Absolute Torture

[LS]

Brokenman, have a read of the sticky "What to expect in prison", it may put your mind at ease.
http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...e-ins-and-outs

[brokenman81]

I can't depend on anyone!! I've told 2 people who I deem very good friends and seem to understand what I'm going through to an extent.

It scares me to death, people mentioning jail etc. I have not done anything wrong apart from be unfaithful!!!

It's been just over 4 months now, I'm just wondering what peoples gut feelings are??? I seemed to think the police were on my side until my Sol told me they weren't!! I did say to the police that "you do do the right thing don't you?"

I can't go to prison for something I ain't done!!!

[sam]

Don't think about prison if u havnt done any thing because in yiur story there must be some sort of evidance which proofs you havnt done it because you didn't and it will be very difficult for prosecution to even bring a case so be positive keep as normal as possible and write down every thing for you own self

[lawlessone2009]

You can go to prison for something you haven't done. Your perspective of prisons will change when you realise that there are many many innocent people in prison. There are equally as many that have been sentenced to a greater offence than they've committed and even more who are guilty but are free.

I was arrested and charged in November last year. I was initially scared of prison but am no longer. It's about breaking down the mental barriers within your head! If prison is the worst that the government can do to people then I am really surprised that this country isn't in civil war at the moment although we're not far off!

As I detailed, my thoughts are that your case won't proceed. I am sure others may venture the same but the thing is, we're not prosecutors or involved in the process so cannot possibly give you a crystal clear and concise answer. There are many similarities to other cases that have been posted on here which resulted in NFA but it really does boil down to the specifics the case and of course your legal team.

A 'county' on here normally results in a recommendation as to which solicitor you should use the services off. You DO need a specialist in rape to afford yourself the best possible defence should it come to a court case. Forum members can easily identify one in your area if you post a 'county'. Keep it vague and just to the county, we DO NOT need addresses or towns.

[brokenman81]

I live in Hants, but the allegation took place in another county.

[LS]

You can go to prison for something you haven't done.

I have, and prison is not the worst thing that can happen to you. Prison is what you make it, so if the thought of prison scares you, don't let it.

People are far more dangerous to one's health than a spell in one place for a set period of time.

[lawlessone2009]

Yeah, if you can mentally and emotionally survive the allegation just now then prison will be easier if it happens. It is merely getting used to a routine and all the restrictions. Mentally preparing yourself for the absolute worst will result in anything better seeming like an almost victory.

I don't honestly believe the accusation itself ever goes away. It is always in your mind, with time it subsides but part of our animal instinct ensures that it is always there when situations dictate. Protectionism at work, survival instinct. Life experience.

If you're going to go down make sure you go down fighting and never ever give up. Ready yourself for battle, realise that the accusation will never be true even if a court decides it is and also that although they may imprison your body they will never imprison your mind.

[Faith]

I have heard from several people who have been to prison over a false allegation that prison was the easy bit...coming out was the harder bit.

LS's thread that he mentioned earlier, should do a lot to put your mind at ease. Prison is never going to be a laugh but it needn't be the end of your life.

You will only panic yourself by thinking so far ahead. Try and break this ordeal down into chunks. The next stage is the bail date. If you get charged, then you can start thinking about prison further down the line. It may well not get that far.

You are naturally very anxious. Have you had any thoughts about seeking medical support?

[Boys don't cry]

I also been arrested earlier last year and charged in August 2011 and went to court this year.
It is true that a solicitor will turn sentences in your favour and balance the good vs
the things against you.
I wrote pages to the police without a solicitor and as english is not my mother tongue the CPS used some of them against me.
The best cure I had while waiting was to talk to colleagues and one of my family member.
I went to the Gp as well but cannot stand medicines.
Noone (of them) can and will realise what you are going through.
I also was thinking about loosing my jobs,about prison, about suicide but I fought until the end because I knew I was innocent and this wasn't fair.
So you must fight but you mustn't be alone.
Best of luck.

[lawlessone2009]

Very well put "Boys don't cry". Personal experience with many indicative lessons within for others to pick up on.

Great advice from Faith too.

It'll all make sense when the rawness begins to ebb.

[Boys don't cry]

Very well put "Boys don't cry". Personal experience with many indicative lessons within for others to pick up on.

Great advice from Faith too.

It'll all make sense when the rawness begins to ebb.

Thank you Lawlessone, Faith, all moderators,and the innocent ones ,as you can understand we are or were in the same boat.
Sorry if sometimes you misunderstand me but I do respect all of you and I am just trying to help regardless of believes.

We are all here to help each other.
This website really supported me,some of you I am sure saved me and I will keep try to help as best as I can.
So just keep strong and when I read your posts I agree with Lawlessone
I do believe that you will have an NFA,but never underestimate the value of a solicitor.

[lawlessone2009]

I miss things and misunderstand things all the time. Thankfully there are others on here to help me whilst helping others. One big happy extended family.

[Rights Fighter]

I live in Hants, but the allegation took place in another county.

It's likely that any trial - IF there is one would be heard in the area where the alleged assault took place.

Where would that be (county-wise?)

[barney]

I am awaiting trial and know the pain and confusion you are going through. I would not have survived this long without the support of my wife and family. Yes, you have betrayed her trust as I did but do not make it worse. No one can make that choice for you and you know her best so think long and hard and make the right decision for you. If you are charged then she will go through every emotion you have gone through and she will also be punished by this terrible accusation.You/We have done the stupid but consentual deed that opened the door to this, so you need to remain strong and positive to get your wife and family through this.

Take care

[Denise]

Hi and welcome

Luckily I have joined your thread late because I can't offer much as regards to the legal side
But my son was falsely accused last year in a malicious revenge attack

I was in bits, his bail dates were extended, police would phone me so regular it was making me ill, in the end I Instructed a sol (not a specialised one) just to take the brunt of the calls

I have to say, for me, it was the thought of my innocent boy going to prison for something he didn't do that kept me fighting

It's the fight instinct you need right now,

The members On the forum are unbelievable with their wealth of knowledge, advice and support so you have come to the right place

My son got NFA'd, eventually so it does and can happen

But you definitely need emotional support now
Take care xx