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Sorry for the long first post but i have a few queries.
I was falsely accused of rape back in 2010 by my ex claiming that i raped her when i made her leave my flat in August 2009 after finding out she had cheated on me with numerous men (proven by the guys themselves) she had kicked me out of our joint rented flat because she wanted to pursue a relationship with a work collegue (we both worked at the same company as coach drivers) and a few weeks later, i tried to commit suicide as she was making rumours at work and generally making my life horrendous.
I came home one afternoon to find the police had called, leaving me a note to call them back asap. I did and it was arranged i would come down the station a few days later. I was arrested pretty much straight away, and told she had alledged this and that was the reason for arresting me.
Anyway, i spent the next 2 hours in the cells, waiting for a solicitor and was then questioned at great length. I was released and then spent from Jan 2010 to April 2011 on bail. My life went from enjoyable and generally happy to a pit of despair of which i eventually got put on antidepressants and sleeping tablets as it finally got too much for me to deal with.
As for work, they suspended me as soon as the cps decided they were going to prosecute (think its down to the law saying they had to due to the nature of the allegation from what i understand) and for 3 months, i was at home, slowly going mental. I was then told in November 2010, that the company would not continue paying me to stay at home and that unless i took a job as a cleaner at work (sweeping the floors, cleaning the toilets) etc, after 5 years driving for them, then they would terminate my employment. This ended up making me more and more depressed.
The trial finally came about in April 2011 (would have been sooner but her legal team didnt supply the written transcript of ex's video statement until just before the trial) and the evidence was soley based upon her saying she had bruises, of which her and her 2 witness could not agree upon how many and what they were like and where they were. My ex herself, gave 3 very spurious statements of the 'supposed event' including the initial video statement.
Now, my ex has a very dodgy sexual history (indeed, 2 of her ex partners were willing to stand as my witnesses to explain what she was like with them) and according to the law, her sexual past is not allowed to be bought up as it might make her look bad but (had i had any) mine was allowed to be disected for everyone.
The trial lasted 4 days and i nearly broke down on numerous occasions. Had it not been for my sister who stood by me (along with all my friends and family but my sis specifically) i would have probably admitted it just to end everything.
The main gripe is when i was found not guilty (unanimous) even the judge said (who had been getting visually angry that he had to listen to her lies and watch her theatrics) he believed the jury had reached the correct decision, she managed to walk out (i say that, she only turned up for the first two days) scot free.
My friends and family cannot understand this and everyone has said i should take some action to ensure she does not get away with the lies she spread and the pain she caused me for nearly 18 months.
I am not in this for mass amounts of compensation, indeed, i would be happy to see the British Justice system work and prosecute the right person and walk away knowing she has not got away with it hence my post in here. I have all the original paperwork and statements (except hers obviously) and my current partner who has stood by me through all of this, feels i should do this for the genuine rape victims of whom my ex has stolen the courage to report a genuine rape.
Once again, i apologise for the first post but would appreciate it if anyone could give me a direction to move in.
Many thanks
Rob
I was falsely accused of rape back in 2010 by my ex claiming that i raped her when i made her leave my flat in August 2009 after finding out she had cheated on me with numerous men (proven by the guys themselves) she had kicked me out of our joint rented flat because she wanted to pursue a relationship with a work collegue (we both worked at the same company as coach drivers) and a few weeks later, i tried to commit suicide as she was making rumours at work and generally making my life horrendous.
I came home one afternoon to find the police had called, leaving me a note to call them back asap. I did and it was arranged i would come down the station a few days later. I was arrested pretty much straight away, and told she had alledged this and that was the reason for arresting me.
Anyway, i spent the next 2 hours in the cells, waiting for a solicitor and was then questioned at great length. I was released and then spent from Jan 2010 to April 2011 on bail. My life went from enjoyable and generally happy to a pit of despair of which i eventually got put on antidepressants and sleeping tablets as it finally got too much for me to deal with.
As for work, they suspended me as soon as the cps decided they were going to prosecute (think its down to the law saying they had to due to the nature of the allegation from what i understand) and for 3 months, i was at home, slowly going mental. I was then told in November 2010, that the company would not continue paying me to stay at home and that unless i took a job as a cleaner at work (sweeping the floors, cleaning the toilets) etc, after 5 years driving for them, then they would terminate my employment. This ended up making me more and more depressed.
The trial finally came about in April 2011 (would have been sooner but her legal team didnt supply the written transcript of ex's video statement until just before the trial) and the evidence was soley based upon her saying she had bruises, of which her and her 2 witness could not agree upon how many and what they were like and where they were. My ex herself, gave 3 very spurious statements of the 'supposed event' including the initial video statement.
Now, my ex has a very dodgy sexual history (indeed, 2 of her ex partners were willing to stand as my witnesses to explain what she was like with them) and according to the law, her sexual past is not allowed to be bought up as it might make her look bad but (had i had any) mine was allowed to be disected for everyone.
The trial lasted 4 days and i nearly broke down on numerous occasions. Had it not been for my sister who stood by me (along with all my friends and family but my sis specifically) i would have probably admitted it just to end everything.
The main gripe is when i was found not guilty (unanimous) even the judge said (who had been getting visually angry that he had to listen to her lies and watch her theatrics) he believed the jury had reached the correct decision, she managed to walk out (i say that, she only turned up for the first two days) scot free.
My friends and family cannot understand this and everyone has said i should take some action to ensure she does not get away with the lies she spread and the pain she caused me for nearly 18 months.
I am not in this for mass amounts of compensation, indeed, i would be happy to see the British Justice system work and prosecute the right person and walk away knowing she has not got away with it hence my post in here. I have all the original paperwork and statements (except hers obviously) and my current partner who has stood by me through all of this, feels i should do this for the genuine rape victims of whom my ex has stolen the courage to report a genuine rape.
Once again, i apologise for the first post but would appreciate it if anyone could give me a direction to move in.
Many thanks
Rob
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