My Story

[yoda]

My wife sols refered for mediation even though I said I was up for mediation but not until the criminal aspect of the case had concluded due to bail condiations.

My bail is due for review 2 days after the mediation appointment. It's a no brainer that I need to resepct my bail condiations and I cant attend.

My mind is doing overtime what does this mean?

1. She's planning(already has) to drop her complaint and hence why she's planning to start mediation.
2. This is just normal routine and mediation is needed for her legal aid, the sol's arn't interested in the detail of bail condiations.
3. She's pushing for financial settlement incase it does go to court and I get put away and the house get repossessed.

This is the worse time as everyone is closed down for xmas.

[Casehardened]

I wasn't sure whether or not I should offer a further suggestion, but I guess you're worrying so much at the moment that it won't add greatly to your burden.

Has your wife given any indication that she wants a divorce: as mediation sessions are now a prerequisite for legal aid for divorce proceedings. If so, obviously her solicitor wouldn't be concerned re. your bail conditions, he's just ticking boxes to get the funding.

[yoda]

Yes I beleive we(me or her) are about to start divorce proceedings.

I won't start this until the Criminal preceedings have concluded, I've got enouh on my plate at the min.

Your suggestion is my option 2.

[Casehardened]

I won't start this until the Criminal preceedings have concluded,

Stay positive, you've not yet been charged and may be NFA'd!

[yoda]

Not very easy this time of year.

I still love the women and can't understand why she is doing this to me. She claims to love my boys and yet is doing this to me and hurts my sons in the process.

I'm scared that if it goes to court she'll be able to tell a story that is beleviable she works in the courts for a living. Yet I can feel the events so accutely and can't understand how it can come to this.

Mental health and depression is playing a part Here!

[Casehardened]

Yes, it's not easy having this situation hanging over you, especially at this time of year.

Try to plan to do something pleasant over the holiday as a distraction, as there's not much you can sort out until after the New Year when all the professionals are back at their desks.

[yoda]

Cant we agree at least to put speach marks around professionals? I looks and feels much better

I see my boys Tomorrow until new years just the distraction I need! My boys are from a previous marriage.

Thank you for your input!

[yoda]

Only a few days to go now. No letter to say defered so I'm condifent a decision has been made I just wonder what it is!

She's treatening to attend the family home to get the rest of her stuff with the police in attandance even thou we have agreed for her brothers to attend previously.

I think shes trying to push me over the edge.

[Casehardened]

Hope the Christmas holiday went well for you.

Only a few days to go now. No letter to say defered so I'm condifent a decision has been made I just wonder what it is!

If you're anxious to know what the decision is, your solicitor may be able to find out for you; however it's quite likely to be another rebail.

[yoda]

Re-bailed with 3 days to go for another 2 weeks just waiting for CPS decision.

Also wife trying to push me by inisisting she attend the properly to get some chairs and curtains... It was mean't to be her brothers only but she appeared with police in tow.

I thin she realises it's going nowhere and having a last push at me!

The more people I share the detail with from the Non Mol order AD the more feedback I get that it's rediculous.

Fingers crossed... Once over she won't have all the control and I can proceed with divorce.

[Casehardened]

If your rebail is for only two weeks it sounds like the decision has been made but the timing wasn't right to communicate it to you.

Hoping you will get the right outcome so you can move on with your life. On this subject, did you attend the mediation appointment?

[yoda]

Mediation no... I didn't think "Shuttle" mediation with us both in different rooms to be an effective way of sorting things out.

I've got an offer that sounds to be acceptable but I won't progress until criminal proeceeds concluded, as I need to know my situation before I can commit.

[yoda]

7 more days...

A decision must come this time! Will it all be over? or will we be off on another jorney?

[JamieG]

Reading your threads it sounds to me it's an obvious not guilty. I am sorry to be so direct.

Think the only thing she's got in her favor is her standing, the evidence of the text messages surely balances it all off.

By the way, I like you in your new phone advert.

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Texts

If the police have your phone then contact your mobile provider to see if they have records of these texts - I dont know but worth a shot. The fact that you tried shows something