Historic, and false, allegation of sexual assault

[felix]

Hi faith, great you have support from lawyer and team and families. I advise loads of physical contacts - hugs etc and more from fiancee. I may be an old man in my 50s but it kept me going!

[Rights Fighter]

Old man and in your 50's? Speak for yourself! Some of us on here are in our 50's and are but mere wippersnappers!!!!

[Faith]

I completely agree with you felix! The love from my fiancee is what keeps me going. Something that my therapist talked me through was imagining the worst case scenario. Even in the worst case scenario, my fiancee will still be there, I have no doubt about that.
I can't imagine going through this kind of horror without her by side.


And you are only as young as you feel!! I'm hoping to be a whippersnapper at 90!!

[RFLH]

ageist!!

Pleased to see you posting and that you're doing fine (well as fine as you can be!). Keep posting, it does help.

[Faith]

Yes, I've found that it does help. I'm focusing on the positives and I think that trying to offer support to others might help me in some way as well.
Not that I would only do it for personal benefit; but two birds with one stone!

[felix]

Actually, joking apart, the elephant in the room for me was that having been accused of rape, suddenly I feared that sex would not work. I had been having, ironically enough, erection problems. Had played with viagra and cialis but was not keen and it felt artificial. Well, post arrest the first few nights hugs and tears were all I wanted. But then I decided sod it. This ***** was not going to destroy my good sex life with my wife. And in fact, by talking the effects (feeling dirtied by police etc etc) over with her (many times) has made things better than ever. Now the pills are redundant! Be encouraged, guys and gals.

[Faith]

Actually, that's not something I have talked about a lot but it's a good point. When this first happened, I felt dirty and that I could never do anything sexual again as I felt guilty even thinking about sex due to the false allegations. But making love with my fiancee is a huge comfort and is so much more now than ever.

[felix]

Go for it, faith, and anyone else in that rotten situation.

[felix]

Go for it, faith, and anyone else in that rotten situation.

[RFLH]

twice??!!

[Faith]

Update

Getting those butterflies!

Chris Saltrese, my solicitor, has been in touch with police and they say they haven't received a decision from CPS yet. Chris informed them he would need to know sooner rather than later as he would need to travel to represent me. So the police are going to chase it up and 'hopefully let us know tomorrow'

Eek...!

[Casehardened]

Well, I will have everything crossed for you tomorrow (especially as I will be out of reach of a loo for a considerable part of the day!)

Try to relax & get some sleep (also be prepared not to actually get an answer tomorrow)

[billykickass]

Yep would say fingers crossed and good luck but as I have said to other people you don't need luck you just need justice, and I really really hope you get that and you can put all this rubbish behind you.

[Izzy]

Will be thinking of you for tomorrow Faith, agree with the post above but will still have everything crossed for you.

Izzy x

[innocentperson]

WWWWOOOOOWWWWWWW!!! I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I pray everything works out for you. Unfortunately, I have no real advice I can give you other than to say that I truly hope everything goes well. Stay strong and don't give up!!