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2 days ago my fiance left for work and never came back. She refused to speak to me on the phone and only sent me a text saying we're over. She's a bit childish and does some silly things sometimes. We've had split up's like this before but soon got back together. She said when we split up that she's going to travel the world with her friend (and pay for her) She has always been broke all her life, she doesn't know how to handle money, only spend it.
The only reason she has money now, is because she inherited her nans house when she died, and she just sold it for 70k, it's not a lot of money, but it's enough to get a house (when pooled with my money) and that was our plan.
So now she's going to blow it all on some world trip, she'll be broke again in no time atall. I think she probably doesn't realise how little money that really is, it's not going to last long if you're traveling around the world, and the way she spends money... broke in a month max.
The tragic thing is that her gran left her that house so she could get on in life, have her own place to live in this country of renters who never get anywhere because rent is so expensive. Her mum is still around, why didn't the gran leave it all to the mother? Because her mother is also bad with money and made bad decisions all through life and now lives by herself in ill health, full of regrets, and is suicidial, infact, we've not heard from her since the one time we spoke to her after she found out the news that her daughter is going to waste the money, she was crying her eyes out and sounded seriously crazy upset. Can't get in touch with her now, it worries me. Her mother could have took her own life, she has a history of mental illness and severe depression.
Sorry if i'm going off track but i'm building it all up so you get the whole picture.
So, shortly after my fiance left, i received some messages that made it apparent that she had been cheating on me previously with someone else, and planned to meet him again, it later became obvious that this wasn't the case, but before i discovered this i got very upset, she was going to stupidly throw her life away and she had been cheating, greatly upset, i told her via a message "i'll kill you slut".
She called the police, they arrested me for that message, an hour later almost, they informed me that she had made further allegations, she claimed i have raped her 4 weeks earlier. An hour later again, they said further allegations have been made, claiming you assaulted her several years ago, on a few occasions.
Now, the only true allegation is the one where I threatend her over MSN.
From the moment of being arrested, i've been nothing but calm and cooperative with the police. I had to wait in a cell for 16 hours before a solicitor saw me, the wait was worth it, the solicitor they assigned to me was a very good one, very passionate about his job. I talked with him for close to 2 hours. He gave me a lot of advice, he did tell me that personally he thought i went off topic too much in my responses and i should stick to the point. He said this worried him that they'd eat me alive in the interview because i kept making this mistake.
So in the interview, which lasted over an hour, I absolutely destroyed the officers who questioned me, he said i answered so brilliantly, and was also calm, i didn't use any "no comment" i answered every single question, he had explained the no comment strategy to me prioer but we decided i didn't need to use any no comments, it's the best he's ever seen anyone do he said, he said the interviewers were paticuarly harsh aswell and he doesn't think even he could have done so well as I did. He was certain the worst i'd get as a result was bail, but probably just a caution for the threatening messages and let off on the others.
However, they went with the bail, pending further evidence gathering. They have my computer and phone that have chat logs between me and the accuser, but I did not tell them any lies that happend on the chatlogs, she already reported all of that, and i answered the questions truthfully and told them i didn't mean any of it and i deeply regret saying those things. There's also a few stupid things she said to me, that i told them she said, they didn't believe me at first but i told them it's logged so you can see it.
I should also mention that the day she left for work, she told me "i love you" the next thing i get is a text hours later saying "i hate you". She also said in the text "oh and by the way i like girls not men".
She also told me she loves me via msn and probably the phone on many many occasions since the alledged rape took place (4 weeks ago). I actually forgot to mention this to them during the interview, would it be worth me contacting them to add this evidence?
She claims that she has hated me ever since the alledged rape and that she decided it was over at that point, if that is true, then why has she constantly told me that she loves me ever since?
Dispite what she has done, i still love this woman, i don't think she realises the seriousness of what she has done, the seriousness of a rape allegation, what it could mean for me, and more importantly to her, what it could mean for her. If she is proved to be falsely accusing, my solicitor told me it could mean years in prison for such an offense.
My bale ends april 10th, the condition is that i'm not allowed to contact her atall. I'm appealing against this condition because the last thing i said to her was I was going to kill you, slut. I didn't mean this and don't want it to be the last thing she remembers me saying to her, i want to say that i am sorry and didn't mean any of it.
The rape itself she alledges happend 4 weeks ago when were in bed together, we share the same bed every night, have done for 10 years. She alledges that she was asleep and I woke her up and forced her into a sexual position, held her down, and forcedly had sex with her while and claims that she told me to get off and let me know that she was in pain. She lied, blatantly, and repeatedly. We did have sex that night, and she did say she was tired, but i begged her a little, for 20-30 seconds, and she agreed, and she got herself into a sexual position, the one we used most of the time, and it was dead obvious that she had accepted me. She made no sounds of pain and she did not tell me to get off, nor did i have to hold her down, nor did i hold her down in any way. Also, the reason i can recall the night in question is because we've not had a lot of sex recently, no more than 2-3 times a month.
What do you think the outcome will be based on what you've read? Is there any chance of them actually convicting me of rape? What will it mean for her if 4 more months of wasted police time go by on this and the result is that the allegations were false?
I'm wondering if i should tell the police that she may fail to understand the seriousness of her allegation and they need to inform her of this and also what it will mean for her if it proves to be false.
She tried to get me locked away, for a long time, as a result, she herself may get locked away instead. I do not wish this upon her, because I stil llove her, dispite what she put me through with the police and what could have happend. That's my character, i wouldn't wish such harm on her.
The only reason she has money now, is because she inherited her nans house when she died, and she just sold it for 70k, it's not a lot of money, but it's enough to get a house (when pooled with my money) and that was our plan.
So now she's going to blow it all on some world trip, she'll be broke again in no time atall. I think she probably doesn't realise how little money that really is, it's not going to last long if you're traveling around the world, and the way she spends money... broke in a month max.
The tragic thing is that her gran left her that house so she could get on in life, have her own place to live in this country of renters who never get anywhere because rent is so expensive. Her mum is still around, why didn't the gran leave it all to the mother? Because her mother is also bad with money and made bad decisions all through life and now lives by herself in ill health, full of regrets, and is suicidial, infact, we've not heard from her since the one time we spoke to her after she found out the news that her daughter is going to waste the money, she was crying her eyes out and sounded seriously crazy upset. Can't get in touch with her now, it worries me. Her mother could have took her own life, she has a history of mental illness and severe depression.
Sorry if i'm going off track but i'm building it all up so you get the whole picture.
So, shortly after my fiance left, i received some messages that made it apparent that she had been cheating on me previously with someone else, and planned to meet him again, it later became obvious that this wasn't the case, but before i discovered this i got very upset, she was going to stupidly throw her life away and she had been cheating, greatly upset, i told her via a message "i'll kill you slut".
She called the police, they arrested me for that message, an hour later almost, they informed me that she had made further allegations, she claimed i have raped her 4 weeks earlier. An hour later again, they said further allegations have been made, claiming you assaulted her several years ago, on a few occasions.
Now, the only true allegation is the one where I threatend her over MSN.
From the moment of being arrested, i've been nothing but calm and cooperative with the police. I had to wait in a cell for 16 hours before a solicitor saw me, the wait was worth it, the solicitor they assigned to me was a very good one, very passionate about his job. I talked with him for close to 2 hours. He gave me a lot of advice, he did tell me that personally he thought i went off topic too much in my responses and i should stick to the point. He said this worried him that they'd eat me alive in the interview because i kept making this mistake.
So in the interview, which lasted over an hour, I absolutely destroyed the officers who questioned me, he said i answered so brilliantly, and was also calm, i didn't use any "no comment" i answered every single question, he had explained the no comment strategy to me prioer but we decided i didn't need to use any no comments, it's the best he's ever seen anyone do he said, he said the interviewers were paticuarly harsh aswell and he doesn't think even he could have done so well as I did. He was certain the worst i'd get as a result was bail, but probably just a caution for the threatening messages and let off on the others.
However, they went with the bail, pending further evidence gathering. They have my computer and phone that have chat logs between me and the accuser, but I did not tell them any lies that happend on the chatlogs, she already reported all of that, and i answered the questions truthfully and told them i didn't mean any of it and i deeply regret saying those things. There's also a few stupid things she said to me, that i told them she said, they didn't believe me at first but i told them it's logged so you can see it.
I should also mention that the day she left for work, she told me "i love you" the next thing i get is a text hours later saying "i hate you". She also said in the text "oh and by the way i like girls not men".
She also told me she loves me via msn and probably the phone on many many occasions since the alledged rape took place (4 weeks ago). I actually forgot to mention this to them during the interview, would it be worth me contacting them to add this evidence?
She claims that she has hated me ever since the alledged rape and that she decided it was over at that point, if that is true, then why has she constantly told me that she loves me ever since?
Dispite what she has done, i still love this woman, i don't think she realises the seriousness of what she has done, the seriousness of a rape allegation, what it could mean for me, and more importantly to her, what it could mean for her. If she is proved to be falsely accusing, my solicitor told me it could mean years in prison for such an offense.
My bale ends april 10th, the condition is that i'm not allowed to contact her atall. I'm appealing against this condition because the last thing i said to her was I was going to kill you, slut. I didn't mean this and don't want it to be the last thing she remembers me saying to her, i want to say that i am sorry and didn't mean any of it.
The rape itself she alledges happend 4 weeks ago when were in bed together, we share the same bed every night, have done for 10 years. She alledges that she was asleep and I woke her up and forced her into a sexual position, held her down, and forcedly had sex with her while and claims that she told me to get off and let me know that she was in pain. She lied, blatantly, and repeatedly. We did have sex that night, and she did say she was tired, but i begged her a little, for 20-30 seconds, and she agreed, and she got herself into a sexual position, the one we used most of the time, and it was dead obvious that she had accepted me. She made no sounds of pain and she did not tell me to get off, nor did i have to hold her down, nor did i hold her down in any way. Also, the reason i can recall the night in question is because we've not had a lot of sex recently, no more than 2-3 times a month.
What do you think the outcome will be based on what you've read? Is there any chance of them actually convicting me of rape? What will it mean for her if 4 more months of wasted police time go by on this and the result is that the allegations were false?
I'm wondering if i should tell the police that she may fail to understand the seriousness of her allegation and they need to inform her of this and also what it will mean for her if it proves to be false.
She tried to get me locked away, for a long time, as a result, she herself may get locked away instead. I do not wish this upon her, because I stil llove her, dispite what she put me through with the police and what could have happend. That's my character, i wouldn't wish such harm on her.
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