Absolute Torture

[Faith]

I don't seem to have commented on this even though I read it and was over the moon. Sorry about that...better late than never
CONGRATULATIONS!!! WOOOOOO-HOOOOOOOOOO!!!!

[fighter]

I am still a Brokenman, but at least I'm now on the mend.

Congratulations!!!! this is my favourite line from your post... the last bit is the most important... that you are now on the mend..just a gentle reminder.. it might take a bit of time and patience. :-) Stay strong!!! Enjoy life!

[brokenman81]

Congratulations!!!! this is my favourite line from your post... the last bit is the most important... that you are now on the mend..just a gentle reminder.. it might take a bit of time and patience. :-) Stay strong!!! Enjoy life!

It will take a while!!

I was thinking the impact would be immediate, but it ain't! Maybe it's what I went through in Court, as it weren't easy having to watch the video of her making the complaint (a few days later) and listening to her behind the screen and then listen to her Husband come out with a concocted story too (luckily he tripped himself up). It was a tough battle from start to finish, those days in court sat behind the glass panel were mentally draining, but the 2hrs 5 min in the dock getting pure grilled were very hard!!!

I got thru a 11months of absolute torture, there were times I thought I needed medication, but managed it without them. Hopefully waking up at 4am every morning can be a thing of the past?

Although this nightmare is over, it doesn't feel like it.........!

[Izzy]

Would you ever go down the counselling route? I know it's not everyone's thing and I know the Males in my life are dubious about it.
I just think it's quite hard to 'get back to normal' (whatever that was) after living with something like this for so long and maybe talking it through with someone would help.

[brokenman81]

Would you ever go down the counselling route? I know it's not everyone's thing and I know the Males in my life are dubious about it.
I just think it's quite hard to 'get back to normal' (whatever that was) after living with something like this for so long and maybe talking it through with someone would help.

I don't know if that would help???

I've kept it to myself apart fm my employers!!

[RFLH]

It'll be quite a while before you feel anything close to how you did before - I don't think you ever really get back to the way you were - how could you? Your whole life has been in turmoil and its not something you can get over in a month.

Be prepared for down days - but they do get fewer and far between.

Just hold your head high and get out and about.

[Dave]

Been there, I have a feeling everyone will cope/adapt/live with/whatever differently.
But if you fancy a natter with someone who has gone through it and come out relatively
sane, drop us a line.

[RFLH]

you have to be mad to be a mod - I have certifcates for it!

[largactyl1]

Excellent news. Well done for getting through your hellish time. Good luck for the future

[Saffron]

I have been offline for a while but wanted to say how happy I am to read this wonderful wonderful news.
Narnas all round you lovely people xxxx

[brokenman81]

I am too going to follow Billy and Barney, ironic all our names begin with B.

Before I go I wanted to see if anyone could shed some light on an issue?

I have went through the whole emotional 9 yards, travelling 100's of miles for Legal appts and Court appearances etc. I was unanimously found NOT GUILTY because I was exactly that!!

My issue is now I'm through this dreadful ordeal and trying to get back to normality (I still suffer fm what feels like PTSD, due to this), I require a DBS to carry on with my job.

My questions are:

1. Will anything be on that Disclosure regarding the case?

2. If there is, will it stop me from working? It involves working with all ages.

Thank you in advance.

This website was my only sanctuary and I'm sure it is to a lot of people.

Stay Strong

[Faith]

If anything shows up on your DBS check it should only state that you were acquitted. It will be down to the employer whether this puts them off or not. My advice would to be transparent from the outset...most employers will respect honesty. Remember you are innocent and have been proven so in a court of law. You have nothing to hide and nothing to be ashamed of.

[brokenman81]

If anything shows up on your DBS check it should only state that you were acquitted. It will be down to the employer whether this puts them off or not. My advice would to be transparent from the outset...most employers will respect honesty. Remember you are innocent and have been proven so in a court of law. You have nothing to hide and nothing to be ashamed of.

Thanks Faith, guess I just have to wait for it coming bk.

[RFLH]

don't feel any regrets about leaving - you've moved on with your life - and that's how it should be.

Good luck, peace and happiness for the future.

[Saffron]

I agree with RFLH.
Thank you for all your input into this community. I completely understand your reasons for needing to move on.
I wish you a happy, healthy life