brother falesly accused

[ali]

Hi there, im new to this forum, and urgently need some help.

My brother has been falsely accused of rape, there was no evidence at all, no forensics ect, and the alleged victim couldnt even remember what day it had happened!

My brother is in bits, as are the rest of us, although im having to be strong for him, and the rest of the family.

Can anybody PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell me if there's anywhere i can go for help for him, or even what kind of help i can get for him. My brother suffered from depression before this, and i'm really concerned that this is going to push him right over the top.

Thanks for your time

Ali

[Saffron]

Hi Ali

first of all it is great to hear that your brother has such a wonderful support network. Your continued love will be invaluable to him.

Has your brother actually been charged? He needs to get himself a seriously good solicitor - make sure it is one that specialises in sexual offences, and do your research thoroughly. Never accept a solicitor on the basis of a quick phone call. Question them and push them to explain everything they do to you.

If your brother is struggling to cope, get him to his GP as soon as possible. the GP will be able to refer him to a counsellor, or recommend relaxation techniques.

Contact FASO the False Allegations Support Organisation on 0870 241 6650. They are very supportive of people who have been falsely accused.

Whatever you do, never post details of the case on an open forum (not even this one) as it may have a bearing on the legal case.

And finally, make sure you look after yourself. Constantly being the "strong one" and propping up other people and helping them to cope is mentally and physically exhausting. Watching someone you love going through such pain and injustice is exceptionally tough.

Good luck. I really hope this all goes well for you.

Saffron

[val lavender]

Hi Ali

theres not much I can add to what Saffron said, most of the ground is pretty well covered there.

May I just wish you well in your time of crisis, Im sure that everyone here will try and help if they can.


Regards

Val

[maria]

hi ali all i can say is your brother will need every ounce of support you and your family and friends can muster up its not easy staying strong and trying to go about everyday life with this hanging over you but please try, i also want to add please please watch him closely if he is already depressed he may need help from a doctor, this sort of accusation can send people over the top get as much help for him that you can and as much support and evidence as you can good luck please keep us informed as to how you all our maria x

[Towermouse]

Contact FASO. You may have trouble getting through but persevere. The times of their helpline are on their web site False Allegations Support Org. or F.A.S.O.typed in Google will find it.

Good luck

[ali]

Hi Everyone,

Just thought i'd update where my brothers up to!

We had a phone call from the police yesterday, they're dropping the charges against my brother! They had the DNA results back a few weeks ago, and there wasn't any DNA, so the CPS have dropped charges.

It's actually left me feeling really angry, especially in view of how the police woman spoke to me - apparently my brother should "be thankful that he got away with it, and draw a line under it". we were advised NOT to press charges against the girls step father who beat my brother up and made death threats to him.

When i suggested pressing charges against the woman for attempting to pervery the course of justice i was told that "i'd been watching too much of the bill"

Still, i'm not giving up without a fight, 1st thing in the morning i'm on to the initial solicitor who was present at my brothers interview, then after that i intend for the battle to commence. I intend to fight for justice for my brother!

I'll keep you all updated.

Ali

[maria]

ho ali good luck with your fight i realy hope you win its disgusting that this girl has /or will get away with this, this sort of accusation keeps on happening and it has to stop keep us up dated with your progress x

[karen]

My brother has also been falsely accused but unfortunately it is going to trial (consensual sex took place so there was DNA evidence). I am so angry about what has happened to your family especially regarding the police comments.

Why do people automatically believe these type of accusations, what happened to innocent until proven guilty? I may sound cold and unsympathetic towards those who make rape accusations, I have every sympathy for genuine victims of rape and understand the trauma of reporting a rape (I myself am a survivor) but false accusations undermine the genuine cases and cause great suffering for those who are falsely accused.

The difference between a rape victim and the victim of a false accusation is the way it is handled by the police, press etc. Whilst the alleged victim of rape seems to automatically receive a softly softly approach and receives sympathy and understanding from all and sundry , the victim of a false accusation is looked on with scorn, their name dragged through the mud and they are automatically branded as a rapist - either as a convicted rapist or one "who got away with it".

I know that this is a minefield and that the report of a rape is traumatic and therefore requires a level of emotional and professional support but surely someone who has been accused of a sexual crime should be entitled to the same treatment until they are proven guilty. There should most definitely be some sort of redress against false accusers or have I been watching too much TV as well.....!

[Saffron]

Karen, I think you are in a unique situation, having suffered both the trauma of a rape, and the horror of a false accusation against a loved one.

Women who make false accusations are genuinely twisted in the head, sick and repugnant individuals. Men who rape women are vile, evil beasts. Both crimes are despicable.

There is an odd similarity between survivors and those falsely accused - those falsely accused are now in the same situation as rape victims were 30-odd years ago. No-one believes them, has any sympathy for them, and they become reviled outcasts with no hope of redress. Fortunately the law has changed to make it easier for people to report a rape. But this now means that it is easier than ever before to make a false allegation. And because of the nature and strength of public opinion, an accused individual has to prove their innocence rahter than the prosecution proving their guilt.

I can't write any more as it makes my blood boil, and I have taken large steps toward controlling my fury and despair, and if I carry on I will be back at square one.

[ali]

Hi Everyone,

Just an update, still getting absolutely nowhere!

Have contacted the ICPA today to see if they can help. And have made an appointment to see my MP on Thursday - I don't intend to give up or give in until i get justice for my brother.

The police havent even pressed charges against the girls step father who viciously assaulted my brother and made death threats, we've basically been told to shut up and go away! Even though my brother barricades himself into his flat at night and is scared to leave his flat or even answer his phone!

I WILL keep you all updated as and when i have any news.

Ali XXXX

[sue1947]

Hello Ali,

My name is sue, my son was falsely accused of attempted rape, he was sent to prison for it i am still battling for him.

If u find u r not getting any where try H.A.A.P (Historical Abuse Appeals Panel) there solicitors may be able to help u its Jordans Solicitors tel. no. 01302365374, they r dealing with my sons appeal.

If they cannot help u they will give u help on how to go about it.

Dont give up any of u, and the comment we all watch too much tv is rubbish, their problem is they dont want too much paperwork when u complain, and i would not let the girl get away with what she put ur brother through.

Good luck

Regards

Sue.

[mol12]

hi ali
18 years ago i was falesly accused by two girls of rape,and recived five years, i wont go into the story,
when i came out there was nothing like this around for help ,so i got on with life, totaly avoiding women,
then i met ten years ago my now wife, i explained to her about my past, she was married but living apart due to domestic violence, of the most eviel type,i wont go into that,as you can see we are on the boath sides of the coin as you would say,
It was only due the the eviel mind of a control freek&#33; my wifes ex, that we are now going through all of our past again ,with the social services,(SS) and boy do they know how to tell porkies,they are backing him because of my "conviction" as they put it ,nearly three years on, i have put my case to HAAP and waiting ,all i can do as it was so long ago, you keep fighting, dont give up as i did so long ago,as you can not get on with life society,(and the SS )wont let you [img]style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif[/img]
Good Luck