need advice please on false allegation

[Saffron]

I agree with Amre and Tarzan.
As someone whose husband had a "dalliance" and found himself in your situation, I can categorically state that I was more p1ssed off with him for not telling me. He kept it a secret for 3 months. Yes I wasn't happy about the infidelity, but at the end of the day the injustice of what was happening far outweighed that.
And actually, it brought us closer and ultimately made us stronger.
Food for thought I hope.

[LFC6198]

its my 3rd tour now billy, im worried that when i get rebaild they wont let me deploy. Im going to wait till my bail runs out see what is said before i think of tellin my wife. the police dont have my phone number or address for germany so im confident they wont be turning up on the doorstep to tell my wife. I will never cheat again cant belive this has happened im so stupid. Im not sure my wife will be as understanding as you saffron. I would like to thank you all for the advise you are giving me it is really helpfull my head is like a pressure cooker at moment trying to consentrate on my job and be the family man. its good to see there is good folk willin to help people thanks..

[LFC6198]

been to the police today i have been rebailed till i get back from my tour. they havent told me anything just that it is still ongoing they was waiting for my facebook report to come back and all the evidance is going to a specialist loyar or something to be looked at and that they decide if there is a case to go to court. Now i have to concentrate on my job and bring me and all 14 lads in my care home safe...

[billykickass]

Mate that is totally shocking!! So you have to go on tour with that over your head iam seriously thinking that this country is not worth fighting for. I guess the only thing you can try to do is not think about it and concentrate on the big wedge of cash that you will come back with and the knowledge that if anything does happen to you or any of your blokes some of the blood will be on her hands!!! Im gutted for you mate. But still i spose its better than being charged. Ill keep you posted on my situation.

[largactyl1]

Hi there, would having all this false allegation s**t hanging over you compromise your thoughts at all when you are on active service, or will concentrating on keeping you and the other troops safe help you to stop brooding on it?

I really think that you should tell your Mrs. I would be livid if this was kept from me - but I guess you know her best. She may turn out to be really supportive, afterall she probably knows you better than anyone and would know you would not rape anyone.

Just my opinion

Kind Regards
Jen

[billykickass]

Hi mate just found out ive been re bailed till dec im pretty gutted too. Guess you must be off on tour soon.

[LFC6198]

sorry had no internet well thats me packed and in a matter of hours on my way hopefully the nfa will come wilst im on tour still not been told out. my uncle says she still walks about town like nothing happened makes me sick to think about it but for the next 7 months all that will be on my mind is my job good luck to all those in the same situation....SWIFT AND BOLD...............

[RFLH]

I hope it comes through for you too - keep safe.

[billykickass]

Have a good and safe tour mate.

[billykickass]

Congrats on your promotion too.

[Saffron]

Have a safe tour. I hope you get the news you are looking for soon.

[billykickass]

Hey buddy. Just a quick note hope your tours going ok. If you get a chance just drop a line on here so everyone knows your ok. Ill be back out there myself next month (providing all goes ok with the obvious) so we may cross paths at some point.

[LFC6198]

alright mate was just thinkin about you to see how things was. im doing ok tour is hard winter is not quiet at all we been gettin smashed most days. Had a mate killed in the first couple of weeks gutted and also lost 1 from our battalion so wasnt a good start. Im still waitin for a letter or something from the police not been told a thing. hows yours going hope its ok. a friend of my uncle over hurd her in the pub sayin if it goes no where she is going to try get me on a no win no fee basically i think she is after money and she will know im saving loads here. where you going when you get here without givin much away im in mortar platoon pb1 if your out that way. thanks for remembering me let me know how your gettin on internet bit **** will try read your thread.....SWIFT AND BOLD

[LFC6198]

Just been readin yours billykickass did you get charged cause i feel like mine is going no where and even though you still dont know the outcome you seem to have made more progress. the police have not said a word will they see out my 7 months bail before they do anything. Im glad the friend i told is here with me or i might of gone out of my mind by now my poor mum has been put on anti depresents. when i went for my bail the officer who was there told me he might be takin over the case as the officer who interviewd me is leaving so that will be the 3rd officer is this normal. They told me the paper work had been sent off to whoever it is who dicides if it should go to court but that was in october/november time i hope it ends soon. anyone got any advice for me please..

[Mortons]

The length of time on bail is not an indication of the way the case is going.
I've seen these rape cases go on for as long as 18months before the person got charged.

The Police never usually provide you or your Solicitor much of an update as to how the case is going.

In terms of police bail and trying to save wasted trips to the police station only to be given a notification of being rebailed. A couple of days before you are due back speak to your solicitor to 'remind' them to chase the Officer in the Case to see what the likely outcome will be. If you will be rebailed then get them to request they send the notice out in the post.
Whilst most clients in your situation want the case to be concluded they release by the 5th to the 10th bail back what a waste of time it is.

In terms of bail conditions your solicitor will be able to apply to have them relaxed. Firstly to the custody sergeant if they disagree, to apply to court themselves. There is next to zero chance of them removing non-contact conditions or not to go to her address.

But if the police have imposed restrictive conditions like signing on at police stations or curfews then those ARE likely to be successful. Remember for the moment you not convicted on any offence and as such lengthy use of restrictive bail conditions (apart from non-contact, not to goto an address) can be an abuse of process as they interfere with your human rights.