URGENT!i had sex with my friend's wife, he ask me to give 5000 pounds or report to police for a rape

[weststar]

last night me and my friend and his wife had a dinner and drink in his flat after the drink we all quite drunk they sleep on bed i sleep on sofa next to it and his wife start tempt me put her foot on my face .....then she move on the floor and we had sex while my friend asleep, during the sex we all very clear and had conversation and then my friend wake up slap her and i start talk to my friend to forgive us and he let me to leave. later on he ring me to give him 5000 pounds or go to police to report a rape. clearly i don't have that much money and he decided to report to police he recorded the conversation we had after he find out that i blamed myself to protect he will not slap her again.
please help what should i do?

[largactyl1]

I don't know what others would say about this but as you are being blackmailed, and blackmail is a crime I personally feel you have to report this to the police asap. It sounds like a put up job to be honest - how is the husband going to be a witness and yet have done nothing to protect his wife? How convenient that it all worked out like this. Others who are more experienced than me might say different. However, with blackmail, when will it stop - they could keep this up forever, and if you pay once it makes it look like you feel bad about it. I say report asap.
Best wishes
Jen

[LS]

Report it to police.
Find new friends - single ones, so you don't get tempted.
Better still, keep it zipped up.

[weststar]

Thanks for you help guys since I reject to pay him 5k I haven't heard anything yet if I report it to police does the police will ask him name address ect.. Becouse I don't want get this really big and his wife said nothing yet that In moral view I was wrong. He called me twice about the money and can police trace back our conversation through the mobile?

[Rights Fighter]

You do not have evidence that you are being blackmailed do you? If you report this to the police they will then investigate the alleged rape.

If his wife agrees that this was rape and he says that he woke up to hear the conversation and that you said it was "your fault" in order to prevent any physical abuse on his wife, you will not have a leg to stand on.

I would not go near the police with this as you have no evidence. They will assume you believe you will be reported for rape and this is your "excuse".

[largactyl1]

Hi Weststar, make sure you follow Rightsfighter's advice as she knows what she's talking about whereas I don't
Regards
Jen

[weststar]

ok i got it, thanks for the advice Rights fighter. i don't have the edvience. the conversation we had was by mobile. so do i have to just wait until police arrest me and i talk about he blackmailed me ?

do the police will investigate the blackmail case? and will it be the edvience for false rape?

so far i haven't heard anything either from the police or my friend.

my friend don't know new address i moved few month ago do the police will call my mobile?

and what should i to prepare?

kind regards

[Rights Fighter]

It could be hot air he's spouting and he or she may never go to the police. I know it is easy for me to say I know, but try to get on with life and see what, if anything happens.

If he does come back to you, call his bluff and tell him that you recorded his conversation on the phone and if he doesn't go away you will have him done for blackmail. He won't know if you are telling the truth or not.

Please, please be careful how you conduct yourself in the future. Too many promiscuous men come on here saying they've been falsely accused of rape when they've had one night stands or whatever. It really is not worth the risk of many factors: STDs, losing self respect; risk of false allegations.......

[Rights Fighter]

**** man if I was you i would go with a lawyer and sit with the police in charge an go cry to the policeman in charge and explain (with the lawyer) how you both had consensual sex (even though what you did was very very very stupid I can imagine what her husband is feeling ) and beg the policeman whilst crying to see how this happened but again what you did is very stupid but i understand what has happened and you DON'T DESERVE TO BE THE VICTIM OF A FALSE RAPE ACCUSATION and the ***** wife will happily say you raped her because she would never do such a thing and god i feel sorry for you because the police love this **** good luck may prayers save you from what im going through

This is what false accusers do - cry to the policeman........

[RFLH]

this thread is over 15 months old - I think we'd have heard one way or the other by now.

[RFLH]

I think seeing a doctor is a good idea, they can offer all kinds of help.

Take care and hope you post again soon, when you feel up to it.

[Boys don't cry]

Weststar:
Obviously your friend is not in a rush to collect his 5000£.
It was true:Slapping his wife +blackmailing was also not really clever but next time you got him
on the phone ;use the loudspeaker and make sure you bought yourself a voice recorder, just press the red button.
Or ,ask him if he would accept a standing order of 10£ a month (which you could afford).
Then in a bit more than 41 years and a half he could have his money.
Best of luck for the future.