Loved one accused of rape

[Denise]

Faith I honestly think the doc is the next one I need to see

This is beating me and I'm admitting defeat

I think the coping mechanism has gone

Xx

[Faith]

No Denise, it is not beating you...look at what you have achieved so far.
You are going through a hell of a time, but you WILL get through this, I guarantee it. You are a tough cookie.

If you can get this far you are capable of anything. We are all behind you here and you are much loved on this forum.

do not let the b*stards grind you down. Your solicitor thinks this is positive news...this could be the evidence that gets this whole crock of sh*t thrown out. Excuse my language, I hope you're not offended.

If you want a chat, send me a PM and I will give you my mobile number.

[Denise]

No I'm not offended at all, I've said a hell of a lot worse through this

I don't think the solicitor is the one we'll keep
He's reputable where we live for helping youngsters in court and having no history of needing a solicitor before for police matters he was the one I called

If these pics don't help along with the lies they've already told then I'm convinced they'll continue until they find a way of getting him xx

[Browneyedgirl]

Denise, I’m sorry I haven’t posted on your thread for a few days. Like you I have been having a real low about everything. I know exactly how you are feeling. Even if we get NFA we know it won’t be the end of the ordeal as they will just try a different avenue to get to us. You must keep reminding yourself Denise that you and your son have done nothing wrong. I know it is difficult, but stay strong and rise above those selfish, money grabbing so an so’s. You have the determination to fight them and even if sometimes you have a low day when you think all your strength has gone, you are doing brilliantly flower.
Take care. xx

[Denise]

Hi

I'm do sorry you're feeling it too :-(

Is that right ? If you get an NFA they can find another way and it's still not over with ?

I've done the discs, the printer has decided to not work so I've saved my little written summary of each year describing the pics and videos etc and will print the copies tomorrow at work, think DC might be round tomorrow night to get it

I haven't cried today but I've felt ever so shaky

Why can't we all have our normal mundane lives back ?

I've forgot what it felt like to only have the weather or a traffic jam to moan about xx

[Faith]

Without wanting to put words into someone else's mouth, I assume that Browneyedgirl means the accuser will search for another way to get them

The police won't victimise you to the extent that they will try to frame you for something else.

[Denise]

I'm so slow On the uptake, either that or over suspicious or like my OH and daughter both separately mentioned today, a tad paranoid

But I think this stress makes you like that

Thanks Faith for clarifying xx

[Browneyedgirl]

I guess we all look at life very differently now after going through these ordeals, regardless of the outcome. Give me mundane life anytime. What I meant in the last post Denise was that we know the accusers will try another way of getting at us, whether it is directly or by making up more allegations. I live on a knife’s edge as do my children, fearing that the accusers will turn up at any moment.

Others might suggest different, but should you get the DC to sign for what she is taking so you have a record of what you gave to her? Just a thought.

Stay strong Denise. Much love. xx

[Faith]

Sadly you are right browneyedgirl, an accusation will leave one permanently paranoid and breaks a trust forever.

And an NFA is no miracle cure...Ive havent felt any real joy yet since I was NFA'd. Relief yes...but no happiness can ever come from something like this.

[Denise]

Congratulations on your NFA faith I just saw it on another alert I got from email

I envy you but I know from reading other NFA posts it doesn't make you feel suddenly right again, if ever

But well done :-) xx

[Denise]

Update

DC was off yesterday but sent a colleague to collect the cd - I also gave a 3 page write up of a question she asked me last week

The colleague said DC will look at it and inform CPS who may/may not want to see it

Im convinced it will go to court xx

[Denise]

Nfa !

Just got the call !!!!!!! Xx

[Izzy]

Oh Denise, I'm so happy for you and your Son


Izzy xx

[gem]

denise i am over the moon for you and yur son

[RFLH]

oh that is such good news!!