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  • Devastated

    Hi All.

    My story is a tad complicated to be honest. But here goes. (Deep breath)


    My partner has been accused of rape by his wife and we need some help. It is a complicated situation, but basically, I am white and my partner is asian. He had an arranged marriage which took place on the 17th December 2011. It was a marriage of convenience and in the three and a half years I have been seeing him I knew it had to happen, he was not happy with the situation but that’s just how things had to be.

    From the start his family had made it clear that a British visa would not be authorized until they were satisfied that the marriage was going to work. Basically the marriage failed in under a month and a week later she accused my partner of marital rape. We have a solicitor but he doesn’t seem to be doing anything to be honest. I don’t know how the legal system works in terms of finding the correct barrister. Do we have to just hope that the solicitor works with the barristers in this area?

    My life has just stopped really since it happened. Time just seems to merge into one. I wake up and have two minutes peace and then the reality dawns and creeps into my mind like a horrid spectre. Taf is the nicest guy I have met. It breaks my heart that this has happened. I find myself constantly trying to stop myself crying and I NEVER used to cry. I am not that type of person but it's like tears are always there in the background, literally like I am grieving. However, some stories on here are far worse than mine. I will pray for all of us and somehow try and make the best of a bad situation by highlighting and campaigning in the future about what false allegation does.

    Anyway, I can breathe now. Hi all! lol

  • #2
    Just to say Hi and welcome Tiftaf, I was off to bed when I saw your post.

    Others will be along tomorrow.

    It is very hard, but try to get some sleep.

    Till then

    Verity

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    • #3
      bit early for you vj your getting old !! Lol

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      • #4
        Hi Tiftaf,

        Sorry you had to find your way here but it's a good place to get advice and support.
        I'm just a few weeks into this so am not in a position to offer advice on the legal side but can relate to your crying, think I have cryed more in the last few weeks than I have in my life. My advice would be to see your Doctor, I did and got something to keep it under control.

        Izzy

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        • #5
          Hi tiftaf

          Welcome to the forum, although I am sorry that you find yourself in need of it. You will find a lot of help and support from people here.

          Can you clarify a couple of things?
          Has your partner been charged or just arrested?
          Is your solicitor a specialist in sexual crime and false allegations?
          "Be sure your sin will find you out"

          Numbers 32:23

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          • #6
            Originally posted by worriedandconcerned View Post
            bit early for you vj your getting old !! Lol
            Agreed wac, the night is yet young. I remember the days when vj could hack it
            "Be sure your sin will find you out"

            Numbers 32:23

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Faith View Post
              Hi tiftaf

              Welcome to the forum, although I am sorry that you find yourself in need of it. You will find a lot of help and support from people here.

              Can you clarify a couple of things?
              Has your partner been charged or just arrested?
              Is your solicitor a specialist in sexual crime and false allegations?

              Hi Faith

              Yes my partner has been charged. Although the solicitor claims to be an expert he was just the duty solicitor. His attitude is atrocious. I have had to threaten him twice with finding alternative representation just to get him to speak to us. I have been trying to find a decent solicitor but we also need a decent barrister. So I emailed all the barristers in Manchester who specialise and one has replied already!

              Can anyone recommend a decent solicitor? Taffy has already contacted Chris Salstrese by the way. We just want to look around a little more. He has also rang Stephensons and is waiting for Corina Platt to call him back.

              Hope you all have a nice day. It's sunny here so today we are going to do our work in finding a solicitor and then I am determined we are going to do something nice. Again thanks for all your help. Mucho appreciated.

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              • #8
                Faith
                Originally Posted by worriedandconcerned
                bit early for you vj your getting old !! Lol

                Originally posted by Faith View Post
                Agreed wac, the night is yet young. I remember the days when vj could hack it
                OI, You two!!!

                I only went to bed early coz Mark shoved me into the attic and I had to lug heafty stuff down to him......Oooooooooo, my poor back!! Le agoneee!!!!

                Now get back on topic or you'll both get an RF penguin slap

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