Can you please help me

[mrmodandmisspunk]

That's what I thought, I have many statements, however I am trying to provide more evidence.
From what I can see, she has a statement from a man in the bar where we had dinner that evening stating that she was flirting with him and I got pissed off. This was nothing usually and I have statements on my side from friends saying that she openly flirted with them, and others in front of me, and even if I was ever pissed off I never reacted.
I am also trying to prove her motive, she is an actress and acts in the theatre, and sings in shopping malls etc, she loves drama, she loved the fact I was a solicitor myself, and had a good income, I paid more in rent and more in food shopping, bills, etc but anyone would do that wouldn't they when earning more than their partner.
What myself and the team are trying to do is prove everything with psychical evidence, at the moment a lot is seeming my word against hers.

Exactly one week today till first preliminary court date. I am still in hope that they will throw it out. Her video is ridiculous, she laughs, and forgets things, it is very unbelievable. That will be the best Christmas present ever... fingers crossed.

[billykickass]

Hello to the both of you

My next bail date is 19th of dec lets hope we both get what we want for christmas. Good luck.

[Saffron]

Case do get thrown out at court stage but it is rare. Your team could make an argument of "no case to answer" but by the time it has come before the judge it is very unusual to for him/her to decide to bin it.

I don't want to put a downer on you, but please be mentally prepared for it to go all the way to trial by jury. The fact that she laughs in her video interview is not necessarily relevant - lots of people have "nervous laughter" at moments of extreme strain. If I were in your shoes I would be concentrating on what she actually says - the contradictions and the provable lies (if any).

The fact she is an actress worries me. In a case like this it all rests on who the jury believes. Do you think she can put up a credible show on the stand? I am not sure whether your counsel can draw the jury's attention to her acting profession, but it would be helpful if they could.

however, if at the end of the day, if she is alleging that you used force and there is no physical evidence of that, her case is weak.

Hang in there.

[fighter]

mrmodandmisspunk,
sorry you are undergoing this. with regards to court hearings length, just to give you an idea, my partner also falsely accused has been charged sept, we went to two preliminary court hearings in october within two weeks, then another administrative hearing on january which we were advised that the real fight will start around April. It is a long waiting game and the solicitor has advised us to get on with our lives.

Try to monitor all her friends on facebook with public profiles (who she usually comments/communicate with) you may get some more to help you with evidence. I did this and got two relevant information that would help us. It is time consuming but if it will contradict her statement against you that hard work will be worth it. As long as it is public it is for everyone to see, you wont be hacking anybody's facebook or anything.

Do take care of yourself and yes you are lucky to have your gf with you. It takes a lot to handle it from a gf's side. So be strong, it would make it easier for both of you.. eat well, be positive.

[mrmodandmisspunk]

Hello. Preliminary hearing was meant to be on tuesday 13th.. we delayed it by 2 days as my barrister was committed to another case.
It was rescheduled for today, I went with my sister and her partner. I pleaded not guilty.
The date for the actual hearing is April 10th 2011. My ex was not there today. Today was a long day, I didn't eat lunch, still not smoking or drinking. It helps having a clear head. This evening I will be mostly playing computer games to distract myself. I am pleased with my team working with me, however, friendly lawyers do not make this any easier. The ex has requested to give evidence via video link, my barrister has rejected this, suggesting a screen would be sufficient.
More photo's of her have been uploaded onto facebook of her partying in London.
She really doesn't care about this, I know she is doing this for the compensation and to ruin my life.
My solicitors have also requested more info, as it seems the cps are hiding info, and dragging their feet on other info.
I do feel, very much so that this is a tick boxer, mainly because I am a solicitor myself, they want to make an example of me. I feel more positive today, I know what I am facing now, I deserve my life and I am not going to let her take it away from me.
I do know, from researching previous cases, a lot resides on luck, and of the jury. It is completely 50/50 and I will try everything in my power to prove my innocence.
I have around 4 month till the real, actual hearing... any tips, advice, extra evidence I can gather to help clear my name.

Many Thanks MrModandMissPunk xxx

[fighter]

hi, not much of a specific advise except as the solicitor has told us, to move on with our lives and try to forget about it and not to worry too much. Easy to say but hard to do of course. But between me and my partner we agreed to do things we have to do like clean the house, get some projects going, visits friends --- every little bit helps.. we go back to what we are doing before.. watching tv and films, cooking dinner together,going for drives... Our case starts on April too and we cannot be miserable for 4 months. One day I just told myself enough of being miserable. I got tired of it. Anway as you said you deserve your life so do have some life! You have a great gf, make life easier for her also by cheering up

[marynarz]

It looks like for some members including me April is gonna be "special" month.
For me definately cos my trial will start in April on my birthday day. So I will be born again or....

[fighter]

aww marynaz, hopefully your birthday will bring you luck!! and yes hopefully it would be a fast one and you will start with new life.. :-) my partner's first report for bail was on his birthday too last year.. so cruel.

[mrmodandmisspunk]

Hey Guys...
So it's April for all of us. It is very hard to enjoy winter and get involved with the Christmas spirit. Today the dog pooed in the house 4 times, we went to winterwonderland in Hyde Park and it rained, then a car nearly crashed into us, so we had to mount the curb. It's been one of those days.
I'm April 10th... when are you guys? x

[RFLH]

pets - don't you just love them - my cat weed in the bath today, I was in it at the time!

[fighter]

we dont have specific dates yet in April, we will know by 3rd of Jan in the case management hearing. you know these bad days and good days.. just to make something out of it.. when we have bad days, I go get the lotto ticket. :-) I noticed when we have really bad days, we win 10 pounds! hopefully one bad day we will end up with a jackpot! :-)

yes, it is hard to join the christmas spirit. I usually associate it before with being homesick because I am not from the UK. I miss my family; but now I am just relieved to be alone and be miserable when I want to and happier when I can be!

[RFLH]

just to be mean - I hope you don't have too many bad days!

But a win would be brilliant.

Do try and get yourself out of the worrying mindset and go out and enjoy yourself. It does help to do something different and not think for a while.

[mrmodandmisspunk]

Innocent!!! Yes!!! After 1 year waiting!!!

Hello everyone!!!

After nearly a year of waiting Court was April. It started on April 10th and finished April 24th, they found my partner innocent.

We were at Snaresbrooke Crown Court in East London.

I can honestly say that April was the worst month of our life, things that I think helped our case. We were never late, always appeared well presented, my partners, work colleagues, friends and family were there every day. We all deleted our Facebook accounts so nothing could be used against us.

My partner made notes whilst he was in the dock, this helped him keep his cool, and write down anything he should remember later, or questions that arose. I believe this also made his persona look good in front of the jury, he was seemed together, in control and that he was taking the situation seriously.

I sat front row so that I was closest to him, I gave him thumbs up and smiled at him throughout to reassure him that everything was fine.

My partner answered questions honestly, and opening. He admitted to being a geek, etc and letting the accuser get away with anything she wanted.


Our defence didn't bring up all the negatives of the accuser, that she had cheated etc... instead spent time proving what an amazing character my partner was, reading out 17 character statements, and exposing her (accuser) lies, and inaccuracy's, such as she saying he never took his shoes off, then we were able to show him with bare feet. We had lots of little mistakes, creating doubt and proving that she was lying. Also on her police video, she flirts and laughs with the police officer.

My partner one month later, still has nightmares, and is seeing help to deal with that.

Our court bill was just over £22,000... a lot but spread out over the year felt more manageable and now we get that money back.

Our Solicitor was Rhean Bailey, http://www.goldmanbaileysolicitors.co.uk/bailey.html

She is amazing she researched and edited and constructed the whole case. I personally emailed her a ridiculous amount with articles and Facebook images, and twitter screen prints trying to help. But she had everything under control. She also managed to enhance video footage proving my partners innocence even more.

Our barrister was Kier Montieth,
http://www.gardencourtchambers.co.uk...r_monteith.cfm

He was calm throughout, pleasant and friendly. At the end of everyday he took my partner into a private room and went over everything again. He has a good relationship with judge, the prosecution seemed to be flustered and constantly running late and rustling paper work, however Keir was always prepared and relaxed. He had banter with the judge, and came across very confident.

My partner and I have our lives back, we can get married, have a baby and live in peace. I am in no doubt that Kier and Rhean are the only reason my partner was found innocent, in these court rooms, good does not over come bad, you need two of the best lawyers to believe in you and fight your corner... which Kier and Rhean did.

We decided not to presecute this stupid girl for falsely accusing, karma can deal with her, maybe one day she really will be raped, and no one will care.

We have our lives back.
Thank You DaftMoo, for all your help.

Love Miss Punk, and Mr. Mod.

[Faith]

Thank you so much for sharing this information...it will be extremely helpful to those members still facing the ordeal.

I am delighted that you both got the result that you deserved...congratulations and well done for your conduct throughout the whole matter; as you know yourself...just your behaviour in court can be the difference between a guilty and not guilty verdict.

Brilliant, now get on with your lives. This was back in April so I am sure that you have already started to experience a strange whirlwind of emotions that is very natural after this nightmare 'ends' I hope that you have coped as well with that as with the rest of the ordeal and you can now concentrate on the nice things.

And, Daftmoo tradition: dancing 'nanas!!!


WOOOOOOOO-HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!

[RFLH]

Yay!!

That is brilliant news to read, I'm so pleased for you.