Son falsely accused of raping step sister !

[Saffron]

RF can only accept PMs from approved people. This is because she was being inundated with private messages asking for her help.
If you PM me your email address I can forward it to her if you like?

I am very happy to hear that your daughter wants your hubby to formally adopt her. It's a real testament to him as a father figure.

[J&PVTHW]

Hi Saffron

I have tried to PM you but it states that you have to clear down some messages before you can accept any more.

[J&PVTHW]

Hello Traumatisedrose

I have been reading your story and my heart goes out to you. I did have to stop reading your story at one point as it just gripped me with dispair. I just hope that i can be as strong for my son as you are being if this does not go our way.

I dont think i have ever ever been so scared in my life, and am terrified of what is to come. It has however helped me no end to speak to people in the same situation and at different stages in their fight.

Keep fighting sweety, sending you lots and lots of love xxxxx

[Saffron]

Hi J
I have cleared out my inbox so I should be able to receive a PM now. Please re-try!
Saffron

[J&PVTHW]

Evening everyone,

We have just over a week to go until we get our decision for my son. I am absolutely terrified. I really really want this dreadful experience to be over but am struggling with life in general at the moment.

Please tell me that there is light at the end of the tunnel ??

Even if everything is over i feel so full of hate for what my family have been put through that i cannot ever see my life being the same again. My feelings towards the police and this dreadful British justice system seem to overwhelm me most of the time.

This process is so cruel.

[Rights Fighter]

Rights Fighter

I have tried today to send you a private message regarding solicitors but have been unable to do it. My solicitor is great but having read a little backround he specialises in serious crime but does not specialise in sexual offences. He is a general all rounder. Judging by the info that i have collected from this forum i do need somebody good who i have got but also a specialist in dealing with cases like ours.

Could you PM me so i can send you where i am in the country please?
I am nervous about posting where i am.

I have an idea you have tried to join the private forum, I have answered your application but with no response as yet.

Unless your lad is charged there won't be any paperwork forthcoming anyway so there is not a lot that solicitors can do apart from general advice.

[gem]

hi j
fingers crossed for you. will be following your posts all the way
massive positive vibes to you and your family

[J&PVTHW]

Hi RF

I have taken a few days off work as i am struggling at the min so do not have access to my emails from home. I am going in tomorrow for an hour so will check then. Thank you xx

Rose, i cannot begin to think about what you must be going through and my heart goes out to you. You are never far from my thoughts as we struggle through this dreadful process. It is so kind of you to be thinking of others when you have your own struggle going on.

Gem, thank you again for your kind words, having people like you on this site and in this world are an insperation.

I think this might be the longest week of my life

[J&PVTHW]

Just been updated !

Just had a text from my sol to say that my son is to be rebailed next week pending CPS decision.

I am awaiting a call later on today with the details so will update you later.

[J&PVTHW]

Re-Bail

Hi Everyone

I had a call yesterday from Sol to say that it would be a re-bail next week for my son as CPS had not made a decision on the file.

My sol tells me that this is a good sign that the CPS cannot make a decision even though my son has already been on bail for 12 wks and that there must be questions surrounding her allegation.

I am unsure yet of how long bail will be granted again for or what will happen when my son answers bail next week.

Although i agree with my sol i really wanted a decision in order to move forward with our lives as i really feel we are still in limbo. My son is still unable to sleep in his home because his sister lives there, ss are not interested in coming to our home as they see my daughter as not at risk and our sol says not to rock the boat and leave things as they are.

I feel all of the time as if i want to sell everything that i own and move abroad, somewhere where nobody knows me and somewhere where i am not reliant on the british justice system.

Will i one day wake up and not be sad about starting the day?

[Izzy]

Hi J,

i think what you are feeling is natural, I feel the same and hate this limbo land that we are in. I've been planning a family holiday, don't know if we will be able to go but it takes my mind off things for a while.

It's good your solicitor is positive but it must be hard for your Son not being able to stay with you, how is he coping?

[J&PVTHW]

Hi Izzy

DITTO - we had too started to book a family holiday (well looked at where we were likely to go IF we had NFA next week) but now feel we cannot go on the trip until this awful situation is over. I dont think we would be allowed to take my son on holiday with my daughter.

My son is suprisingly ok, i think he is so young Izzy that he truly believes that he is innocent so nothing is likely to happen to him. I am not yet about to spoil that little bubble he is in and have taken to doing the worrying for both of us.
I still see him every day, he is allowed to spend any amount of time at home with his family as long as he is supervised with my daughter.
But he is not allowed to sleep at home just incase he happens to slip into my daughters bedroom once my husband and i are asleep. Pathetic !!

How are things progressing with you Izzy?

[Saffron]

J, if your lad has not yet been charged you can probably go ahead with the holiday. Mr Saffron was allowed to visit Spain whilst on unconditional bail. Talk to the OIC.

[J&PVTHW]

Thanks saffron
I am going to ask our sol if we can take him on our pre booked family holiday in July but i doubt he will be allowed to go as the bail conditions state that he cannot live at the same place as my daughter.

[J&PVTHW]

Re-bail

Tomorrow is the day, we have been told as previous that it is to be a re-bail but are unsure how long it is likely to be for.

We are also unsure if my son will be questioned again tomorrow.

I did not sleep a wink last night, and tonight i think might be much of the same.
I am so nervous and scared.

Anybody who can give me advice on what to expect tomorrow, it would be appreciated.

xxx