children won't give it to this girl.
Try not to worry too much and my only advice is to be more clever than her.
You are doing the right thing to report to your solicitor.
hi thx for the responces just to answer i cant change phone numbers for work and family reasons and besides i wont change my life anymore for this false accuser
on a good note we recieved a letter from the ss stating that they closed our case that our kids are well cared for they did state they could reopen it if i didnt stick to the working argreement (not being alone with my kids) but that they found nothing from the police referal
im taking this as good news
still getting pizza and taxi at all hours but now have contacted the taxi companies letting them know its not me calling
ok so last night has been the worse we had a phone call saying the wifes dad was in hospital on his last legs and to get to hospital soon as she can this was at 1am in the morning she was half asleep she woke me up thinking he was dying
we woke kids dropped them to my moms and went straight to the hospital we got there they informed us it was a hoax
im thinking this girl has now got friends to make these calls i cant prove it and the police dont care
my wife is devastated crying shaking ect ect
i thought last week when the ss dropped there case that things were on the up at last and then we get this
Oh my God, this is HORRIBLE. Keep complaining to police. Write everything down and give to solicitor as well. Make complaint regards police inaction on this. Doing this is WAY over the line of simple harrassment (which is bad enough) and is down right vicious.
Ver best wishes
Jen x
False Accusers Beware: You have chosen to dine at the Karma Cafe. There is no menu: you will just get what you deserve.
And God promised men that good and obedient wives would be found in all corners of the world. Then made the world round .... and laughed and laughed and laughed ..
I cant change phone numbers for work and family reasons and besides i wont change my life anymore for this false accuser
So don't be surprised to have pranks phone calls.
You can change your phone number and feel relaxed again.
If you have a van with your number on it ,I would rather pay a few pounds for stickers than being awake in the middle of the night thinking that one of my family memeber is in hospital.
You are making your life and your family's a hell now.
Just change your numbers and text or email everyone about it.
I don't think you work 24 hours a day,so if you don't work nights just switch off your mobile and keep someonelse on
One that this girl doesn't know just in case of emergency.
Take care but change your phone numbers.
I did it,not because I was harassed but to forget about the past and start again.
You will feel a lot better believe me.
It is one way to get out of this nightmare.
Take care.
You can change your phone number and feel relaxed again.
If you have a van with your number on it ,I would rather pay a few pounds for stickers than being awake in the middle of the night thinking that one of
my family memeber is in hospital.
You are making your life and your family's a hell now.
Steady on, BDC! He couldn't have foreseen that it would get this bad. And you can't insist he changes his phone numbers without knowing in detail why he doesn't want to.
There may be other solutions anyway. Perhaps the phone could be always on the answerphone/voicemail and he could only pick it up if it's from someone he wants to speak to, and if someone leaves a horrible message about another family member suffering a tragedy or anything, he can ring the hospital direct or that family's household to check the story out.
And/or perhaps he could get some kind of caller identification installed, so he'll see the number the call's coming from while the phone's still ringing, and if he recognises that the call's coming from the phone box - presumably he still has its number, he can just not pick up the phone.
There are probably other possibilities too.
But he certainly won't be able to feel relaxed again even if he does change his number, because it may be that if the girl and her friends can't get at him one way anymore, they'll just try another. Perhaps a worse one. Maybe the reason they decided to escalate the stalking behaviour to this latest level is because the taxi cab firms they were sending round to his house started refusing to go there after he told them the calls ordering taxis for him weren't coming from him. So if he makes it impossible for them to get at him one way, who knows what they might try next. Perhaps it's time to get a guard dog. :/
i just dont know what to do my heads all over the place yes she texted me but i didnt respond
she did message me on facebook but again no responce from em she said she loved me ect ect
untill i went on my daughters facebook page last night and found 140 pages of her asking questions about me saying things like "i cant believe i loved your
dad i hate him
That is Seriously obsessibe behaviour! And with the other bad/possibly disturbed ways she's been known to behave, it sounds as if she should have had some good psychiatric treatment by now, and perhaps hasn't had some. If your wife's still friendly at all with the girl's mother, tatguyuk, maybe she could try to suggest in the nicest possible way that a good psychologist/psychiatrist is found to help her daughter. Maybe if she's given therapy where a psychologist asks her about her attitudes to things that upset her and the way she behaves in response, and talks through with her the reasons her responses aren't good ones and ways she could behave instead, and any other issues she has, or if she's put on medication, it'll stop her wanting to do such things. The idea's worht thinking about.
I am sorry but I may as well need some of your kind help as I do not understand everything...
I am sorry but some people can be twisted to ruin someonelse's life and welcome to the real world.
When you are called from the hospital shouldn't it be a "private number".
He won't get any of the phone numbers if they withheld them and if someone was accusing me of doing this,
I would just said I rang a wrong number and you can't prove what I was talking about on the phone.
Then if you have an answering machine,you would still need my number...
And at 1am to listen that your father is in hospital,I wouldn't think about a prank,I would fly to the hospital...
If I had an answering machine after living what Tatguy lived as soon as I would hear a message,I would jump out of bed.
I wouldn't even wait for a message ,I would answer straight away without checking who rang.
When you are accused of rape,you just sleep in your dreams.
You can't sleep,you are not yourself,you think that noone understand you and they don't...
Except on this forum and bless your brother and the moderators for their precious help.
You can't concentrate,you can't think about blue sky,flowers and breathing deeply,relaxing,watching comedies,having warm baths,...
It might help you for a few minutes or hours which is better than nothing but you must keep your mind busy and concentrate on something different.
And I know I contradict myself as I wrote that you can't concentrate but you must try to.
You must be strong,...
I am not rough & tough but welcome to the jungle.
It is just hell,you feel hammered and I swear it is like having the devil's claws in your back and you must find ways to fight them.
It is my opinion.
It is just my advice and I am sure that Tatguy must be tormented by his misfortune.
If he wants he can ask his friend's daughter to have some mental "help" but I wouldn't be surprise of the outcome:
She won't say "Oh yes please!"
Once again it is just my personal view and Tatguy I am just trying to help you for you to be less stressed.
Take care of your family and yourself,keep strong and once again you must be more clever than this girl.
I found this on the BT website,I don't know who is your phone provider but they might be able to help you as well.
you'll have to react before your health gets affected.
-Choose to Refuse – helps block particular numbers from getting through to you.
-Anonymous Call Reject – lets you block incoming calls from withheld UK numbers.
-Call Sign – gives you an additional number with a different ring tone. If you give this to family or friends you can distinguish between incoming calls.
I didn't mean to be harsh but I have compassion for you and your family.
And God promised men that good and obedient wives would be found in all corners of the world. Then made the world round .... and laughed and laughed and laughed ..
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