Help needed urgent

[Psychojock]

Hi tatguyuk, I am new memeber myself, so know very little that I can offer you. I just wanted to say welcome and try to stay strong. I have been falsely acused myself and am currently going through the legal process leading up to a trial. It is hell on earth but if you stay strong, with a strong family around you, it helps!!

[tatguyuk]

thanks for all your support and yes denise i read your story it looked a lot like my situation
i just hope it all turns out nfa but i got another 4 weeks befor i have to go back and by what i see around the net it doesnt look like it will be over then maybe rebailed
its the not knowing like i have read on here i have a lot of whitnesses and also an alabi from wife and kids also the wife was shopping at the time with this girl in the local shopping center so should be on video there also so here is hopeing that they come to there sences

[Faith]

All of this will help once there is a case to answer (ie if a charge comes)
In preparation, you could get your witnesses to write down what they know. All other evidence needs to be duplicated and stored safely. None of this information goes to the police without a solicitor's say so.

Try not to fall into the trap of reading too many online horror stories. There are many stories started on here that end well. We don't always hear the results as some people just want to forget about it and not return here. So please don't get under the impression that the picture is always bleak. It is not.

[tatguyuk]

yeh i know what you mean but hard stuck in the house at the min dont feel like working deppressed normally a gym nut but cant even face that

[Faith]

That's what I was like. Please try and make the effort to go out at least once a day.
Have you spoken to your GP?

Exercise is a good thing for the mind...if you can't face the gym, a walk will do.

[tatguyuk]

i got a treadmill just cant face people im a fighter always have been but this has just messed me up cant do anything but sit and wait while my kids suffer, school holls now cant even take them out its madening
so just watching tv reading books or on the net

[fighter]

hi! so sorry to hear your story. Welcome to the forum, this is a good place to seek comfort and get answers to your question. Well done for posting and coming here.

I hope you can get over this stage of feeling down and not facing anybody.. give yourself some time to take it all in and then hopefully you will find your fighting spirit. I am sure you have a fight after all you have told us how the girl is. Take care. Do think of your family, it would be harder for them if you are feeling low always..Sending you strength and courage!!

[Saffron]

Hi TatguyUK
I can't add anything to the excellent advice already given, except to say AVOID Shabana Sharif (solicitor) like the plague.
Welcome.

[tatguyuk]

thanks for your support a better day today though chilled out in the garden tried to get my mind of thing so had a picknick with the wife n kids
i know im lucky in a way both the kids and wife know this is noncenece so there support is amazing

[fighter]

tatguyuk,
well done for enjoying the day with your family! Try to forget about it and attempt normality as this is very helpful.. this process takes a lot of time.. so you have to make sure you are not so stressed. Take care.. and hugs!

[tatguyuk]

ok another update
today i saw my accuser outside my house this is the second time she has been in my area she lives 5 miles away dont know what to do do i tell my solisitor
i did last time when she stopped my daughter in the street they said they informed police and they would be comming to see us that was 2 weeks ago
so my question what to do now ??

[Faith]

Inform your solicitor of everytime this happens. Your solicitor may pass this on to the police.
It is better you get in first...you don't want her going to the police saying you have been following her or antagonising her
When you see her, avoid her. Get your phone or a witness ready in case she does say anything to you...try and record it or at least have someone else present.
But do not start any exchanges with her yourself.
She may be deliberately hanging around to try and tempt you to go out and reason with her.
Don't ever give in to that temptation.

[Saffron]

Agreed Faith.
Tatguyuk, does she have any reason to be on your street? Does she know anyone who lives there, or have any friends nearby? She could claim to be on your street because she was "one her way" somewhere else, unless you live in a cul de sac.
Keep a record of every time you see her, and tell your sol immediately, preferably by email so that there is a "paper trail".

[tatguyuk]

thanks for the reply
i live in a grove at the end is an alley
one family member lives about half a mile from me but no there is no need to be out there as its very secluded

also can i ask is it normall for the ss to take 4 weeks to make a desision about my kids going on child protection?
they spoke to them on there own 2 weeks ago now but still heard nothing
also the police informed my sol that they would be talkign to my daughter 2 weeks ago since then we havnt heard anything from them

thanks in advance sorry to ask loads but my heads gone now havnt been out my house other than back garden since this happend

[tatguyuk]

ok spoke to the ss today as they said they would call with a desision this week about kids going on child protection spoe to the lady she said she hadnt decided had to have a meeting with her boss ect ect she will contact me in another 2 weeks
this takes us past the date for me to attend the police station is this usual
surly this isnt right if i was a danger surly 6 weeks after being arrested is enough time to give an answer??