Absolute Torture

[brokenman81]

Brokenman81, I am so sorry to hear that you have been charged. A solicitor with a very good reputation is Mark Wardley of Straw & Pearce in Loughborough - not too far from you either. I hope this helps. Keep posting for support.

Thank you.

I live in Hants, but case is being held in Staffordshire.

[NOHOPE]

have you told your wife yet, please try to find the courage to tell her what is going on then let her come on here and read some of the real life stories she also can get support and beleive me the partners and families of the falsely accused realy need support.

you realy must tell her you cant keep this from her for ever

[brokenman81]

have you told your wife yet, please try to find the courage to tell her what is going on then let her come on here and read some of the real life stories she also can get support and beleive me the partners and families of the falsely accused realy need support.

you realy must tell her you cant keep this from her for ever

I will, but I'm gonna destroy their lives for being unfaithful.

[NOHOPE]

yes im afraid you will destroy their lives for cheating but i just cant see how you can keep this from them now you have been charged.

it will be painful for you all but once she knows and hopefully trys to forgive you you will have the best support ever.

[brokenman81]

When you attend Magistrates to enter a plea, how long is it before you attend Crown Court? Can you ask for a specific date?

[Irishfella]

Depends on if the CPS have all the evidence. From my first plea at Magistrates to trial was about 7 months. You will have a plea and management hearing at crown then you get the date for your trial. Stay strong. I know its easy to say but im speaking from experience.

[brokenman81]

Due in Magistrates tomorrow, does anyone know what course of action there will be and how long will it be before I'm told to attend Crown Court???

Thank you

[Faith]

I am fairly sure that the Magistrate's Court is just an in and out thing where the charges are read out and then officially referred to Crown.

As for how long it will be before your PCMH and any appearances in court, it varies.

[Devasted]

Just want to say that u telling ur wife would be much better than her being told by someone else...i was told by 2CID officers that my partner had been accused of rape and it was horrific and yes iwas beyond angry but my do u know what my first thought was no way he didnt do this and ive supported him throughout. Im not telling u its goin to be easy telling her because its not but as i said to my partner uv cheated on me and thats for me to punish in my own way not anyone else if u have a strong marriage ul work through it be prepared for lots of tears anger and recriminations but in the end i think ul find the support u need off her and ur family. Ive supported my partner and luckily we got the result we needed and we are still working on our relasionship because i think he was punished enough for one moment of foolishness please stay strong and tell before anyone else does.xx

[Boys don't cry]

From the charge to court took around 6 months for me as well.
The first time you will go to court,they will just ask you "Are you Brokenman81?"
You should have a barrister with you who will talk briefly to the judge.
If I remember well I spent no more than an hour in court and the barrister will just tell the judge what you are accused of...and that's it.
I know it is hard but keep strong and stay in touch.

[brokenman81]

From the charge to court took around 6 months for me as well.
The first time you will go to court,they will just ask you "Are you Brokenman81?"
You should have a barrister with you who will talk briefly to the judge.
If I remember well I spent no more than an hour in court and the barrister will just tell the judge what you are accused of...and that's it.
I know it is hard but keep strong and stay in touch.

Cheers mate.

I've heard that this so called victim has just been carrying on as normal as thou nothing's happened..... That's because nothing did happen, but it's ok to ruin someone's life!!!!

[Boys don't cry]

I know,I was married with the Devil.
This month it is gonna be 1 year since the day I have been arrested.
It feels like last week.I am ...
But there is a mini me I want to look after so I will keep "try to be" strong.
I swear sometimes I would like to end it but it would be too easy.
So this is why I will keep my strengh for my little boy,for my family and for the all of you who have been falsely accused.

[brokenman81]

In CC on a couple of days. Got told if it goes to trial it could be Autumn nxt year?? How does one live their life with something like this??

[wunderland]

Hey mate,
I have been waiting for my trial now for 1 and a half years (THIS DISGUSTING SYSTEM IS INHUMANE) and my trial begins in late august.I think the waiting is the worst part I feel very very irritated.I think the longer you have to wait the more angry you get I mean there is depression but that passes mostly then you just start getting very very angry and bitter. I must say it is better then the depression because all you want to do is get into that court room and win. You start feeling like this is your own personal Holocaust and In my eyes my false accuser is as evil as HITLER so all I want to do is prove to the world what a lying witch she is-Yeah you start to really hate your false accuser and it makes it worse when you know she is out there enjoying her life whilst your hair is falling out .Well my advice to myself when this all began is to exercise more often and care about myself it is still possible to be happy whilst going through this ****.I am also very proud of anyone that could hold a job whilst going through this (I couldn't handle things and lost a fortune with bad investments because of ptsress) so I just relax now Im broke but I have my legal team being paid with borrowed money and ill just have to continue living cheap for a few years to pay for things.Going for walks and watching tv is free also visit family.I saw a shrink a couple of times but there is only so much they can say back so it was a waste of time **** my advice is don't get suicidal it's a waste of time just keep busy

[wunderland]

To avoid depression and if you dont want to take anti-depressants is lifting weights 3 times a week and walk everyday or be very physical OR you start feeling very bad and low .This morning I power walked and all the stress and anger just went out of me like a steam train.I woke up with pain in my heart because this evil ***** is in my nightmares every second night so I wake up sometimes very stressed I mean this morning was horrible I woke up and all my body hurt so I drove my car to the ocean and went for a one hour walk by the sea with the iphone and listened to some great music and i reversed all this negative heart pain and just sweat it all out and felt 1000 times better I don't know some people like yoga or rowing what ever makes your heart pump so you can sweat out all the negativity + a few lawyers have told me inside the court room it's a popularity contest it's crazy they said the very expensive lawyers recommend their clients go see a stylist they chose the clothing you wear ,go to go to the dentist to get their teeth whitened they take you to get your hair cut in a certain way even if your to fat they make you see a personal trainer hahahahaha crazy so for poorer people like me I understand i got to look and feel good anything that will help you prove the evil parasite is a lying satan possesed witch .You need to go into the court room prepared to win I think jury's and all people don't like weak people I mean they are going to sit with you everyday for sometimes 2 weeks they will get to know you lucky us