I'm a father of 3 falsely accused of rape and other matters by my wife

[wunderland]

IDon't EVER say nothing to the police they will USE ANYTHING you say against you even if they are being nice to you it's all an act

[wunderland]

Yeah i have been fighting this false accusation as well now it's been over 400 days don't let it destroy you let it make you stronger im sorry to say this but your wife sounds like she is evil

[Sonic757]

Wunderland thanks for those words and they are all echoed by my friends and family.
Moving a head i am waiting for a call from a solicitors in Worthing to see if they can take on my case as it involves criminal and family law.I saw the CAB solicitor yesterday he can only deal with family law because of the way the CAB is funded....Fingers X today.

[Denise]

Sonic I'm so sorry you're going through this

I say it time and time again but since I've joined the forum sometimes I'm just so embarrassed to be female, so many horrible females give us a bad name with their maliciousness and revenge

I would start writing down a character reference of your wife, anything, no matter how small, could help you, she may, without you knowing, seen her GP about something that could help you

Also write down things you experienced during your marriage
Admit the good in it and state the bad

I'm convinced that my write ups and retelling the detective everything I knew about our accusers helped our case, my interpretion of the characters never changed despite numerous telephone questions from the police

They need to build a profile on each person to help them get to the bottom of it

I hope she gets fed up soon and admits something

And she's started a relationship with this going on ? If she was truly happy she would have better things to put her energy into

Good luck xx

[Sonic757]

Hi Denise,
I am only guilty of one thing! and that was trying to make our marrage work for the sake of the children even though she has had a string of affairs all through our 12 year marrage..lies/deception i fell for it i was in denial with what was happening.
I was brought up beliving familys stick together no matter what.
I can see clearly now whats she was like and its going to be hard i know with solicitors etc,but getting to see my children again to my first priority.

I have some good friends and family and takeing it one day at a time.

All i want her to do is drop all allegations,we talk about this like grown ups and decide what we will do with the house,children,cat etc and move on..

I found it strange she told him she was in love with him(Found text) after only a couple of weeks and asked him to get a divorce from his wife(have been seperated for 9yrs)

Thanks again
Sonic

[Denise]

Sonic write down those affairs with the names of the men if you know them

Let the police build a profile of her life
Xx

[wunderland]

you poor fellow i hope things get better for you sounds like your totally innocent to me and your wife is just trying to something worse then kill you but be carefull i think she wants you to lose it then call the police on you she sounds like a very manupulative she-devil

[Sonic757]

I received a phone call today from the officer in charge of my case saying that subject to social worker approval i have contact will my children from next week.My ex wife has told the police she has no issues with me having contact with them!

Im a very excited about contact with the boys and also a little cautious because she accused me of assaulting one of them...

Is this normal?

Thanks/Sonic

[RFLH]

I'd have thought that the SS would have been involved if the police were worried.

I'm pleased to hear that you'll see your boys soon. Hugs all round!

[wunderland]

I also think if anything it is good news.
It shows they might know your not the type of sicko
That would touch his kids. How are
You coping with the depression?

[Sonic757]

I saw my Doctor last week,he was great i told him everything and he told me it is perfecly normal range of emotions i was going through and it will settle down at some point.

I also exercise and that helps also sounding out to my friends and family to.

[Boys don't cry]

Beware

Don't be scared but make sure you don't stay alone with your children.
There must be another adult to witness as she could again say that you abused one of them.
Just be carefull,take precautions,if she falsely accused you of rape you don't know what will be next.
Enjoy your kids and I hope everything will be fine for you.
About the range of emotions it is normal.Sometimes you will know that you are innocent,sometimes you will think:
"Did I do something wrong?"
If you keep busy with sport as I did with work you will "kind of" forget ,you must talk as it is a very good therapy and don't keep it for yourself.
Keep faith.
One more thing try to get character references and from women if possible.

[Sonic757]

This is so frustrating for me both Police and my EX have no issues with me having contact with my boys...Only thing thats holding things up is the social workers,Police said they where due to call me last week to have a chat...nothing

I have contacted the Police daily telling them i have nt heard from them,they say we will contact them or leave a message...I am so close...arrr

[Sonic757]

3 calls to the police and one to the social worker and i did it!!

I now have unconditional contact with my children

Just spoken to them for the first time in over a month...

Police said there was no assault on my oldest son as my ex had made out...

One battle one,rest of the war to go!

[Denise]

Omg well done :-) xx