Help me! Falsely Accused of Rape!

[Darktimes]

yea i agree with the above dont do anything silly right now u feel terrible but your letting her win!

the hardest part is the waiting! your elft alone scared and feeling emotional and physically drained while she gets to carry on with her life.

Writing down the events really helped me out Oldjoe, my case hasn't yet been NFA'd but from what the police said they dont believe her. and i was interviewed and released no bail no charges. i was also walked in through the front door these words really helped me from the police if i was a rapist they said they would of handcuffed me and put me in the cell then interviewed me.

I hope these words are of some reassurance for you mate i know what your feeling i'd advise trying to go for a walk i know it wont take your mind of things but it myt just distract it long enough to give you that little bit of an emotional break

Stay strong mate

[OldJoe]

Just had a phone call from my friends, they have been to their house and questioned them, feeling a lot more confident with the way things are going now, and definitely feeling a lot more happy. Hopefully the holes in her story will show!

[Shatteredhusband]

Oldjoe, glad you are feeling a bit better. Just think how far things have come on since Sunday.

[OldJoe]

Yes, my friends have told me exactly what they have said to the police, (not that I have anything hide, I just wanted a little reassurance of whats happening) and its looking pretty good.

[OldJoe]

Still feeling pretty wank.

[witsend]

oldjoe, that's better!!! I truly think you need to see a GP, or if you feel genuinely suicidal present yourself to the nearest A&E they will have someone there to help you at that this time of crisis. If you can find the strength to go out and get your Haribo's do that, just 5 mins of fresh air will be good for you. As somebody else rightly said you WILL get to a stage where you DO think NO! she's not going to do this to me. Also write down anything you remember before you go for your second interview. One thing that may give you a little bit more hope...our son was falsely accussed just over a twelve month ago and he went through the same emotions as you, the only difference being he has a form of autism. Slowly, with a lot of support, he is rebuilding his shattered life. NEVER give up, you are in my prayers

[OldJoe]

Thank you so much for all your help.
feeling a little better today and I am slowly getting to that point of "NO! SHE WILL NOT WIN THIS, SHE WILL NOT RUIN MY LIFE!" I'm going out soon to get some smokes and stuff. Hopefully give me time to clear my head a little.

[OldJoe]

I really don't think the A and E can help me.

[witsend]

Was just a suggestion, sorry if I offended. Don't forget your haribos!!!!!!

[Shatteredhusband]

Oldjoe, glad you are getting a bit of fighting spirit. Determined that she will not ruin your life. As I said this is the next phase after all of that despair we all initially feel.

I will warn you you will yo yo between determination and despair for the next week or two but you have got to make sure that each time it gets you down, you remind yourself that you will not let her win.

When you are drifting back to to feeling down. Go back and look at your list of positives. You should be able to add to the list as time goes by. Your talk with your friends seemed to lift you, put what they said on your positive list.

One word of caution, you have to watch what you say to the friends whom the police have interviewed. If anyone thinks that you are trying to get them to lie to support your version, the police could accuse you of witness intimidation. I am sure that this is unlikely but might be best if you have minimal contact with them at least until you see the police again for another interview. If you ask they will probably give you an idea how best to handle talking with your friends.

Anyway things do seem to be moving in the right direction.

[OldJoe]

No you didn't offend me at all, I just don't see how A and E could help.
I know, I am keeping talking to them at a minimum. Just waiting by the phone now waiting for the next thing to come.

[OldJoe]

Please everyone pray for a NFA phone call to come as soon as possible! x

[Shatteredhusband]

An NFA could come through any time, but having read a lot of people's stories, it is still likely to take several weeks. The police will need to do a full investigation and unfortunately that takes time. If they NFA'd too quickly they might be criticized for not being thorough enough.

What you have written sounds positive, so it's just a matter of focusing on the positives whilst you wait. Frustrating I know but you are a lot further on over the last forty eight hours.

Did you get out?

[Shatteredhusband]

Also try reading some of the other posts on the forum. May help, especially with the second interview.

[OldJoe]

Yeah I nipped upto the shop to get some smokes. Just eating a jacket potato.