Loved one accused of rape

[Faith]

You can't get rid of me that easily xx

Damn!

Funny how it pans out, I had coped really well until that last week too. Then it all went to pot...and then the good news came!

Thank goodness it came when it did, eh?!

[Denise]

Damn!

Funny how it pans out, I had coped really well until that last week too. Then it all went to pot...and then the good news came!

Thank goodness it came when it did, eh?!

I'm sure had we not heard anything last week that they would've been visiting me in psychiatric ward for more info

I just got to the point where I couldn't take anymore

Xx

[Faith]

Yes, I'm fairly sure I would have been sharing your ward.
It does reach a crisis point, no matter how strong you are (and you are very strong)
Glad you came through the other side...you're an enormous help to others.

[Browneyedgirl]

Faith and Denise. I just want to say thank you. You have both helped me with your posts. I think I am reaching that crisis point you talk about, so I know exactly what you mean. I keep trying to be strong, but when I'm alone or when people ask me how I am, I just go to pieces. As the start of each week comes, I wonder if this will be the week that we hear about the decision. Thank you for your encouragement and strength. xx

[Faith]

I hope so much that this is your week!

[Denise]

Go to the doc, please

I wish I had
And I'm still thinking about whether to now

Don't do this alone Browneyedgirl, you deserve the help
That point is nasty and destructive, I've been plagued by bad headaches all weekend and I know I'm just entering a new journey here, I'm not playing it down, I'm estatic at our news but I need a period of adjustment here plus I know you gem izzy to name a few are all suffering your waiting games

We're here for you always xxxx

[Denise]

Yes, I'm fairly sure I would have been sharing your ward.
It does reach a crisis point, no matter how strong you are (and you are very strong)
Glad you came through the other side...you're an enormous help to others.

I see such a strength in each and every one of you

I am known to be open and speak from the heart
I've been told all my life one meeting with me and you come away knowing everything there is to know about me

But at 45 I'm unlikely to change now !

Xx

[Faith]

I reccommend that you both visit your GP

Aside from using Chris Saltrese that was the most positive thing I ever did. My counsellor is great.

[Browneyedgirl]

Faith - I do hope so, I really do.
Denise - thank you so much for caring. I have a real fear that if I go docs, he will put me on anti d's and I'll be on them for the rest of my life. I've been brought up not to show emotion or ask for support. I always put on a brave face and never complain. I think all those years of being like that are now coming out through this ordeal. I know whichever way the decision goes, I will enter into a new phase of emotion and thanks to your's and others posts I am hoping to have the strength to tackle it head on. I will give the visit to docs some thought. Thank you so much. xx

[Denise]

I was brought up that tablets were an escape so I hear what you're saying

Times have changed now, life is tough without these things going on

We live in a busy expensive world

But we have a reason to get help
This is reactive depression browneyedgirl it's not like waking up on a dark rainy morning and feeling down, we've all had good reason to feel like we do

We tell our docs we need a little help right now yeah ? And that we will get through it and that we don't want to become medicine dependant

Xx

[Browneyedgirl]

You are right Denise. I know deep down I need to go docs, I just need to get the courage up to go and ask for help. Thank you so much for your kind words and support Denise. xx

[Denise]

You are right Denise. I know deep down I need to go docs, I just need to get the courage up to go and ask for help. Thank you so much for your kind words and support Denise. xx

Please take it from me, Tuesday I couldn't cope
I was no use to anyone, most importantly the police , remember how I ignored her ? Thank god my daughter took over otherwise it would've looked like I had something to hide, yet in reality, not thinking straight I felt i'd given my all, but I hadn't, there was more to give, I just was burnt out

You tell them whatever they give you that you need to still have a clear head xx

[tiftaf]

How long does the CPS take to make their decision? How long as it been for you and Denise Faith since the arrest to being told you should have a decision soon? And ummm whats NFA? lol I hope you are both put out of your misery soon and obviously hope the outcome is what you want. :-) Have a lovely Sunday or try to. I am off to walk my pooch. Did you get a dog Denise?

[Denise]

How long does the CPS take to make their decision? How long as it been for you and Denise Faith since the arrest to being told you should have a decision soon? And ummm whats NFA? lol I hope you are both put out of your misery soon and obviously hope the outcome is what you want. :-) Have a lovely Sunday or try to. I am off to walk my pooch. Did you get a dog Denise?

Faith and my son both got NFA 'd last week

For us, my son was arrested 27th sept and it should've gone to CPS last week of nov but it eventually went to them Xmas week

In our experience, CPS kept asking for more info, it must've meant they had little to go on

Are you still waiting ? Good luck it's been a good period lately on here for NFA's
Xx

[Denise]

NFA = no further action
Xx