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[wunderland]

How long will everything take

Number 1 it is great your son even applied for a job that's fantastic everyone's case is diffrent my lawyer told me a year ago things could happen very quickly but my with my case
And Im guessing maybe Somone can correct
Me! Is the process and information you get is like a bath being filled by drops very slowly over 365 days I every month have gotten some new information so you and
Your family should really learn to live with reality even though it sucks I think take things very serious but not to the point where anyone goes into major depression I'm very against drugs but maybe untill his trial anti depressants will help him cope with the shell shock also the main main main thing is for the family not to
Make him more stressed or make him feel any worse I think this is the time to tell him everyday you guys love him and make sure everyone in the family understands the fragility of his situation and he is probably living with a lot of anger because being innocent and falsely accused ruins your life so the main thing is to understand you guys should learn to live with this situation get
Your case and lawyers correct but then your lives must go on don't suffer for a year everyone should try find peace
And thank god this is not a
Death sentence I no I'm not guilty but I have done everything I
Can to defend myself and my parents told
Me they will love me and BELEIVE in me no
Matter what and I have faith no matter what things will get better your son sounds like he is a very smart guy once the shell
Shock disappears living with this reality will become much easier the
Beginning is the hardest part God bless you good luck

[gem]

hi
their is nothing wrong with you trying to help your son. you will find alot of mums on here including me. that will be doing everything in their power to help their sons.. sadly in our case i sat back and waited for the defence team to do the work for my son.
my son has no knowledge of the law as i never myself and well we just trusted them to do their job.
he was convicted.. although got good grounds for apeal with new team.
my advice to you is to dig wherever you can for any info you can get ,facebook anything ask your solicitors about everything that the statements reveal..to get a good case together police still have my computer 1 year later they are not releasing it until my son is released one way or another ...

[Denise]

Hi and a warm welcome to you

I'm a mum of a son who's been accused of rape with no sexual contact

He was arrested sept 2011 and we are still waiting for a decision from CPS

my heart goes out to you both, at the moment I still don't think the full realisation has hit my son but for me I am drsperate, I'm a bag of nerves and am not really coping well anymore, but my mum instinct will make me fight on to give my son the freedom And future he deserves

I felt so alone until I looked up a support group and found this forum, although we can't pop to each others for a coffee and a cry ( which would be great) you won't ever fully feel alone again

It's very sad and very scary how many false rape claims are happening

Xx

[Faith]

Without trying to be a scaremonger, I really really do think you should find out how experienced your solicitor is in these kinds of cases. Finding a specialist really could make the difference between freedom and prison...you need someone who knows EXACTLY how to fight these cases because they are so different to 'normal' cases.

The solicitor should be pushing to receive a FULL disclosure from the police...as Saffron says, that is all evidence, including the unused. Just because they can't use it, doesn't mean that you can't. In fact, this could well be your key evidence as they are not likely to use evidence that will benefit the case. Your solicitor must investigate and be sure they have received everything (and an experienced solicitor will know exactly how to go about this) as it isn't unheard of that unused evidence is hidden or lost by the police.

I fully agree with Gem...this is a situation where you really can't do too much for your son. You will have to prepare to be snapped at and sometimes take the brunt of his emotions, which will be all over the place, but remember that he doesn't mean it, it is just the situation that is causing it. In something like this, the more support the better. None of you have ever been through this before so two heads are better than one.

As for the shop job, it is often the case that you can be overqualified. Corner shops probably won't want to take on aspiring career-ists as they are less likely to stick around.

Keep laughing, keep smiling, keep busy, keep visiting here, keep interfering and keep remembering that you and your son are the victims in this...you are both INNOCENT. Nothing can destroy that.
Take care.

[scaredandangry]

My sons solicitors are Maidments, I know they are a nationwide concern, anyone heard of them? Any feedback from anyone would be greatly appreciated.

[Faith]

After a brief search, I couldn't find any news stories relating to them but from their website, it seems like they do offer specialist services for sexual crime.
With it being a national company with many branches, there may be a 'postcode lottery' in that it would depend on the calibre of solicitor based at your local branch.

If you feel confident in the solicitor and your son does then that is important.
Someone may be along to say they have experience with Maidments.

[Saffron]

Excellent advice and support as ever Faith - thank you.

[kazzarat]

keep strong from onemum to another

Hi and welcome on here this is the best place for you to be. I want to send my heartfelt wishes to you. We have just got through our ordeal which took 18 months from start to finish but we got the right outcome my son was found not guilty. Please take some comfort from this as you will need to hear positive things. If i can be of any help to you in any way i will. I wouldn't want anyone to have to go through this but unfortunately because of these stupid girls we find ourselves in every mothers worst nightmare. Please read my posts and try to start feeling positive. Thinking of you kazzarat xx

[worriedfather]

Hi Welcome to the forum.
I suggest that you get your solicitor to push the cps for the disclosure, my experience of the cps was that that they will stall wherever possible, their view is that the more they hold you up the less time that you have to prepare your defence.
the police and cps should disclose anything that that they found on the laptop and mobile phone, you may find that the provider may be able to give you copies if your solicitor requests them
Read everything that you get and make notes of anything that contradicts what you have said,
You will find that the police and the cps will stall and will lie and cheat in order to gain a conviction. Ask your solicitor to request that any previous complaints are disclosed, we were told 3 weeks before trial that my sons accuser had made a previous complaint that was false.
The CPS did not give us the forensics results until a month before the trial,
You should try and find a provable lie, to cast doubt on her version

[felix]

I am sorry to be tough but you owe it to your son to interfere, if needs be very strongly, and get him a specialist solicitor in the field of false rape accusations. And pay if it helps. A top general purpose criminal lawyer is not enough, possibly no good at all. Bluntly, smack his self esteem if you have to; you can always re build it. But a mismanaged trial by an inexperienced team could result in a long prison sentence. Don't play around. This is deadly serious.

[Faith]

I would second what worriedfather and felix sa: specialist solicitor and keep on at them for this disclosure.
So important. You only get one chance at this.
Get a decent legal team behind you and that chance increases dramatically.

[scaredandangry]

A new hat!

Hi All
Been a couple of weeks since I posted anything here, at the moment we are having somewhat of a quiet time, some would say pleasant, my son has found some work, both paid and unpaid in his field of expertise, which is a massive help to his self esteem, the weather is good, its like we are living a normal life, doing normal things, so we are banking these feelings for later on when the s!*t enevitably hits the fan.
His legal team are in possesion of all of her lies and are working with my son every step of the way. His girlfriend even asked him to marry her on Leap Year Day! He said no just now but to ask again when this debacle is over.
I may need a hat!

[Saffron]

Hello again Scaredandangry
I'm pleased to read that your lad has found some work - should keep him busy and take his mind off things.
It's also good news that you are enjoying some "normal life" and storing it all up for later. Well done, that shows huge strength of character.
I asked Mr Saffron to marry me on LeapDay in 1996...he too turned me down! Luckily he asked me in July of the same year.
I think your lad is showing enormous common sense by gently refusing his girlfriend's proposal for the time being. Maybe when your nightmare is over he can do the asking!

And you won't just need a new hat - new clothes, shoes and handbag too!

[Denise]

Hello again Scaredandangry
I'm pleased to read that your lad has found some work - should keep him busy and take his mind off things.
It's also good news that you are enjoying some "normal life" and storing it all up for later. Well done, that shows huge strength of character.
I asked Mr Saffron to marry me on LeapDay in 1996...he too turned me down! Luckily he asked me in July of the same year.
I think your lad is showing enormous common sense by gently refusing his girlfriend's proposal for the time being. Maybe when your nightmare is over he can do the asking!

And you won't just need a new hat - new clothes, shoes and handbag too!

I'm guessing that your name is not Saffron
But I always smile when I read your posts mentioning 'mr saffron' it's so sweet xx

[Faith]

I would prefer 'The Saff-man'