Please help son falsely accused of rape

[goldfish]

It is a horrible time waiting to find out what is happening but unfortunatly it can take some time. Trying to keep things as normal as possible and giving your son as much support as possible is the best advice.
We had no understanding of the Scottish criminal system until my husband was charged so spent alot of time trying to find out information. www.crownoffice.gov.uk is a good start which explains how the Procurator fiscal works.
If your son is charged he will have to appear at a local sherriff court on petition where bail conditions will be set then.
Even though it was very difficult at times I found it helpful to talk to my husband getting as much information as possible about the incident and writing it down while things were still fresh in my husbands mind. Also all the information we knew about his accuser. We then handed this to the solicitor which proved to be invaluable as his case progressed.
Try to stay positive. How is your son? Is he managing to go out and return to work?

[distressedmum]

heartsick

Hi goldfish
My son returned to work this morning so I don`t know how things will go. I have tried to reassure him as much as possible. I just wish I could reassure myself. I am so scared. I try to stay positive for him but when I m on my own I go to pieces.
He s not been charged as yet but I don`t know when a decision will be made by the procurator fiscal. I keep trying to tell myself the police would not have released him if they really thought he committed this terrible crime but as we ve had no dealings with police before I just don`t know.

[goldfish]

Hi Distressedmum

I hope your son got on ok at work. We had the same worries and fears as you so can understand how you must both be feeling. The waiting and not knowing what is going to happen is hard to deal with but things do get a bit easier once you get over the initial shock. Thinking of you.

[dontpanic]

Keep your strength up

Hi Distressedmum,

A few years ago I imagine that what you were going through is the exact same pain my mother went through.

I too was falsely accused, like your son, and I still feel pain about the whole experience. My case never reached court, but, like in your case, it was the wait and the anxiety that hurt the most. Not knowing what was happening drained me on most days and it also affected other members of my family, worst of all my elderly grandparents.

You need to be there for one another and eventually it will pass. But be prepared for a long and unnecessary wait, it took a year for my case to be eventually thrown out. It turned out that they can leave it open for a year to wait for fresh evidence, but if nothing turns up it can be a frustrating year.

My advice for your son would be to get back into his normal routine, if he can. Unfortunately, for myself, I was thrown out of my course which I was studying and this affected me the most. It completely changed my life, but looking back on it now it has shaped me into the young man I am today. It has made me more aware of how vindictive and evil some people are and for showing me that experience I am grateful.

Just keep in touch with the Procurator Fiscal and keep visiting their offices asking to speak with someone.

If you, or your son needs anyone to talk to then I am here, and I hope that good news reaches you much faster than it took to reach me.

[distressedmum]

Not guilty

Hi goldfish
My son returned to work this morning so I don`t know how things will go. I have tried to reassure him as much as possible. I just wish I could reassure myself. I am so scared. I try to stay positive for him but when I m on my own I go to pieces.
He s not been charged as yet but I don`t know when a decision will be made by the procurator fiscal. I keep trying to tell myself the police would not have released him if they really thought he committed this terrible crime but as we ve had no dealings with police before I just don`t know.

Two years later not guilty verdict after 4 days of the horror of a court room. This has been the most horrendous nightmare of our lifes.
I would like to thank everyone for their support and encouragement through the worst 2 years of my life.
Although I have not posted for sometime I have regularly visited the site and gained a great deal of comfort from people.
I would like to thank you all for helping me through this and hope I can offer my support to others who find themselves in this horrendous situation.
Never give up fight for your rights and hopefully as in our case justice is done.

[Casehardened]

Thank you for your kind words regarding the forum and members and thank you for returning to let us know of the NG verdict, this will give much encouragement to those who are still facing this ordeal.

I sense that you are completely drained from the fight (and your emotions will be all over the place for a long while) so am just going to offer you one symbolic banana

[Saffron]

I'm so pleased to hear this good news. As CH said, it gives a huge amount of positive hope to other members, so thank you for sharing.
I too sense your emotional exhaustion, so just the one banana from me as well:

[lonley place]

Good news, congrats LP

[RFLH]

I'm more than pleased to read this and thank you for letting us know.

May I suggest that you now make a new start and walk away from this site - its served its purpose and you must look forwards now.

[Psychojock]

Excellent news!!!

I second RFLH's advice. Walk away, rebuild and forget at as best as you can. That is what I will have to do, I'm not sure quite how right now though!!

Have a few bananas on me!!



Kind Regards
Psychojock

[Rights Fighter]

Wonderful news and having just read this thread I see you were very well supported by folk in Scotland who knew what they were talking about.

[friday]

Fantastic news!

[Boys don't cry]

It's always a pleasure to read another member is joining the NG club

All the best for your son's future and you can be a proud mum for supporting him.

[whatsgoingon?]

Wonderful news - well done for supporting him through this - I know just how hard it can be having been in your position. Thank God the worst is over!

:banana

All the best.

[myhome]

Excellent news