How do I move on?

[RFLH]

you do pick up the pieces of your life - it won't be the same as it was before, you come out of it stronger and you certainly don't take things for granted or at face value.

You also find out who your friends are and who you can trust, you learn to put it behind you and adjust your life and enjoy it.

[Denise]

I told a friend today. I'm hoping she's loyal with my trust. But the friend who de-friended me on Facebook because I'd been quiet for so long can go swing


Yeah, I'm getting tougher ! Xx

[fighter]

Yeah, I'm getting tougher ! Xx

Well done Denise! One positive thing that came out of this craziness is that we became tougher and stronger person. In fact it added to my confidence to stand up in front of people/strangers; which I dont like doing before.

[Saffron]

I like your analogy of a ruined house Denise.
At the end of the day as long as we still have our loved ones, however damaged we feel, we CAN survive. xxx

[Denise]

I like your analogy of a ruined house Denise.
At the end of the day as long as we still have our loved ones, however damaged we feel, we CAN survive. xxx

It was the only way to describe it Saffron
Unless you go through this you'd never understand that there's rebuilding to do

I'm getting people to understand better this way

Today the foundations started, can't wait for the roof to go on ! Xx

[Faith]

You speak a lot of sense, Denise.
Glad that you are speaking to people.

I had a 'gathering on Saturday' My friends, family, and the formerly accused of the same people all came. We had food and drinks and those who I hadn't explained things to, I told. Every single one was understanding.
It was very liberating.

I haven't encountered a single person who has condemned me. When people know the kind of person, it's amazing how loyal they remain throughout something like this.

[Denise]

You speak a lot of sense, Denise.
Glad that you are speaking to people.

I had a 'gathering on Saturday' My friends, family, and the formerly accused of the same people all came. We had food and drinks and those who I hadn't explained things to, I told. Every single one was understanding.
It was very liberating.

I haven't encountered a single person who has condemned me. When people know the kind of person, it's amazing how loyal they remain throughout something like this.

I'm really glad you had a nice time

I wish I could tell everyone, maybe one day ..... Xx

[wunderland]

Wow I'm at day 430 and all I dream about is. Nfa I would be able to move on I wish
Everything would just be over with I think it is possible to turn the pain and biterness into positeness I think by just breaking down everyday and not moving on and being the. Best you can be all your enemy's win I think I would embrace my. Nfa I think I would let it make me so much stronger LS wouldn't it be nice to stop giving a **** what evil parasites think about you or when they try judge you you destroy them by not caring and moving on

[Faith]

If only it were like that Wunderland.
An NFA is no miracle cure.

Once someone is falsely accused they are tarnished forever.

[wunderland]

(sorry im writing this and i took a sleeping pill so about any weirdness )
Yes our life's have been ruined i don't know about everyone else but I have lost everything monetry all i own is my car from 2003 thank g-d i still got a car lol life savings gone but im still very rich I have all my family
I have .No- im not going to lie and say i Don't a very private Life now I put on a lot of weight became fat from stress and the zoloft (OMG THE ZOLOFT HAS SAVED MY LIFE) 2 days ago my case got sent to the court where in 3 weeks they will ask me are you guilty or not guilty then i say not guilty and then after 4 months my case will start. Im expecting i will. my lawyer says even if the worst would happen he said it won't but if it did i would get one year in prison **** I would allways move on if this ended Im 30 years old and still want a wife and baby or 2. I think the false accuser has won her game if she has destroyed my life It's a shame we are not even allowed to get revenge that would help a lot of people like us who have been falsely accused

[wunderland]

My g-d I thing being falsely accused of rape is worse then falsely being accused of murder there is no words to describe it is such a horror nightmare I don't know how you guys wouldnt just move on after nfa I think it will be the happiest day of my entire life. I also feel a more stronger person then what I used to be like throw anything besides death in the family god forbid or cancer god forbid and I would pretty much be able to handle it see so there is a positive side I also now have a lot more empathy for people I learnt there is so much beauty in being humble and I'm happy not being more suscessful this nightmare has taught life is like a fleeting moment am I going to spend my life crying or am I going to embrace everything I have been through people we forget we are born naked and we die naked I once asked a guy dying of cancer if he could give me PIEACE of advice he told me in life allways be happy he said don't waste time being sad I'm going to trial where they might convict me I could easily cry all day or give in to the fear hell the trial is not for 4 more months and when it comes I will fight the fight of my life fight with passion and no matter what happens I will make the most of the time I have left I know it hurts guys but don't let anyone ruin your lives .....life does go on plus people forget they may. Say wow he was in trouble but then it dies and life does go on its like Somone who is overweight choosing to stay home because he or she is embarresed well unfortunately the pArty does not come to you life is roller coaster hang on tight don't give up and don't let go yes most us are real victims should we let these sadistic false accusers ruin it all

[Denise]

An update for me is that every day I'm feeling better than the day before

I'd say I think about it @ 75% of my time now instead of the old 99.9%

My son is doing amazing, he won't forget it but he's embracing his NFA

I just feel that that dark cloud is getting lighter both in colour and weight

I can't deny I live in fear of them thinking up something else
But all in all, I'm feeling much better

Xx

[Izzy]

I think that as this is one of the worst accusations someone can make against another person, it does consume your mind all the time and would take time to adjust to it not being there all the time. It's a good sign Denise that it's not occupying your mind so much. Your Son sounds amazing.

It's a well worn saying that time heals and although I think that something like this will never leave you, time will soften it a bit, otherwise you would let it destroy you and you have let the FA win, something that no matter happens with us I am determined not to let happen.

Izzy xx

[Denise]

I think that as this is one of the worst accusations someone can make against another person, it does consume your mind all the time and would take time to adjust to it not being there all the time. It's a good sign Denise that it's not occupying your mind so much. Your Son sounds amazing.

It's a well worn saying that time heals and although I think that something like this will never leave you, time will soften it a bit, otherwise you would let it destroy you and you have let the FA win, something that no matter happens with us I am determined not to let happen.

Izzy xx

Hi izzy
I hope you and your son are ok
I've missed you posting

Something occurred to me today and I wonder if it's logical
Our ordeal lasted 5 months, maybe I should give myself that time again but in this process of healing ?

Or maybe it's my way of not rushing it and taking the healing slowly xx

[Browneyedgirl]

Denise as time goes on that percentage you spoke about will get less and less – maybe it won’t go completely but I’m sure there will come a point where you will find you don’t think about it quite so much. I am so glad you are feeling better with each day and that your son is going ok too.
Much love. xx