Oldjoe,
I have just read through the whole of this thread and I can completely empathise with your situation. I received a phonecall at work on wednesday this week saying I had to leave and go immediately to the police station. As you can imagine, I was so scared and I still am. When I got there I was formally arrested on suspicion of rape of a girl I had met and slept with on the preceding friday.
Similarly to your case, I have no doubt that it was completely consensual and she had been all over me at the bar we were at beforehand. However, I am told she has no memory of the night and so the police are also investigating date-rape.
I am so distraught by these allegations, especially as everything seemed so normal during the night and the morning after. We even talked in the morning about seeing each other again. So I am dumbfounded as to why she is pressing ahead with this and I only hope she knows the pain and distress she is putting me through.
I am also always thinking about the worst but my friends who were out with me that night (who are now being interviewed), parents and my manager at work who I have told are being very supportive which has helped greatly.
Like you, I am also a young man, at 21 and just out of university, starting my first job and I am **** scared that this is going to ruin my life. Wednesday was by far the worst day of my life... I can hardly explain the crushing horror and fear. And it didn't help that I was in the police station for over 6 hours because it was so busy, being called 'prisoner' and having to sit in a cell for over half an hour.
Reading this thread has helped me a lot. I can see how strong you have been to tell your parents and seek help. Please do not give up. I went to work the day after I was arrested (yesterday) and, though I felt horrible inside, it actually helped to take my mind off it as I could push it away by doing other things and try to be normal. Having said that, I am taking today and Monday off to try to sort myself out.
I've also been encouraged by everybody else posting in this thread, how supportive everyone's been and its reassuring to know that I'm not alone in having these kinds of allegations made against me. I know the comments apply to you and your case, but they have also been a lifeline for me - so thank you all so much.
Keep us posted on how you are getting on,
Wednesday
I have just read through the whole of this thread and I can completely empathise with your situation. I received a phonecall at work on wednesday this week saying I had to leave and go immediately to the police station. As you can imagine, I was so scared and I still am. When I got there I was formally arrested on suspicion of rape of a girl I had met and slept with on the preceding friday.
Similarly to your case, I have no doubt that it was completely consensual and she had been all over me at the bar we were at beforehand. However, I am told she has no memory of the night and so the police are also investigating date-rape.
I am so distraught by these allegations, especially as everything seemed so normal during the night and the morning after. We even talked in the morning about seeing each other again. So I am dumbfounded as to why she is pressing ahead with this and I only hope she knows the pain and distress she is putting me through.
I am also always thinking about the worst but my friends who were out with me that night (who are now being interviewed), parents and my manager at work who I have told are being very supportive which has helped greatly.
Like you, I am also a young man, at 21 and just out of university, starting my first job and I am **** scared that this is going to ruin my life. Wednesday was by far the worst day of my life... I can hardly explain the crushing horror and fear. And it didn't help that I was in the police station for over 6 hours because it was so busy, being called 'prisoner' and having to sit in a cell for over half an hour.
Reading this thread has helped me a lot. I can see how strong you have been to tell your parents and seek help. Please do not give up. I went to work the day after I was arrested (yesterday) and, though I felt horrible inside, it actually helped to take my mind off it as I could push it away by doing other things and try to be normal. Having said that, I am taking today and Monday off to try to sort myself out.
I've also been encouraged by everybody else posting in this thread, how supportive everyone's been and its reassuring to know that I'm not alone in having these kinds of allegations made against me. I know the comments apply to you and your case, but they have also been a lifeline for me - so thank you all so much.
Keep us posted on how you are getting on,
Wednesday
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