Hello - mother of falsely accused son

[whatsgoingon?]

Point taken. I always thought there had to be proof before you could be charged but that's obviously not the case.

[fighter]

Point taken. I always thought there had to be proof before you could be charged but that's obviously not the case.

yes, same for us too, whatsgoingon, I also believed before if the evidences are conflicting each other thenit will be dropped. my partner's case was historical rape of 14 to 17 years; so no forensic to support it; only the accuser's statement and the conflicting statements of other immediate family members but it still goes to trial. The prosecution''s only weapon was there was an "opportunity" to do it..but no evidence.

We were very lucky to have a fair judge, good defense team and thinking jury members. I think once you are charged, you got the chance to do what you can do for your son, make sure the defense team is really good and pray hard for a good judge and good jury.

[Boys don't cry]

Whatsgoingon?

I know your son's trial is very close,so I would like to send you both all my positive thoughts.

Take care and keep faith.

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[Izzy]

Thinking of you both too x

[Angry and frightened]

May justice prevail, for you and your son. Good luck xx

[stressed out]

stressed out

hi.

whatever happened with your son was not good. i always think, forensic and biological evidence is the most important thing in every case but if police didn't find them then wonder why they still charged your son but as he did not do anything, in the end of the say, he is positive and he will be free to go,

your son's story exactly same as my story. i didn't do anything but still accused of rape, even though i didn't even touch the girl. but i really hope truth will come out.

[whatsgoingon?]

Thank-you for your words of support and encouragement. The trial's in January. The sol has now received all the evidence and is about to go through it all with my son and I shall also be seeing him. He is incedibly firghtened (who isn,t), but luckily I ,ll be seeing more of him in the next few months so will be able to keep more of an eye out on his state of mind etc and get him extra help if he needs it. I feel it's a bit easier now that we are actually getting the case ready, those months of not knowing and not being able to do anything were the worst.

[whatsgoingon?]

There's a fine balance between keeping busy to stay sane and pretending it's just a bad dream. He asked me yesterday if he would have to speak in court so I realise we still have a way to go.

[Izzy]

It is a fine balance but I think everyone finds their own coping mechanism.
It's good he's got you there for support but don't forget yourself as you'll need some too.

[So angry and hurt]

So hurt and angry

I'm just wondering ,what are people's thoughts on going into court cases similar to those of our loved ones, and taking them with us , do you think it would give them a good idea of what to expect ,or just frighten them s......less ?

[whatsgoingon?]

I've thought of this.... I asked the sol what he thought and he said it would probably frighten the hell out of him.... but what of the real thing ???

[whatsgoingon?]

It is a fine balance but I think everyone finds their own coping mechanism.
It's good he's got you there for support but don't forget yourself as you'll need some too.

You're absolutely right Izzy, there's no point the supporters going under... it's easy to forget sometimes.

[RFLH]

I thought that too - until RF asked me how would I feel if people just came to sit in at my ex's trial 'to see what it was like'? Looked at that way we agreed with her.

[Izzy]

I must admit I pondered that at one time, but for the reason that RFLH made I didn't think I could do it, I would have found it to uncomfortable. Also as all cases are different I would think it might be quite hard to find one that was relevant to your own.

[Faith]

I agree with RFLH and Izzy.
Not just for the fact that it may be seen as disrespectful to turn up in droves (which it would) but also the fact that it may just serve to worry you all more as you have no idea the bckgrounds of the case and what is going on behind the scenes

If a guilty verdict was reached for example, you may be panicked and feel hopeful. But it could well be the case that in the trial you were seeing someone who actually did commit the crime